There's more to a person than the amount of sex partners they have

[Stacyzee]

There's more to who you are than the number you have racked up. Every one that is judging you is doing so based on religious and moral beliefs. You have to understand, that it's impossible for literally every person to agree with something. No matter what the topic is, there will always be those with opposing views. You have to understand that there's no getting away from that. Different views, comes along with any territory.

You have plenty of sex partners

As long as you are:

A) Protecting yourself

Even with just one sex partner sex can turn into a game of Russian roulette. It's very important that you educate yourself about sex before engaging in it. All it takes is one person, and one time. Is a few moments of pleasure worth your entire life? You could easily contract HIV which turns into a deadly virus called AIDS. Weigh your options. There are various forms of birth control methods that will prevent pregnancy and protect against stds. Find the one that best suits you.

Even if the birth control method chosen were to fail (nothing is 100%) there are other methods that can work as a emergency contraceptive to prevent pregnancy. In our generation, we have so much available when it comes to sex and protection. So educate yourself! The more you know the better it is for you and your partners.

B) Honest

Are you misleading others in order to get what you want?

We all have heard of that person who hits and runs (engages in sex with a person and never calls them back).

Do you really want to be that person?

It's never okay to tell someone what they want to hear just so you can get sex from them. Yes, you got what you wanted. But you have to ask yourself, was that the right thing to do?

Are you cheating on your significant other or cheating with someone elses?

It's one thing to sleep around, but it's another to drag innocent people down a path of hurt they don't deserve. You can get what you want by being honest with each and every one. You can even find someone who shares the same values as you. Have you ever heard of open relationships? Swingers? or Polyamory? Look into it if you haven't already.

C) Not relying on sex

Some people find sex addiction a joke, they don't believe it exists. What some people fail to realize is that, anything can become an addiction. When someone heavily relies on an object of choice, a substance, or even a person it can become one. If someone is constantly using something in order to feel "normal" or fill a void, then there is a major problem. This person will eventually rely on that "feel good moment" and chase that feeling which results in repetitive behavior (in order to gain what makes them feel good). When it comes to sex, that can be very dangerous. It could lead you down a road of destruction . You could lose everything.

When an addiction controls someone they often lie, cheat, steal, just to get what they want.Some sex addicts end up prostiuting just to get what they want. Some even regularly pay for sex (if they haven't already sold their body). This can lead you to lose a lot of money and be at an extreme financial set back.

If you have your grips on all of these, then do not let how people view what you do in the privacy of your own bed room define you. If you know you are protecting yourself, honest, and not relying on sex then continue to enjoy. Some people seem to sum you up in just one word "slut" or "whore" that is their attempt to define you, which further projects their ignorance. Stay true to yourself and what you like.

What you're doing isn't everyones cup of tea. As long as you know you aren't inflicting harm then why should I allow myself to possess so much anger towards how you want to live your life?

I have very few or no sex partners

So, people are pretty much flying out of their Mom's womb not a virgin in today's generation.

Okay, you got me! Huge exaggeration but you get the point.

It seems as if you are the last virgin walking. Even if you aren't one, you feel as if you have very little sex experience when it comes to your peers. In comparison to your friends your number seems like almost nothing. You constantly think about this which causes you to feel like a loser, inadequate or like no one will want you!

You are way too hard on yourself!

No one with adult maturity will shame you for your lack of experience. If your friends are doing so,

then it leads me to question are they really your friends?

You can have just one sex partner and have all the experience in the world when it comes to that person. You don't necessarily have to be with every one to gain knowledge.

Whether you have had plenty of sex partners or not, there is more to who you are as a person.

Look at the personal attributes you have to offer and excel at those.

Put your positive energy into doing something positive rather than dwelling on where society expects you to be at a given time in your life.

Often times, those who feel they are at a set back tend to be their own worse critics.

I've heard comments anywhere from:

"I'm extremely unattractive, I'm doomed for life"

to

"My private area isn't ideal, I am useless in society."

If someone feels that strongly I suggest they reach out and talk to someone or look into counseling. Usually someone that hates a part of themselves to that degree of a level doesn't simply just "snap out of that feeling". They could be facing depression since these thoughts seemingly consume their lives.

Your sex life does not have to be the public topic of discussion. Especially to those who have no

desire of ever wanting to get into a relationship with you.

A reminder: Don't let society define how you should be.

Again: For the time being look at all of the greatness you have achieved and continue to build on that.

We are all people.

We shouldn't shame others because they chose a different path for themselves.

Even if you choose to express your opinion, there's a way of doing so without

tearing another down.

Don't empower yourself by shaming others.

Our uniqueness, our individuality, and our life experience molds us into fascinating beings. I hope we can embrace that. I pray we may all challenge ourselves to delve into the deepest resources of our hearts to cultivate an atmosphere of understanding, acceptance, tolerance, and compassion. We are all in this life together.