Sexual Relationships 
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Reason 1: Because it's forever.
Let's face it. If I down down on my husband and he enjoys it which he of course will, what you think is going to happen? He'll ask it every time we decide to have sex for rest of our life until one of us eventually dies. It's not what I and most of women want. I usually want to try things, but only foe short period of time. However, with one night stand or for short term relation, I know it's only one time thing, once we're done with each other we don't have to see each other
Reason 2 : We really want that image of our self in mind of someone we truly love.
This might not make any sense to lot of guys but we really do want to have a slutty image for a long time. I do not want my husband to see me with cum all over my face, I really don't. Specially because we are going to be together forever and he's going to be father of my kids. I don't want him to think that he's giving birth to his kids with some slut.
Reason 3: Being a wife is lot more work than being a girlfriend.
As a wife, to take care of house, job, laundry, food and all the other important things in EXHAUSTING. There's no way no can have energy for sex after taking care of everything. But as a girlfriend, we don't have to do anything. Sex is literally the only way to pass time. And eventually the boredom of vanilla sex gets you to do whatever the crazy things we watch in movie.
Reason 4: To be honest, giving away sex to hubby is not really a good strategy
I know all you guys are going to disagree with me here but trust me. We know you better than you know yourself. And I see it all the time, I seems like only way to keep Mr. Hubby down to earth is to withdraw sex for few days and that's the only way to get things done. If I'll do every crazy thing with him, he'll eventually get bored of me and I'll loose all of my non existential mystery.
Reason 5: Most of my boyfriends never took permission.
This one might sound crazy or maybe borderline rape but it's not and I'm sure every guy can relate to it. Hubby cannot force himself on me, so that's one advantage woman have, and if he does he'll be in big trouble because no wife will let it go without telling each and every relative and friend about him. And it's a good thing. In that way husband and wife respect each other's space. But when it comes to ONS or short term boyfriend, they usually don't have consequences of forcing themselves on us, in a good way of course, And I personally used to love it. One of my boyfriend literally used to wake me up sometimes by slapping his dick on my face and no matter how annoyed I was or how angry it made me, I usually used to end up going down on him in shower right after a silly fight.
But for god's sake I cannot allow my husband the same freedom. I don't think any women would be stupid enough to sign for that thing. Imagine waking up every morning and first thing you see is a dick.
Reason 6: Husband's have duty to take care of his wife and respect her, but boyfriends don't.
That's it. Husbands are suppose to take responsibility, that's the reason I chose to marry. And boyfriends on other hand, they are just practice husbands. It's just a demo of married life with extra benefits.
Reason 7: Guys who are int one night stand and short terms take care of themselves.
It's not my fault. Most of husbands are just lazy and very low on energy. I literally think that he should be lucky I'm sleeping next to him. It's just impossible to be aroused by such a man. But ONS's are different, It's actually opposite. They are so big and intimidating they it's impossible tot say NO to them. Is it even possible to to say no to them? I don't think so. And like I previously said, this kind of guys don't usually ask, they just take it. All I can do is realized net morning that I've made a mistake.
That's it. I hope everyone will understand it and learn from it. Being a wife is totally different and mostly opposite than being a girlfriend.
What Girls & Guys Said
9 52I think when it comes to sex you have to pick a partner who wants the same things as you, you can't be vanilla while he's into bdsm (for example). If you're both into kinky sex with toys etc then he or you won't feel the need to search for it somewhere else
I disagree a lot with this and hasn't been my experience in my long term relationship. Make her feel okay and confident. I want my girl to be my saint and my slut. She should be comfortable and trust me with everthing. Especially in bdsm because that requires a ton of trust and if u know ur girl u know how to push her and what's to far and how to slowly push her father and father as she gets more comfortable. If ur not getting more comfortable and trusting as the relationship goes on ur doing something on. As the man she should know I think she beautiful even when I cum on her face lmao or else I'm doing something wrong
Since you are so clear about who you are and what kind of woman you want I am pretty sure you'll never end up with kind of woman I mentioned in my original post. Thanks for not misinterpreting my words.
Using sex as a tool/weapon next to finances is the second greatest contributor to divorce. If withdrawing sex worked, the divorce rate would not be at 54%. Regardless, I appreciate your candid pragmatism towards marriage. It reinvest me in preferring to remain unmarried. Remaining single and slinging seed like an old broken bird feeder truly is the way to go. Thanks for reminding me of this...
Don't let one females misconception of what a relationship or marriage should be, color you against all relationships or marriage. Not ALL females think, feel, act that way.. Nor treat their husbands that way... Please don't let some idiot women bias you against All women. 💜🙂
@Brainsbeforebeauty: Nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women. This is according to a 2015 research study conducted by the American Sociological Association (ASA) which suggests two-thirds of all divorces are initiated by women.
