Sexual Relationships 
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The word "hymen" derives from the Greek word for membrane. Ironically enough, hymen was also the Greek god of marriage. Since I’ve noticed that huge misconceptions about both the anatomy, as well as what the tissue itself represents, I’ve decided to look into the actual data behind this widely misunderstood membranous tissue.
For thousands of years, many cultures have believed that the ‘breaking’ of the hymen will cause immense pain to women. Leading both genders to anticipate that the moment a guy’s penis enters a woman’s vagina for the first time, she will shriek in pain as the hymen tears apart. The belief that a woman’s first time having sex is so deeply rooted that people in some parts of the world almost want it to be painful, as this is then seen as solid ‘proof’ that the woman had been a virgin.
Additionally, some people think that if there is any reason to doubt the girl’s virginity (such as no pain or blood), a medical examination could determine whether she was or wasn't.
An intact hymen demonstrated her virtue while anything else proved she'd already been ‘deflowered’.
Can you handle the truth?
The hymen almost never covers the entire vagina. If it did, a girl who had not yet been sexually active would not be able to properly menstruate as the body would have no way of expelling the blood and fluids. Most girls get their period around the age of 10 so… you do the math.
Most hymens are doughnut-shaped and have an opening in the center. Newborns' hymens tend to be prominent and thick. Over time, though, most hymenal tissue thins and the opening widens. The membrane tissue wears away as a result of day-to-day activities like walking, athletics, self-exploration, and masturbation.
The hymen of 1 in 1000 girls will lack an opening in the middle. Less than 1 in 1000 girls will need surgery to make an incision in their hymen in order for their menstrual blood to ‘escape’, for lack of a better word. In rare cases (~200), the opening in the hymen is so small that fingers, tampons, or an erect penis may not be able to enter comfortably, if at all. This is called an imperforate hymen.
For women with imperforate hymens, surgical intervention is necessary to make an incision and permit the girl to be able to do things as simple as have her menstrual without immense discomfort, use tampons, or have penetrative sex. For most women, though, any remaining hymenal tissue offers no significant impediment to using tampons or enjoying pain-free intercourse by adolescence.
Then why have I always heard that my first time 'should' be painful?
If hymenal tissue has largely worn away by adolescence, then why do so many women experience pain on first intercourse? Or rather… why has a woman experiencing immense pain and/or bleeding become so normalized?
The literature is oddly quiet on this issue. But a few contributing factors to this cultural phenomenon include:
1. Many cultures believe(d) that ‘piercing’ the hymen caused bleeding. In these cultures, shortly after weddings, new husbands were often expected to produce bloody sheets to prove they'd married a virgin, but had also consummated the marriage.
2. Because of the mythology surrounding the hymen, many (most?) women expect first intercourse to hurt, which may become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The expectation of pain causes anxiety, which can turn minor discomfort into pain as anxiety causes muscular tension to increase. The vaginal canal is lined with muscles and… you get the idea.
3. The National Health and Social Life Survey (1994) found that about one third of women did not have sex for the first time voluntarily. They were either forced into it during incest, sexual assault, or other coercion or exploitation such as being trafficked and whatnot. Continuing on the point above, these are examples of many things that can cause tremendous anxiety, which will in turn and produce or aggravate pain.
Reasons for discomfort
INADEQUATE LUBRICATION
Natural anxiety around their first time may interfere with women's release of vaginal lubrication. Think of it as a female version of ‘performance anxiety’.
Even if her first time having sexual intercourse is totally consensual and loving, Poorly lubricated intercourse will definitely be painful and if the guy just so happens to be a sadist… he could rub her raw to the point that she spots a bit.
INADEQUATE FOREPLAY
Whether the guy is still in his teens or in his 20’s, it’s not unheard of that foreplay is rushed through, if not skipped entirely. Fearful that women might back out, men often rush into intercourse before women feel ready for it. That would include being:
- sufficiently relaxed
- wet enough
JACKHAMMERING AWAY
Once sex has actually started, many guys will imitate the ball-slapping, semi-aggressive pounding they’ve seen in porn. Which a bit of is fine but if you’re not too into it and are as lubricated as the Sahara (so not at all), well- sounds like a bad time.
LIVING UP TO EXPECTATIONS
Knowing that family and often medical professionals would be involved in confirming that the bride had indeed been a virgin by seeing sheets stained with blood, it’s understandable that the first time would involve a lot of anxiety. Anxiety typically inhibits signs of arousal like muscles down there kind of ‘relaxing’ and permitting a more comfortable penetration, as well as adequate levels of natural lubrication.
