Things to do with partner abstinent/ celibate?

[cth2188]

What are somethings I can do without the big stuff until 💍 engagement is in place with future partner.

[Leopard23]

Anal, blowjobs, handjobs, fingering. Mutual masturbation.

Thighjob. That's where he sticks his penis between your thighs standing up, with you lying down or from behind and pumps. Best to wear underwear as accidents happen.

Grinding. Both of you naked except for you wearing underwear and you grind your pussy up against his dick until he or you cum. You can grind on his thigh also whole playing with his dick. Lube is important for this and thighjobs.

You could just let him jerk off in front of you. You don't have to touch him or perform a sex act. You could just get naked or wear a sexy outfit, maybe dance. Let him jerk off to you topless, or just to your butt. Or just cum on your face. My wife sometimes let's me do this when she's on her period or not feeling like sex.

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[cth2188]

I date women not men

[cth2188]

I'll try some of these things

[SnowedIn]

• You can masturbate each other.
• You can each masturbate while watching the other.
• You can give him a blowjob.
• He can go down on you.
• Depending on what you consider "big stuff" you can have anal sex.
• Kiss.
• Touch each other with or without clothes on.

But, all of this depends on how you define abstinent/celibate. Many people consider that all sex, including touching, oral, etc. Some say abstinent is only penis in vagina sex. So you and your partner need to define terms.

[ushagomez]

So that depends upon what you consider ‘big stuff’. Don’t be shy about discussing here. I’m sure you will get a range of replies. So help by telling us what is on your big stuff list.

[cth2188]

I'm not here to discuss that

[Derekk]

What kinds of things does he enjoy? You could always travel together if you have the means, explore common hobbies, talk about more fundamental interests, play some video or board games together.

Are you asking for just activity recommendations? Or are you asking about ideas for small scale sexual contact?

You could always just do handjobs, or more tame stuff if you want to keep the big stuff until marriage.

[cth2188]

Sexual activities until the big stuff

[Derekk]

You could surprise him after a date night with a gentle tease if you want. Start by undressing a bit, get him excited, and then rub him until he's finished. Even as a guy who's less conservative, I find that super exciting. It depends on your comfort level really. Sucking him would be amazing, but you have to be ready for it, and it's totally ok if you're not.

[cth2188]

It would be a she God I feel dirty

[Derekk]

You're not dirty. Please please please don't burden yourself with that. Do you love her? Love is love. If it's about activities between ladies, I may not be the best advice giver on that front though ;)

[cth2188]

The ideal of having sex before marriage makes me dirty

[Derekk]

I'm sorry that I can't be much help. Speaking personally, I don't think you're dirty and I never will think that on the basis of who you love or how you express it. But if it's a concern you have, you should weigh your love for her against any religious objections you have to pre-marital activity. Being naked with her, cuddling with her, spooning, etc. That is all more gentle activity that maybe could help you alleviate the guilt somewhat?

[cth2188]

Yes I can do that maybe even foreplay with toys

[Derekk]

Absolutely. They're incredibly common. My girlfriend uses them and loves them. I hope you find some that both of you like!

[cth2188]

Thanks

[Berethor]

I would rather not be doing anything dirty, because it's bring temptation and hypocritical.

[cth2188]

I know, but when you're dating and involved that changes things. I don't do premarital sex , but may have to be open to somethings for my partner for bonding. Sadly these are the times where in where sex is required

[SlothySlob]

Explore the world together? Go on dates? Enjoy life without sex?
Or are you asking for something more specific?

[strlb]

Many things... lots of oral sex, licking your partner, mutual masturbation, role play, sex toys.. does anal count towards remaining abstinent/celibate? Enjoy & best of luck. DM always open

[cth2188]

Thanks!

[cth2188]

I will not do anal

[cth2188]

Oral no licking no

[cth2188]

Masterbation and foreplay yes - cuddling and kissing yes

[strlb]

Anal can be enjoyable but it's not for everyone. Enjoy yourself. DM always open.

[cth2188]

I'm not looking for anything extra

[cth2188]

I'm having a hard time finding a partner whose unvaccinated