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I'll be more than happy to be the wrong one here but in reality more and more woman are turning against their husbands and that's a good thing.
No it's not a good thing... If you don't understand what a marriage should be... How bout just don't get married then.
@Brainsbeforebeauty God, its not about me. Just read the post again.
Yet you wrote why "you think" well that's wrong... And for a woman to put that out there, when there's already too many men blaming all women for the actions of a few. You can send links all you want... No woman I personally ever knew thought it behaved that way towards her husband. I can't speak for women of today's generation, well guess I can where my two daughters are concerned, who would never agree with any of this either.. And if it's not about you? You referenced "I" a lot which does sound like you meant "you"... People need to speak for themselves instead of acting like this is how women act, feel... I'm a woman, and I disagree with all of it, and I'm sure as hell that a lot of other women would feel, say the same... But thanks for helping paint women the way some sexist men do, cuz they'll jump on this like it's truth, when it's anything but for all our even most women...
@Brainsbeforebeauty "Yet you wrote why "you think" well that's wrong..." Yes I think but I'm not talking solely for myself. "And for a woman to put that out there, when there's already too many men blaming all women for the actions of a few." It's not few. It's majority. "You can send links all you want... No woman I personally ever knew thought it behaved that way towards her husband." How else can we know the truth if we will refuse to believe in statistics? You are saying you never saw anyone acting like this towards her husband. Why should I believe you if you straightly refuse to believe in studies I've presented. "I can't speak for women of today's generation, well guess I can where my two daughters are concerned, who would never agree with any of this either.." How do you you know your daughters would never agree with this? Even if they don't that's only two of them. " And if it's not about you? You referenced "I" a lot which does sound like you meant "you"... People need to speak for themselves instead of acting like this is how women act, feel..." For giving examples and talking about how I had a non pressurize relationship with my boyfriend I had to use "I". I'm not talking about how women act, My post is about why women act the way they act, I clearly mentioned and difference between been with boyfriend and been with husband" That's it. " I'm a woman, and I disagree with all of it, and I'm sure as hell that a lot of other women would feel, say the same... But thanks for helping paint women the way some sexist men do, cuz they'll jump on this like it's truth, when it's anything but for all our even most women..." No, There's nothing sexist about it. It's impossible to have same kind of relationship with husband that we have with our short term partners. I mentioned the reasons in post. We'll just happily disagree.
That's the only thing you have right there... And that's the problem... You need to be talking soley for yourself... Instead of for other females... And do you even know how studies statistics are gathered? I do cuz did it for years for a living, they are taken from a 'small' percentage of the population, but you keep putting stock in your statistics, while I go by real life... And when z You've been married 20 years maybe I'll listen to you then. But based on the views stated in this take, that's unlikely to happen
@Brainsbeforebeauty "But based on the views stated in this take, that's unlikely to happen" That's very rude but never mind. As I said, We'll happily disagree. We both are talking about different things. I'm talking solely about "Difference in sexual relationship with short term partners and long term partners" and you are talking about the entire marriage. And main reason I provided you divorce stats was to look at the reasons why women divorce their husband.
Again saying that to someone married 20 years who DID have sex with her husband because we enjoyed sex together, not for him to do things for me, he did those things just because he cared... Like a MARRIAGE is SUPPOSED to BE... you young people acting like you know so much about what makes a marriage work,... Okay, good luck with that 👍👍🙂
@Brainsbeforebeauty That's exactly what I am saying. You are just thinking of your own marriage. I am thinking for everyone in general. Now go and enjoy with your husband, unless he's ignoring you and you're looking to pass your time.
My husband passed away but thanks anyways... And no sweetie, I'm going By so the people I know married in REAL LIFE while you're what assuming to know 🤔 but nice try at the insult... 👍🙂🙂
@Brainsbeforebeauty "And no sweetie, I'm going By so the people I know married in REAL LIFE while you're what assuming to know" I'm not assuming , I already shared the stats. And I also already told you, you might know few people who are happily married but it's not majority.
Neither is a small data sample which is her point.
She never gave proof for that. she just said it.
Proof? Have you never taken sample data or a statistics class? Samples are usually about 3500 people and/or less. That is it. Larger samples would be vital statistics. Are you looking at vital statistics or just a batch sample?
You don't need to collect people and ask them who initiate the divorce. You just go and see the records. It's not a study, it's stats provided by officials.
