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There's more to a person than the amount of sex partners they have

There's more to who you are than the number you have racked up. Every one that is judging you is doing so based on religious and moral beliefs. You have to understand, that it's impossible for literally every person to agree with something. No matter what the topic is, there will always be those with opposing views. You have to understand that there's no getting away from that. Different views, comes along with any territory.

You have plenty of sex partners

There's more to a person than the amount of sex partners they have.


As long as you are:

A) Protecting yourself

Even with just one sex partner sex can turn into a game of Russian roulette. It's very important that you educate yourself about sex before engaging in it. All it takes is one person, and one time. Is a few moments of pleasure worth your entire life? You could easily contract HIV which turns into a deadly virus called AIDS. Weigh your options. There are various forms of birth control methods that will prevent pregnancy and protect against stds. Find the one that best suits you.

Even if the birth control method chosen were to fail (nothing is 100%) there are other methods that can work as a emergency contraceptive to prevent pregnancy. In our generation, we have so much available when it comes to sex and protection. So educate yourself! The more you know the better it is for you and your partners.

B) Honest

Are you misleading others in order to get what you want?

We all have heard of that person who hits and runs (engages in sex with a person and never calls them back).

Do you really want to be that person?

It's never okay to tell someone what they want to hear just so you can get sex from them. Yes, you got what you wanted. But you have to ask yourself, was that the right thing to do?

Are you cheating on your significant other or cheating with someone elses?

It's one thing to sleep around, but it's another to drag innocent people down a path of hurt they don't deserve. You can get what you want by being honest with each and every one. You can even find someone who shares the same values as you. Have you ever heard of open relationships? Swingers? or Polyamory? Look into it if you haven't already.

C) Not relying on sex

Some people find sex addiction a joke, they don't believe it exists. What some people fail to realize is that, anything can become an addiction. When someone heavily relies on an object of choice, a substance, or even a person it can become one. If someone is constantly using something in order to feel "normal" or fill a void, then there is a major problem. This person will eventually rely on that "feel good moment" and chase that feeling which results in repetitive behavior (in order to gain what makes them feel good). When it comes to sex, that can be very dangerous. It could lead you down a road of destruction . You could lose everything.

When an addiction controls someone they often lie, cheat, steal, just to get what they want.Some sex addicts end up prostiuting just to get what they want. Some even regularly pay for sex (if they haven't already sold their body). This can lead you to lose a lot of money and be at an extreme financial set back.

If you have your grips on all of these, then do not let how people view what you do in the privacy of your own bed room define you. If you know you are protecting yourself, honest, and not relying on sex then continue to enjoy. Some people seem to sum you up in just one word "slut" or "whore" that is their attempt to define you, which further projects their ignorance. Stay true to yourself and what you like.

What you're doing isn't everyones cup of tea. As long as you know you aren't inflicting harm then why should I allow myself to possess so much anger towards how you want to live your life?

I have very few or no sex partners

There's more to a person than the amount of sex partners they have

So, people are pretty much flying out of their Mom's womb not a virgin in today's generation.

Okay, you got me! Huge exaggeration but you get the point.

It seems as if you are the last virgin walking. Even if you aren't one, you feel as if you have very little sex experience when it comes to your peers. In comparison to your friends your number seems like almost nothing. You constantly think about this which causes you to feel like a loser, inadequate or like no one will want you!

You are way too hard on yourself!

No one with adult maturity will shame you for your lack of experience. If your friends are doing so,

then it leads me to question are they really your friends?

You can have just one sex partner and have all the experience in the world when it comes to that person. You don't necessarily have to be with every one to gain knowledge.

Whether you have had plenty of sex partners or not, there is more to who you are as a person.

Look at the personal attributes you have to offer and excel at those.

Put your positive energy into doing something positive rather than dwelling on where society expects you to be at a given time in your life.

Often times, those who feel they are at a set back tend to be their own worse critics.

I've heard comments anywhere from:

"I'm extremely unattractive, I'm doomed for life"

to

"My private area isn't ideal, I am useless in society."

If someone feels that strongly I suggest they reach out and talk to someone or look into counseling. Usually someone that hates a part of themselves to that degree of a level doesn't simply just "snap out of that feeling". They could be facing depression since these thoughts seemingly consume their lives.

There's more to a person than the amount of sex partners they have

Your sex life does not have to be the public topic of discussion. Especially to those who have no

desire of ever wanting to get into a relationship with you.

A reminder: Don't let society define how you should be.

Again: For the time being look at all of the greatness you have achieved and continue to build on that.

We are all people.

We shouldn't shame others because they chose a different path for themselves.

Even if you choose to express your opinion, there's a way of doing so without

tearing another down.

Don't empower yourself by shaming others.

Our uniqueness, our individuality, and our life experience molds us into fascinating beings. I hope we can embrace that. I pray we may all challenge ourselves to delve into the deepest resources of our hearts to cultivate an atmosphere of understanding, acceptance, tolerance, and compassion. We are all in this life together.

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  • I disagree. A man with low sexual partners is usually in that situation, not by choice. And that's a symptom of something deeper about that guys personality. In fact, when I am out, I can see which guy will have lots of partners, who will be average and who is struggling based on their personality. That's why I have tons of admiration for men who get a lot of sexual partners. Women and dating is shit hard, so those few guys who do it well, deserve credit. i was reading an article about this prostitute who was paid by a banker $20000 dollars a month just to be on standby for one weekend of the month. That's when you realise that for some men, it's easier to make that much money, than to get the girl you want (without paying obviously).