We tend to talk about the hymen as if it's some kind of road-block or wall of tissue, possessed uniformly by every woman, that needs to be broken down (literally, "breaking the hymen" is the term most used) before you're officially not a virgin. Turns out that while women do have hymens (mostly), that's basically where the accuracy of the many virginity-related myths ends.
Virginity is not a codename given to a female's hymen. No, it's not something you can 'lose' or have taken away from you. Things like a tampon will not grow magical hands and steal it from you. Nor will a dick remove it by uh... savagely piercing through part of your body. Virginity is a quality an individual has and may choose to change by deciding on their own volition to experience sexual intimacy with another person of their choice.
Take-home message: The mistaken belief that an intact hymen and bleeding during first intercourse are 'proof' of virginity is a myth that has been perpetuated for centuries. Now that we're several years into this myth having been disproven time and time again, it's important to give virginity a new and accurate definition.
Virginity is not a physical thing but a quality that we carry either in our heart or our head that cannot be lost or taken, but rather a quality that we can choose to change.
What Girls & Guys Said
17 28Nice Take. Well done.
So "Hit 'em In The Hymen!" or "Cervix Hunter." are not good ideas?
Really good My take!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Well that was very good always wondered what the 1st time would be like and i don't want to hurt anyone or fuck it up that seems like it would be a pretty painful thing
💯 truth.
I'm a virgin and I love this take.
Hymens are like rules, meant to be broken
It’s ALREADY broken for many
This is good to see. Thank You.
Amen sister. I love this mytake. You are awesome. 😎👍
Just go horse riding, the fine detail doesn't matter, the illustrations were probably created by a man with control issues,
Nice Mytake
Interesting myTake, I had already learned through an Adam ruins everything video that sex doesn't automatically break a hymen and things like horseback riding can even break a girls hymen, I also don't agree with virginity testing on women. Like its 2020 and a woman can fuck as many guys as she wants, I mean granted it is very easy for a girl to get laid versus a guy since a girl can be fat and ugly and still score guys, also women don't have to worry about weather a guy will like her Vagina or not and she never has to worry about not sexually satisfying a guy so I Imagine that girls must be able to rack up sexual partners with ease.
There are guys who shame a girl for being too loose and if she smells... some guys complain about how a woman is in bed. I don't date boys like that I date men
true that women, on average, have an easier time finding someone to have sex with. While some don't have to worry about whether the guy will like their vaginas, they do have to worry about who will find out about their sexual activities and how much negative judgement it will bring them. So.. it's a trade-off between sex and how much respect you're seen with by the community.
Guys can get sex easy as well just has to be attractive or be charming... authority jobs also help
A woman who sleeps around is seen as a slut a man who sleeps around is respected. I honestly wished people did not sleep around less stds that way
Men sleeping around are respected? Well I don't respect them. For me they are just f***boys. Not mature "men" to treat women that way
@Isac132 But society considers them as "studs" lol.
There's no such thing as "breaking the hymen"
I bet if males had some counter-hymen we wouldn’t be so obsessed with virginity.
Counterpart. Not counter to the hymen... we already have that covered :)
Yeah... but we don't.
Holy Matramony consist of a virgin female and a virgin man , only after marriage may both engage in sexual intercourse. The bleeding is a blood covenant between you two and GOD. and this here is the accual truth.
Did you... not read the post? If you have a wife, I feel really sorry for her.
You 'all have a proble m with obiediance. To bad.
If the post doesn't have anything consistant to GODS commandments or scripture , forget it , its a demonic fortitude.
Who cares about hymen, when there is an alternative, where not many man has gone before!
Dirty
Hahaha... you do know what I’m talking about, right?
Lol uhhh.. are you saying you prefer the back over the front? 🤔
Love them both equally, but all I’m saying is if guys were after hymen/virginity importance there is always ‘THAT’ as an alternative where most girls are uptight giving out to, which in return offers the guys the feeling of being the first-time for girl.
Ah ok, fair enough. Makes sense as to why my boyfriend calls it the ‘poop hole loop hole’ too🤣
@nuqueunltd Still dirty
It’s only dirty if girls don’t know how to clean after themselves properly (hygiene). Anal is usually clean from the entrance upto 8-10 inches upwards before anyone reach, what is called ‘dirty’.
HAHAHAHA anal is NOT clean. The asshole is not meant to be fucked. It’s meant to have things COME OUT.
Yeah most men like to see girls in pain so kind of dont surprise me they wouldn't know most of that.
All you need read is about HYMENLICK MANEUVER in the BAD GIRLS BIBLE
It was the name of my cat...
Very educative
This is a lot. How is your hymen?