Which sex initiates the divorce only gives you your answer of 70% by women. Where your initial post falls short is anywhere stated in the divorce that women, as you propose, withhold sex for whatever reasons they carry. Which is where you two got into your tit for tat. You gave your own ‘perspective’ in that area and that is where her and others took exception as your position comes from you alone. No where in those statistics was your position supported. Again, why her and others took exception. You are finding support in your position based upon data that only points to women being largely the ones who file for divorce. Where I have read many theories on this, not one correlated to your own assertion of being the reality. Frankly, your position felt purely of personal bias which is why my initial statement read as it did. Not for a moment did I take your words as a popular view of women. However, that you alone feel this way, well, there are likely others. Someone I know personally which is enough to tell me this ‘malignancy’ is spreading. Personally speaking and knowing that certain women like to use their sexuality to achieve a means and have it has been tried by me, I just say, “No”. After all, I know not all women share your values so I walk away from those women and with ease. I am not a pet...
"Which sex initiates the divorce only gives you your answer of 70% by women." It's not an answer I got, it's a fact " Where your initial post falls short is anywhere stated in the divorce that women, as you propose, withhold sex for whatever reasons they carry." Initial post had nothing to do with divorce, you just joined a on going argument in middle trying to connect one of my comment to original post "Which is where you two got into your tit for tat" No, I didn't ". You gave your own ‘perspective’ in that area and that is where her and others took exception as your position comes from you alone" I presented a stats, I din't made any claim to have a position Other and her can disagree with data, they have each and every right to "No where in those statistics was your position supported" What position did I even made. God, this is getting way to crazy "Again, why her and others took exception." They have right to. They know few people who are happily married and how many others are you even talking about? 50? 100? maximum 150? There aren't many. "You are finding support in your position based upon data that only points to women being largely the ones who file for divorce." That's not the main reason I shared it. Just a reminder again: Original post has nothing to do with divorce and entire marriage. Original post is just a difference that I think a woman experience between boyfriend ans hubby in regards to intimacy. only the reasons. In original post I didn't even claim any percentage of woman. I JUST MENTIONED THE REASONS. "Where I have read many theories on this, not one correlated to your own assertion of being the reality. Frankly, your position felt purely of personal bias which is why my initial statement read as it did." Again... Position? Personal bias? I just presented stats. How is that my personal bias? And what position? " Not for a moment did I take your words as a popular view of women." You don't have to. I never said you have to.
"However, that you alone feel this way, well, there are likely others" Where did I even talked about my feelings? Whats feels? I just gave the reasons why intimate relation with boyfriend and husband are different. I even started my post saying "the reason why I think..." I never said each and every one has to accept what I say and I definitely never said each and every woman does that.. "Someone I know personally which is enough to tell me this ‘malignancy’ is spreading." What? "Personally speaking and knowing that certain women like to use their sexuality to achieve a means and have it has been tried by me, I just say, “No”" Good, as you should. That's the beauty of not marrying. Saying no to such things is way more easier when with girlfriend. After all, I know not all women share your values so I walk away from those women and with ease. I am not a pet... Oh my god, again... What values? Just read the post, I just mentioned the reasons. I'm tired of typing thus same sentence over and over again. I din't even mentioned my values, what are you even assuming. And of course all women won't share same values or anything for that matter.
Well I will just say, what you just wrote about guys being, not all of us are that way.
Honestly, I WANT for the mother of my children to be a slut with me in bed, because if she wants it, I will definitely be her hoe husband! Lol
As for the wife taking care of the home, I feel that is both the husband and the wife's reaponsibility.
Why can't she and I clean it together? Why can't she and I wash the dishes together? Cook together?
I think you just gave a gross generalization of men there, so I had to push back a bit because I know I'm not the way you described.
I firmly believe that the husband AND the wife should keep themselves in great shape, physically, mentally, emotionally and all, for each other, even after the marriage vows.
I also belive I should treat my wife like she is my queen, the woman of the house, with respect and dignity (that doesn't mean we both can't be absolute animals together in bed).
So, I have to respectfully disagree.
Cheers🙂
You must think that we only want sex from you and nothing more.
Any guy that actually needs you to refuse sex to get down to earth first is not a good person period, second is not good on bed otherwise you wouldn't be able to do it.
Lol fail post is fail
Lol point 4 is a joke that's why most marriages end never manipulate with sex communicate.
Also point 6 funny practise husband's lol 😂🤣👌😅
"Lol point 4 is a joke that's why most marriages end never manipulate with sex communicate." Exactly, I tried to tell few people in comment that point 4 is exactly the reason why most divorce take place and why's that usually a woman who initiates it. But instead of understanding it and finding a solution to it all started blaming me as if I wrote the human nature with my own hands.
You realize that it's a two way street, right?
1. Of course a guy realizes it's forever too, so if they don't find a way to make forever fun with you, that's on both of you.
2. Guys don't want you to think of them as just asking for sex either. Though it depends on the guy, most want to be thought as manly, so they'll do what they do when they're with or not with you.
