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Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package

We all know it's not the size that matters, but it's the way you use it.

However there is a difference between saying something and actually seeing something, so when you see your partners penis for the first time, your bound to have a reaction and how you react to that may or may not come to define the entirety of your relationship.
The length of an average penis is around 5-6 inches and the chances of coming across anything bigger than that is pretty rare like a one in a hundred. So the question is why are so many people obsessed with the idea that bigger is better, and by people I mean mostly men, when most men are basically packing generally the same size down there and some even a little less.
Literally almost everyone watches porn or at least has seen one during one point in their lives so even virgins are aware of size, although not that many can tell when your face to face with the actual deal unless you've already been with multiple partners in the past. Now on the off chance that you're with someone a little less endowed, there are a few things you should avoid saying.

Saying It's Huge

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package
This is a big no-no, don't call your partner huge when you know it's not, I mean come on do you really think they don't know that they're packing less than average. Lying will only make things worse and chances are you'll end up hurting your partners feelings.

Giving It Nicknames Or Calling It "Cute"

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package
Seriously don't call it cute, it'll only end up sprouting a sea of insecurities from inside him. He's mind will basically re-frame "cute" in a negative fashion and all that will do is remind him of his size.

Lying About How It Feels

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package
Don't fake how it feels inside you, it might boost their ego temporarily, but chances are you'll just end up being dissatisfied. The good thing about someone with a smaller penis is that they likely put a lot of emphasis on foreplay, so just lying about it might make them feel they don't need to go down there.

Telling Your Friends About It

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package
"Women are the meanest creatures on earth" Okay not really, but women are known for gossiping, and if you have been through high school, you know gossip travels fast. So unless you want the whole neighborhood to know your partner has a small penis, don't do it.

Making Jokes About It

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package
It's the same as calling it cute or giving it nicknames, joking about the very thing that your partner might be conscious about isn't exactly a good idea. We all have insecurities and the last thing you want is for your partner to point them out - especially in bed.

Bringing It Up In A Fight

Things Not To Say To Your Partner If He Has A Small Package
During the heat of the moment, it's easy to say things that you might regret. So whatever you do don't bring that up, as a way to make them feel bad, not only is it mean and nasty but it could also put a big dent in your relationship.
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Most Helpful Guy

  • Good take. No girl wants to be told her boobs are too small, or too saggy, or that she's too fat (and guys should know better than to say something like that), and no guy wants to be told that he has a little dick - even if he does.

    This falls under the "if you don't have anything good/nice to say, don't say anything at all" rule.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Never mention that you slept with a black guy because he will freak.

    • ahahahhahahahahahahah right! (x

    • Only if they're racist

    • I'm black and large, but I honestly doubt every black guy has a big one.

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  • The fact that someone has to write a take about this, is in itself is quite sad. In the grander scheme of things that are going on in the world and in our lives, how is this in even on the top 10 or even top 5 of most important things?

    Also, I'll never understand why people care about stuff like this. When I think about a guy, it's about the guy not his body part I can't see. And, though I've never had a relationship. When I do and we get to that intimate part, I'm just going to be happy I'm with someone I care for and who cares for me. What his special friends size is, is not even going to be on my radar. So, I'll never need this list because this topic is insignificant to me to start with.

    • You are absolutely right. Personality is what matters.!!

  • If your man is big dont joke that he's small either. My boyfriend is 9 1/2in and I made that mistake once. Just as a general rule dont joke about anything having to do with their 'manhood'.

    • day-um... you got a sizable one lol

    • Oh yea, me too

  • I don't even know what average is at this point. GaG is throwing my ideas on my head

    • If you listen to people here it is around 12 inches.

    • Lol, right! Everyone is huge here, must be something in the virtual water.

  • That would be a terrible argument buts it's sorta funny to think about. Like the guy yells, "God you're such a bitch!" And the girls goes, "Yeah well... Well you! You uh! YOU HAVE A TINY DICK SO I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT." Like in what argument would that every be the winning point?

    • It would end the relationship, that's for sure.

    • @Anno_Domini Well yeah but it also has less a point than saying "yeah well you're stupid." Doesn't solve anything!!!

    • It says a lot about the maturity level of the girl.

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  • All awsome points. I am glad some women out there understand. While it isn't my issue it is an issue. esp don't call it cute lol OMG... no...

  • Being smaller is ssomething that guys have to make up for. But it's true that that's not the only thing in a relationship and if brought up will make your guy think you want others.

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    "During the heat of the moment, it's easy to say things that you might regret. So whatever you do don't bring that up, as a way to make them feel bad, not only is it mean and nasty but it could also put a big dent in your relationship."

    If it's a fight, I don't see why you won't bring it up.

    • Fights, general speaking, are not supposed to end a relationship. They are for airing grievances and seeking resolution. If a man's penis size comes up in a fight, the only possible resolution to that issue , if it really is an issue, is to end the relationship and get with another guy. Most likely, if it comes up in a fight, talking about penis size is just supposed to hurt him at the time of the fight. The problem is that those words have staying power. They will continue to wound him, months or even years down the road. The only time making a crack about penis size makes any sense at all is when a woman is trying to end a relationship and she wants to be nasty about it. Then it will have the desired effect.

    • @gray_sailor But that's where I disagree. Arguing and discussing (which I think is what actually you are describing) are not fights. Fights are irrational and destructive the only way a fight reaches its conclusion is when someone discontinues the fight or when the other person "wins". Bringing up penis size is one tool you can use to "win" the fight. That's why I don't see why you wouldn't bring it up.

