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The Worst Possible Things You Can Say to an LGBT+ Person

The Worst Possible Things You Can Say to an LGBT+ Person

There's something almost mystical about being anything other than a white, heterosexual, cisgender male. There are good things and bad that you can say to these people. I will specifically list some of the worst I've heard/been subject to.

These are grouped by region of LGBT:

1. Transgender

"Oh, you're just gay." Or "You're just confused."

My personal favourite? "Don't do anything too rash before we get you un-confused."(this was said to me.)

2. Bisexual

"You're just gay and don't know it yet." Or "Just [effing] pick one."(angry tone)

My personal favourite? In a condescending tone, "just pick one, sweetie."(also said to me)

3. Asexual

"You like sex and you know it!" Or "You're just gay and don't want to deal with it."

My personal favourite? "I've seen your internet history!"(also said to me) Yeah. Like seven years ago. Explain that mental stasis, please.

The Worst Possible Things You Can Say to an LGBT+ Person

4. Gay/Lesbian

"I'm sorry you've made this decision." Or "You've just been rejected by [opposite sex] too many times."

My personal favourite? From best friend: "As long as you don't have a crush on me."

5. Unsure/Queer

[see '2. Bisexual:']

6. Genderfluid/Neutral gender

[see '1. Transgender:']

Obviously, this list isn't all-inclusive. I did only the ones I've encountered. The "personal favourite" were all ones I have heard and to this day still look back on and laugh at.

Yes, I identify as asexual and transgender. No, I don't care for sex and, as a result, will not transition. This is also because of a mixture of anxiety, self-esteem issues and my mother refusing to accept me, despite many interactions on this subject. "Mama, I'm transgender." "No. You're just attention seeking." And I don't want to put up with her ridicule.

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  • I have friends, male and female, that are gay or transgender. They don't let ignorant people insult them or make them feel bad. They control who they let affect their feelings. They are secure in who they are and won't let ignorant people define them. If LGBT activists didn't try to force society to accept their differences, you would have way less trouble. You have to accept that you are different from the norm and that many people don't like it or believe it's a real thing. That is reality. What you do with it is what you can control. Always be good to yourself and ignore the ignorant. Good luck!

    • Personally, I have received a load of hate from family, strangers and some friends. I do agree with this, but some people push way too hard in the other direction. I never push hard on most, though they push hard on me. I wish no hate on others. Thank you for your good tidings.

    • I had no idea you are so young! You are in the middle of one of toughest times you will experience in your life. Being a teen is hard enough in this plastic world we live in. Adding the fact that you are "different" makes it much more difficult. Be proud of who you are in spite of others shortsightedness. If you have a person in your life who is older and is open minded, talk very candidly with them. If they don't get you, it's okay. find someone else you can trust. I have a son who I thought might be gay. He is quite sensitive and very feminine as well as other things. I had never though about having a gay child and had to think about how I felt about it. It took me about 10 seconds and realized that my love for my son was unconditional and what happened down the line was not important. It ended up that he is straight. Try not to take your parents and friends to seriously. They are probably allowing what they think those they know will say. Their lack of understanding is their issue!

    • You are the wisest of my elders. I have spoken with psychologists, friends, family and otherwise. I admire how you see your son, and wish everyone saw like this. In all due time.

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  • I am a Straight Shooter myself but I have Dated A... Gay man, so I can relate, mate.
    Great My Take and Thank you for Caring and Sharing, @sj2107 xx

  • Asking why they are in support of immigrants coming into this country from countries where they behead, stone, brutally assault and throw gay or bi people from roofs with open arms no questions asked. Yeah I've been called a bigot and everything under the sun for this and the best part is I'm bi. Sorry but I don't want to be anywhere near a group of people that wish death upon me.

  • I'm friends with a trans, and living with 4 gays next year do not bothered

  • For transgendered people, I would think that the worst would be someone using their birth name or gender with the intent of hurting them.

    • Yeah. I see that.

  • If its a guy just tell him "Wow you look masculine and muscular today" and watch him burst into tears.

    • I'm not sure how to take this?

  • I think LGBT people need to grow up if they're really offended by any of this. There's a lot of things that shouldn't be said to people for various reasons but you can't control what comes out of someone's mouth. There was a show hosted by a gay guy called 'Queer Eye For The Straight Guy' so pardon me if I don't really buy this.

  • I HATE WHEN THEY SAY THAT ABOUT BI-SEXUALS. It's so frikin annoying, like, I like boys, they're adorable and stupid and yes. But I also love girls because they're delicate little pretty butterflies, or they can be hilarious badasses. I'm not confused, I'm not gay, I'm not going to pass as straight. I Like Girls And Boys. That's me, deal with it bitches.

  • See, i was given a mouth and a brain and a 1st world education. If I want to question something that doesn't seem right i can do that. My best advice is grow a back bone, you werent garaunteed a easily life.

  • Interesting read, although I'd say that the worst thing you can say to an lgbt person is the same that you could say to anyone, that they're worthless/ not wanted.
    As social creatures (most) all of us have an innate desire/ need for acceptance or worth to our fellow man, and not having that can feel as bad as not having food or water (hence why so many commit suicide, it's not typically because they are in physical pain, but emotional because they feel worthless)

  • " Are you a pitch or a catcher"? is the one I've heard a guy ask another guy.

  • Years ago... my brother came out gay. When he told me... I was so ignorant about it... I ask him if he was going to start wearing dresses. He laughed and said, "Why the hell would I do that"?

  • I'm bisexual and I fully agree with this take

  • I'm ok with lesbians, gays, and bisexuals (well I have a thing for bi girls so ok is putting it mildly) but when you start adding transgended and all those other special snowflakes you're just seeking attention.

  • Can i add

    To say to a gay person:

    "What you on about you made a choice to be gay you can make a choice to be straight"

    or

    "You know there is a straight camp x miles from here"

    • I've heard that (implied) to me. It's awful. The first one, that is.

    • Similarly I've been asked why I chose to identify as female. Noope... if I could have chosen my gender life would have been much simpler all round.

  • Good take. I've suffered through several deconfusion attempts, fortunately not by people I care about.

  • Now i know what to say when these people piss me off.

  • Maybe you should find a "safe space". The closet perhaps?

    • I live in the basement, and the closet.

  • Some people have mental illness
    Some are born with it

    • It's all mental illness dude.

  • Agree!! I'm bi does not mean that I'm gay. I love dicks and vaginas!!

    • Haha truer words never spoken!

  • Good mytake bro

    I think it'd be a nice world if no one's sexuality or race conscious

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