Introduction (you may skip if you want)
I plan to start a small series of posts about my views on woman and relationships in general.
I will be very blunt and maybe some people will acuse me of being misogynist, loser, pessimistic, nerd, judgmental and whatsoever.
If you are really sensitive person about some issues, I suggest you to leave this page right now.
I am aware that writing stuff like that will probably make me even less liked in GAG, specially by girls, but well...who cares :P
As long as I can share my views, enlighting some dudes and receiving some lights from them too, after all we always have something to learn, then it's fine even though this Take is just a sketch(Sorry i will not make this very fancy for i don't have so much time)
In short, I would be very glad if I receive feedback, either criticism or applauses, from all type of GAGers here so I can formulate a more robust version of my "Theory of seduction and love".
Theory of seduction, Gold diggers, Power
I will be excluding here "agape". That is, the true love, the genuine is the Christian love, where someone gives yourself to the goodness of another one, without expecting anything back, and sometimes even receiving harm and ungratefulness from the person where they practice their love.
I don't mean I doubt the existence of love. I have already experienced being genuinely loved by some very few people, but I myself have not being truly loved by any woman(as far as I know) in a sexual way neither had I spotted real love between couples that I got to know throughout my life.
According to my life experience, I have been wondering for a long time whether is it possible to experience real genuine sexual love without being appealed to "wage".
So, by "wage" I don't necessarily mean the number of digits in you bank account. I mean, the power that a man has to supply her needs. That power can be:
1) Financial stability:
No need to explain, do I?
2) Social status:
Nowadays, because of women going to the labor market and earning some money to sustain themselves, I think this is the case which fits in most of scenarios.
She wants a dude to show off to her "girl friends": "Check out the guy that I got as my boyfriend bitches!"
She wants to brag around social media the type of dude whom she is currently in a relationship, usually by posting unnecessary pic of them making followed by a fancy line that actually does not actually has anything to do with the pic.
3) Physically pleasure:
She wants to see your cute face and your nice body to pierce through her, that's all. No pics here for this is not a porn site.
4) Self-esteem issues:
She is interested in a guy that can nurture her ego to make her feel better because she has emotional and insecurity issues and cannot fix them by themselves, so she drains a guy's energy and time to temporarily do that. After she achieves normal balance of self-steem, she will not feel that the guy she is with is the "Mr. Right" anymore.
5) In any other way that I could not remember of
This is up to you to notify me of what case I have forgotten
In summary...
By "wage", I mean "something she earns".
So yeah, after defining the meaning of "wage" there comes my definition of "gold digger": a girl who is interested in the dude's "wage", which can be one or a mix of all those 5 scenarios.
Even if she claims she loves you, she actually doesn't love you. If you think it deeper, she uses you for only her benefit and she is not aware of it. Isn't this the raw reality of relationships?
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