    • Yes, but if you know in advance that some subjects will have "nuclear" consequences, you just don't discuss them, even in a moment of irrationality and weakness. It is precisely this sort of level headed discussion that removes such a damaging weapon from the arsenal prior to a fight. In every relationship, there are words that when uttered, will permanently end the relationship. Making excuses that since fights themselves exhibit irrational behavior, the idea that anything goes when it comes to fighting will with a trail of failed relationships.

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  • This is a very thoughtful list. It really is important to be sensitive and kind.

  • You just have to keep in mind how sensitive guys are about their penis size. Almost our entire sense of masculinity is based on our penis size. It is NOT something to joke about. Saying a guy has a small dick is the equivilent of calling someone completely ugly and worthless. Girls, you may not understand this--you think its ok to joke about it because its not a big deal. But its a MUCH bigger deal to us guys than it is to you.

    Also, might i add: Don't say "size doesn't matter" in order to comfort him. By now, we have associated that phrase as a way of patronizing someone who has a small dick. We don't wanna hear that size doesn't matter, we wanna hear that size DOES matter, and that OUR size is adequate and satisfying.

  • It's just a penis people... And the "lying about how it feels" part... Why wouldn't it feel good? The average penis is larger that the average vagina and all the nerve endings on a woman are at the opening and at the start of the vagina so no need for a big penis. And FYI most women have an orgasm due to clitorical stimulation. Don't let porn get to you people... And yes a small penis can feel great and even better if you love the person attached to it. People are not their genitals

    • "just a.. " .. That should be on the list aswell. *cries in corner* jkd :p

  • Also never say something like "my ex had a big penis but your feels so much better" even if it's true all the guy will be able to focus on is the fact that your ex was huge and that he has a small one

  • Its a good take and it puts you on a higher pedastool just for acknowledging all this.

    Most girls will want a big one at least once. The ones that quickly get over that are the best girlfriend type girls. The ones that dont are usually the ones that exploit being a women and getting guys easily.

    If guys didn't make it so easy for the latter type of girl, she would put in her place fast enough.

  • So why do women lie and say it doesn't matter then? You're just causing them more pain and embarrassment in the long run. At least some women on here are 100 percent honest. If guys know the truth, they can give themselves an honest self assessment and know whether or not they should date, or just keep it in their pants and remain single. It's that simple. It's like lying to ugly or obese women and telling them not to worry, they are beautiful. No they are not, and you are giving them bad and false advice. Or for ugly or obese men for that matter.

    • The problem with your approach is that there are no universally applicable answers. My first wife was a size queen, she brought it up as a justification for her infidelity. She also used my size as a reason for requesting an open marriage. We divorced instead. My second wife is totally happy with my entirely average sized package. Looking at my these two sexual partners, you can see the problem in making either one of the the spokesperson for ALL women. With regard to your analogy using a person's obesity as an example of a physical trait that universally garners disgust. That doesn't hold water either. My second wife was a larger woman when I married her. Her size did not diminish my attraction to her in any way. What if she had gotten the message that no one would find her attractive? She might never have put herself out there to date. I eod not have my loving wife because of the views of otherwise uninvolved third parties. That would be wrong and sad.

    • Ultimately, no attitude us universal, even if it is common.

    • @gray_sailor Thank you for telling your story! I am a "heavier" woman (not obese), and I'm with a man who loves me and thinks I'm the most beautiful person in the world. He can see the beauty in the details (I have nice features, despite having a little extra layer of fat). He can see the beauty in my heart. And when he looks at me his eyes light up. That's a wonderful feeling. I've been told my entire life that I'd never find anyone and that I'm ugly and fat and no one will ever love me. I can look them in the eye and tell them they are wrong and I don't give a damn what they think. They are ignorant and wrong, wrong, wrong! Don't speak for everyone! Not all people are shallow and only judge a person on a layer of fat. And you know what? Those super skinny people that you see end up "letting themselves go" at some point in their life. Are you going to form a marriage with someone who is skinny and then leave her when/if she gains a bit of weight?

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  • here's the opposite I'm large and know that I am. When I became sexually active, I'd run into this a lot, we'd be at a party and the subject would come up and inevitably someone would say "have you seen [Anpu]? He's like, huge. It didn't seem better to me, it was still embarrassing as all hell.

    • I think this is kind of like skinny people being "skinny shamed" "wow, are you anorexic?" "Eat somethig!" It's still rude and calls attention to your body, but it's honestly not as bad as someone with a small dick being called out, or a fat person being shamed

  • What I don't understand is why girls post ANYTHING about penis size when, according to them, size doesn't matter? For something that doesn't matter, you think (and express) quite a lot about how long or short our penises are! Why the double standards?
    Girls, start accepting that size does matter. Maybe its not the primary thing in a relationship, but it does matter. Its ok, we guys understand this thing already.

    • I agree with you there it's it don't matter until it does but it's ok my skins getting tougher now a little I appreciate the effort but nothing will change my mind unless after sex she's like it was ok and didn't make it seem mind blowing

  • I don't know what size I am honestly, but in my opinion I think I have a model looking one, clean looking and well shaped and nice color, I think mine looks nice. I've seen other guys who are circumcised (I am) and damn some just look fugly or misshapen.

  • So basically don't talk about it.

  • Please call it cute or any positive thing you think. I don't want it to be a taboo, never mentioned, elephant in the room. It's my penis, not something i should be ashamed of. I want us both to be ok with it. It helps me know you're ok with my body by being able to mention it.

    As long as mine is your favorite simply on the grounds that it is attached to me, and i am your favorite, we are 100% cool <3

  • I can't think of a way to tell him I don't like the sex w/o hurting his feelings. that's why in that situation I just usually will break it off.

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