    • Men on the flip side generally have it easier when they rack up a number. Men will give them a pat on the back. But can I say , most women will look at them in their disguise? Women , no matter what will get looked at as a whore or a slut amongst both sexes if they have a high number. That's a fact , you must acknowledge that. Men get put on a pedestal by other men. Women get torn down from every angle.

    • *look at them in disguise

    • hard to get sex? with so many people suing apps like tinder and friends with benefits being so common, I don't think so.

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  • I have no problem if a girl has 100 partners... I wouldn't judge her but I don't wanna do anything with her too... 😊

    I don't want a promiscuous girl

    • Fair enough.

    • You're entitled to preference.

  • Ehh.

    Women are free to have a lot of sex partners if they want... no one will stop them. Their body, their choice.

    But their actions, their responsibility. Men are also free to decide "I don't want to seriously date some girl who's had 10+ sex partners, I want some girl who hasn't slept around." And judging by the weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth on this website... that's a choice we men make quite frequently.

    • Yes, people are entitled to preference. But I don't think sleeping around should be looked at as wrong? If it is "Wrong" a person is only saying it is according to their moral or religious beliefs and that is all. If a person does not cheat, lie, has a sex addiction, is honest with every one... then how is it "wrong"? Wrong behavior inflicts harm on others. Everyone has a right to preference. But what people don't have a right to, is to tear others down. What does that say about the person who is doing it?

    • "If it is "Wrong" a person is only saying it is according to their moral or religious beliefs and that is all." Without religious or moral beliefs, where does any sense of right and wrong come from? Without religious or moral beliefs, I could argue rape and murder is just fine. After all, Darwin tells us we're highly evolved animals. Survival of the fittest. It's only natural the strong should kill the weak, or strong males should impregnate women whenever they feel the urge. Just look at nature!

    • We cannot lump vile creatures into our discussion of sex which is done in the privacy of a person's home. Rape and murder is wrong no matter which way you slice it. Sleeping around isn't wrong unless your intent is to harm by lying , cheating , spread disease or cover up underlying issues. "Wrong" in the stand point of sex only has to do with someones personal values which they are entitled to have. I only dispute it when people feel they can shame others for being promiscuous and define them by the amount of sex partners they have had. If the person doesn't have harmful intentions , who are we to say it's wrong? Shouldn't someone feel free to do what they enjoy? It's okay to not to ok with an action , but to condemn someone isn't right.

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  • I don't shame them, I just won't have a relationship with them.

  • 1. OP is promiscuous female and tries to cope with the problem
    2. I find promiscuity #1 turn off at a potential girlfriend
    3. Female promiscuity is generally disgusting to majority of males and it's cause is pure evolutionary/genetic. No amount of philosophy and feminism will ever change that, it's all mental masturbation.

    • She's def a female hater that judges herself by a separate standard from that of which she judges other women. Girl's got problems.

    • @SonicRiver Are you referring to me? Because clearly in this article I did not include my personal life and spoke about people on both ends of the spectrum (those who have too many and those who have little or none). Nice to know you can jump the gun and assume things about me when I've never known of your existence before now. Work on your reading comprehension skills and then come at me again with a better argument. Thanks and goodbye !

    • I'm going based on everything I see you wrote. I'm guessing you have nothing but male friends the stink of your women hating is so strong.

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  • It doesn't matter what you put in your vagina/ where you put your penis but even more importantly what you put in your heart. if you put the right thing in your heart you won't ever need to be immoral. if you haven't put that in your heart you can't even comprehend what's immoral and whats not. thus the great confusion and popularisation of "sexual freedom" today (more like enslavement to one's passions). you say its about puritan beliefs and moral codes. i tell you it goes far beyond that, to a spiritual level, which if you dont experience all the logical debates in the world would bear no fruits. how can you possibly explain to a lustful person what's lust? can you explain to a blind person whats the light? humans have an animalistic, fallen, and dark side. you just don't overcome that with your own powers. that "thing" i was talking about placing in your heart is the grace of God. and until you have it you can't see why your former self was despicable. only under the light of the Sun one sees his impurities and defects.

  • So if you had to summarize in one sentence, what's the bottom line?

    • Try reading and coming to a conclusion yourself. What do u think?

  • Promiscuous women are unappealing as potential wives. Also, they damage themselves mentally by having numerous partners. I would never date a woman who has had more than ten different partners.

    • You're entitled to have your own preference. But shaming others is where the line must be drawn. If the person sleeps around and doesn't have any harmful intents like the "classic person" does, then who are we to say anything about it? The classic cheater usually has an underlying issue of why they sleep around, cheat, lie, and mislead others. If this person is honest, and doesn't do any of that then people judging them solely has to do with religious or moral beliefs. People have the right to live their lives however they want in the privacy of their own bed room. It's okay to have a preference but

    • I think society needs to have a firm set of morals. Back in the 1950s people would be shamed, and it worked. People were discouraged from doing things that were bad for society as a whole.

    • How does sleeping around effect society if the person isn't the "classic person" who cheats?

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  • yes, anyting goes in life.

  • If some girls been with 40 dudes that pretty much tells you everything you need to know about her

    • What does it tell " you"?

    • If a guy hasn't been with any girl that pretty much tells you everything you need to know about him right? Never mind he's waiting for the right girl?

    • Ioce that the title of this post is that there is more to a person than there number of sex partners but yours is the comment she upvotes. She's a woman hating troll. Every comment I've seen of hers is against women. She even blames women for getting raped.

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