3. I don't know what you mean by girlfriends have literally nothing to do. Have you tried adulting?
4. He can just as much not have sex with you either. In fact, he can find other ways to get what he needs. The last thing you want is for your guy to start jerking off to porn, because it means he finds strangers more attractive, and will resent you for trapping him in a sexless marriage, and want out. That's one of the reasons affairs start. There is literally unlimited ways to spice up your sex, so don't quit just because you have writers block.
5. You sound like you miss anonymous sex.
6. "Husbands are suppose to take responsibility, that's the reason I chose to marry."
What responsibilities do you think you don't have?
7. You sound like you regret the guy you married, and wish you could get consensual non-consent sex from randos. As lucky as you think he is to sleep next to you, what exactly do you do for him that makes him the luckiest?
" As a wife, to take care of house, job, laundry, food and all the other important things in EXHAUSTING. There's no way no can have energy for sex after taking care of everything " ... that description certainly does NOT include my ex -wife , her laziness was one of many reasons why I binned her !! Single dad , working FT & running own ventures... and staying single... never enduring another relationship again , and many women do seem to , like yourself , view men as mere disposable utilities and nothing more.
Finally someone who agrees that the reason i gave are true and valid. Thank you.
He is saying what you wrote doesn't apply to his ex wife.
@HOAAH Correct , my ex did the square root of F-all round the house...& complained constantly , yet too lazy to make any positive changes !!
That sucks
O long list of female stupidities... nothing linked to earth or reality... good luck
This is the most irrational thing I've read in my entire life. Completely loaded with misconceptions and outright falsehoods.
That anyone would think this way is disturbing to say the least.
You need a lot if help and I will tell you why.
1. A one night stand or a fling you will have sex with and treat them like you care about them even though they would put you out on the curb lije trash to be picked up.
2. A husband you would withhold sex from and treat him and treat him like crap even if he cares about you, loves you, is faithful and honest etc.
3. You would allow someone you are not married to treat you however they want to but expect them to respect you if they get married to you.
4. If you get married you are sayi h you will be too tired to have sex ever. If you would always claim to be too tired yo have sex you would probably ckaim to be too tired to do anything with your husband. Either that or saying you are too tired is an excusse not to have sex even when it's a lie.
It seems like you just want to have a horrible life.
"A one night stand or a fling you will have sex with and treat them like you care about them even though they would put you out on the curb lije trash to be picked up." Where did I say I expect ONS's to care about me? "A husband you would withhold sex from and treat him and treat him like crap even if he cares about you, loves you, is faithful and honest etc." I gave the exact reason for that in original post. Did you even read it? "You would allow someone you are not married to treat you however they want to but expect them to respect you if they get married to you." I'm not going to marry a person with I had ONS with. Again, did you even read the take? "If you get married you are sayi h you will be too tired to have sex ever. If you would always claim to be too tired yo have sex you would probably ckaim to be too tired to do anything with your husband." I don't understand what you were wanting to say. "It seems like you just want to have a horrible life." Why? I didn't say anything about way of living
The person that changes is you. The reason I say that is because before marriage you allow a guy to be however he wants to be but once you two get married would expect him to respect you even if he is sexually frustrated because of you withholding sex. Can't blame him since he was use to getting it quite a bit but since marriage you make him earn it. Before marriage he could practically treat you like crap and you give him sex but after marriage you expect him to treat you like a lady.
Good thing for me, then, that I'm a virgin and don't date.
Be my. Whoa. There's more reason to make sure wife is taken care of. like 1/2 of all I own. I eat more than she does... I enjoy making her... happy.
One pitfall that pretty young girls often fall into is that they don't think it is possible that they will ever look like their mom or grandma. They have the world in the palm of their hands and that won't change too much, right?
None of us stay young and have unlimited options so dont wait too long before looking for a longer term partner.
Personally any women who is willing to use her body as a means of controlling someone is just not a good person
I think it's really cool that you know what is expected of the woman of the house. Many women nowadays dont and that causes friction in marriages.
This is a great reason not to get married guys! Thanks for sharing.
This is so much wrong. Where to even begin. Smh. And did you say you were already married? Good luck and i feel sorry for him.
Because women use sex as a tool to control men. Stop trying to candy up the reality. The reason women are more sexually prudish with their husbands than they are with that guy they met at the bar is because being a prude makes it easier to manipulate him into subservience.
Its one of the many reasons marriage is a shitty deal for men.
My tip to all men, the second a woman shows even a hint of trying to manipulate you with sex, run. That's a red flag. Practically a guarantee that if you marry her, you'll end up in exactly the kind of sexually frustrating marriage that all men dread. Also increases the odds she'll cheat on you. Women still want sex after all, so if she's too busy using sex as a carrot on a stick with you. She'll go get her sexual satisfaction from someone she isn't trying to manipulate.