Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I wanted to write this because I feel people expect their first time to be this wonderful, magical experience that they will look back on fondly for the rest of their life, only to be greatly disappointed after the experience. For some, this expectation may become a reality and it's certainly not impossible, but for the majority it doesn't always work out that way. Even if people reduce their expectations, I still find their expectations are still too high.
I don't want to put a dampener on the prospect of losing your virginity, it's still an overwhelming and exciting experience, but I wanted to share the realities of losing your virginity. This is also to show that making mistakes is part of the process, that we all do it and it can sometimes make it more fun! It may even help any qualms you may have about losing the big "V".
1. It won't be like in the movies
I'm sure people have told you that it won't be as romantic or as smooth as it's shown in the movies. The film industry want to appeal to viewers by fantasising one of the most important and highly anticipated times of many people's lives.
2. You will have trouble taking your clothes off
Like in the movies, the clothes tend to come off the other, pretty swiftly without much effort at all. In reality, you'll be tackling a lot of buttons, belts and tight tops unless you're both wearing loose clothing. You'll find this happens quite a lot, not just when you lose your virginity and it happens to us all so don't feel embarrassed!
3. You will probably do something wrong - and that's okay!
This might be your worst fear but it shouldn't be. We all make mistakes and that applies to the bedroom too. If you're both virgins, a mistake is likely to happen such as bumping heads (we've all done it) or breaking something around you but don't dwell on it. Sex rarely goes perfectly. Laugh it off and get back to business!
4. You might not climax
A large number of women find it difficult and near impossible to reach orgasm through penetration alone. Trying to reach climax through clitoral stimulation without the use of your hands takes some skill and can be just as difficult.
Some men may be too nervous or overwhelmed with excitement that they can't get it up or they can't focus on reaching climax.
It's not the end of the world if you don't reach orgasm your first time. You'll have plenty more chances to learn about what turns you on the most and what position is best for you.
5. It won't last long
The porn industry can be misleading in more ways than one. Men lasting a long time in the bedroom is one of those misconceptions. In reality, a man may last a couple of minutes up to about half an hour at most. Guys, you'll probably not last that long your first time because it takes time to learn how to delay climax.
6. You'll probably not stay with the person
Unless you waited until marriage to lose your virginity, people tend not to stay with the person they lose their virginity to. No matter how great the experience was and how much you felt your connection grow, losing your virginity to someone doesn't permanently tie you together and you're not immune from breaking up because you shared such an experience.
7. It may hurt
Ladies! Be prepared for pain. Women, more often than not, have a hymen. The hymen is a bit of thin skin that is found near the cervix and is attached to the vaginal walls. Not all women are born with one and it's common for women to unknowingly break their hymen when they're younger through rough activities and masturbation. Some women are born with a complete hymen, others have partial hymens. Having sex causes the hymen to break and that's what hurts and occasionally bleeds. If you have a complete hymen, sex will likely be painful for you and less painful if you have a partial hymen. If you have no hymen, it shouldn't hurt. Tell your partner to go slow and not to rush into anything. Don't be afraid to let them know you're experiencing pain. It's all about communication!
There's no real way to tell if you have your hymen intact and how much you have there, apart from going to the doctor and asking them to have a look for you.
There you go! Again, I don't want you to read this and now dread losing your virginity or interpret this myTake negatively. You should still look forward to losing your virginity, but don't go into the experience with high expectations otherwise you may be disappointed. If you have low expectations, you're more likely to be pleasantly surprised!
What Girls & Guys Said
28 32well u didn't mention a common thing that happen to men: they r so excited so they can't get it up... =\
" Some men may be too nervous or overwhelmed with excitement that they can't get it up or they can't focus on reaching climax."
Aha thank you @been_waiting
nope nope and nope i did not have trouble taking my clothes off, i am still with that guy and it hurts if you are not relaxing once i learned how to relax it worked and it didn't hurt it felt weird but it didn't hurt RELAX YOURSELF.
People have different experiences. Your one obviously was one of the nicest.
I know people have different experiences but this take doesn't apply to everyone which I'm getting the impression from this take.
I never said it applied to everyone. I clearly stated in the first paragraph that people have good experiences too.
then this take wouldn't have been here.
painful is the word
I agree!
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I lost mine when i was 15 in a car. It was definitely awkward and i lasted like 1.5 minutes. It took us like 5 minutes just to get each others clothes off. She had to help me take her bra off.
But i have had sex many times since and its not so hard anymore, but i last longer and its not as awkward, though still a little... and still very sweaty.
The wording makes me chuckle: "Losing virginity" , as if it's some thing you keep with you at all times and then one fine day someone comes along and takes it from you and throws it away like a piece of candy wrapper.
Having sex for the first time, though, is horrible, weird, magnificent and beautiful all at the same time. People work themselves up too much, because they get affected by outside stimuli such as pornography and stereotypes and bla bla bla bla bla.. it's just sex, enjoy it.
Well that is the term that is used by almost everyone. I agree.
Great take I love it my first time was a fail🙈 so embarrassing
I only took one girl's virginity... girls who aren't in touch with their sexuality annoy me because they act like i did something bad to them since they almost immediately doubt giving it away after having sex...
I'm waiting till im married. Too scared.
Lots of sinful implications surrounding sex. I don't want to go to hell.
You poor brainwashed thing.
Just wait till you experience the pleasures of sex. You wouldn't/couldn't go back
There's no hell. If there was a hell it would be full by now. No new guests accepted.
@Kris85 Haha, good one!
Well these are interesting thank you for sharing.
I regret mine because I did not really like her, I didn't really find her attractive, infact I almost never kissed her in the 10 months I lived with her. It was just the sex, unfortunately. :(
I had that with my first ONS. :(
I Didn't orgasm that first time and I don't think she did either.
A few years later my wife's first time (with me) was better.
As for number 6 'not staying together' , I met my wife in 1967, we had first sex in 1968 , married in 1971 . We're still very happy together.
But indeed, I never met that first ONS again.
I plan on saving my sex for marriage! '. Too scared.
Beautiful take,
We both were virgin but it was hard for her.
There was no one to guide properly.
Nice one.
I never had sex at all great insight on that
I'm glad this was helpful!
Thank u and I wish someone could teach me how to please a woman sexually
Learn from your future partner, not porn or the internet. Only she knows what she needs to be pleasured and what turns her on the most. Don't be afraid to discuss it. It'll show you care about her, sexually (if that make sense) as well as emotionally.
Thank u I hope we can be friends. Your nice person
Good take. Most of them are right..
the first time i had sex, we were both virgins and we took our time. we had sex for about two hours, she might not have climaxed, but i did. lol it was very nice.
You did not klick her pussy you monster :O
Blah... we should all be like you...
What?
in my opinion sex is a healthy and need! (but not make everyone!) ;)