Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
First of all, I'd like to say that I caused my own boyfriend quite a lot of angst when I found out he watched internet P*rnography .
I originally didn't have a problem with it until he reacted to an on-screen girl in such a way, when we were viewing it together in bed on his iPhone. "Oh my God," he said in awe at this gigantic ass getting laid out before his eyes. It was then that something very obvious clicked over in my own mind. "Hold up, he's actually getting off on another girl." (Well, duh.) "What if he wants my ass to be that big?" I thought. "What if he's not sexually satisfied with me? What if he wants me to look like that, or perform like that in bed?"
Essentially, this simple little reaction gave me quite the complex, and it actually turned me off him for a while. I wondered if he thought about those p*rn stars when he was making love to me... and that killed me. Suddenly I didn't feel so special to him anymore. Why should I, when another girl could easily turn him on just the same, and she didn't even have to be in the room? That's MY job. More importantly, why should I finish something I didn't start?
I made such a fuss about it, these days the poor guy is too scared to look at a sex scene on TV without worrying he'll upset me. He almost runs up a gutter and causes at ten car pile up just trying to avoid looking at another girl on the street while he's driving. Am I so much of a Dragon-Lady that I can strike that much fear in him? He has stopped watching p*rn since, (believe me, I would know if he was still watching) and I kind of feel bad now that I understand the male brain and its need to fill a sexual desire. I'm trying to force him to watch it now, but he refuses. No doubt because he doesn't want to hurt me.
Yes, I have a good man.
But that's not what I'm writing about. I just wanted to slip that in, so that if there's any men out there with a woman who gets cranky when he watches p*rn , I want them to know it's not just because she's being a bitch. She's genuinely hurt, guys. She's questioning herself, she's losing self confidence and it makes her feel like crap. You need to talk to her and explain why you watch, and that you really don't prefer the naked girl on screen to her.
What's prompted me to write this is something I've noticed while talking to guys before I met my boyfriend and scrolling through internet forums;
*Young men really don't know how to please a woman sexually.*
They have no idea, and it's all because of p*rn .
The very first time I had sex with my boyfriend, all I could think was, "Oh my God, this guy watches too much p*rn ." We can tell. Us women know by the way you hold us during sex, what you say, what you do. I had to explain to him that p*rn is not real. He said he wasn't an idiot and he knew that. But obviously, he didn't.
Real women are not paid actresses. We don't like to be smashed. Most of the time, an orgasm through penetration alone is a hard thing to achieve. Real women get tired. Real sex involves weird sounds, painful cramps and embarrassing moments. BY GOD you've got to invest time in foreplay, be that foreplay just 15 minutes of hooking up. You need to get your woman wet, or it's no going o work. Anal? You need a shit load of lube for that. If you want a p*rn star reaction, you'd better be a God in bed or ask us to fake the whole thing which would kind of take the fun out of it, don't you think? Not all of us scream like we're being murdered. Women hate it when you ask, "Did you cum?" You should know when we cum, man! We squirm, we make weird faces, we tense up. A lot of you actually think it's a normal thing to 'Squirt'?
Of course you know that the girl may be made of plastic, and that she's faking it. You may know p*rn is fake. But, you seem to gather missconeptions about certain things that women appreciate durig sex, that is completely and 100% fake.
What I'm trying to say is that p*rn is probably the worst way to learn about women and sex. Ever. You can have a lot more fun learning by actually taking time with a girl. Asking her what she likes and telling her what you like. We like to be touched, rubbed, caressed. Then maybe if you warm a girl up enough, she'll be willing to get as rouch and dirty with you as what you see on screen. Maybe. Maybe if that's what she likes.
What Girls & Guys Said
8 18No more romantic novels for you. You could be comparing me to those men and generating unrealistic expectations. If I'm mean to you it's not cause I'm a dick its because I'm genuinely hurt you'd think about anyone but me.
I wouldn't mind if my bf watched Hentai/Anime p*rn . I love it to death.
My boyfriend hates p*rn maybe that's why he's so good in bed haha. He says it's really forced and fake and disgusts him because it's almost "mechanical".
He also said that the male p*rn star will only timidly lick the girl for 30 seconds and call it oral, meanwhile he gets really into it and will stay down there for an hour or more (if I let him but it get's exhausting). Also you don't see the injuries people sustain in p*rn and you don't see the people who vomit from being forced to deep throat. You don't see the p*rn stars abusing drugs before a scene just to numb themselves because p*rn is getting more and ore violent. You don't see the people who were injured filming a scene but left the hospital before they healed just to shoot another scene because their manager threatened to drop them if they don't work immediate and they have to pay the rent. It's a very corrupt industry.
I loved this! I can relate so much to this, in fact it kicked off today with my boyfriend and I because I thought I didn't have a problem with it either. . Turns out I was wrong :/