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Think I messed up and feel a little bad that I had sex too soon? Even though it was good?

Typically, I take things slow, but not this time. The guy I wrote my last post about, I ended up having sex with him 2x. Usually takes me a while but the attraction happened quicker than normal.
Also, my ex and I split March 2018 and I haven't been with anyone since. The connection was gone even intimately before we called it quits. I haven't felt the urge in any type of way since then.
Then comes along this fella that peaks my interest &I reacted. Now, there has been guys that tried dating me and I wasn't interested for a few reasons, so I've been basically laying low and working on me in the meantime. I figured, I'm 40 now, I might as well enjoy myself... well the sex was really good, but I'm keeping it cool. I've come over to his house twice and he is very attentive, accommodating and a complete gentleman.
The first time we had sex, he was actually having a small family get together and his female cousins were making conversation and sizing me up, but I wasn't bothered. when the gathering was over that's when things took the next step (2nd time I've been to his home). He recently came over to my home and instantly things got heated. It was during the morning and we were both taking a break from work... on both occasions he seemed satisfying us both, while being firm yet gentle.

Anyway, he has made comments prior to us having sex such as:
-You seem like the type that gets attached
- you are the type to be afraid that someone would called you a hoe if you had sex early
- he likes me
- That I'm the one (I have no idea)
- I like our vibe
- I'm interested in you
I kept it cool, but I'm still left with an uncertain feeling about him. I wonder if he thinks I'm easy and does this type of thing often, which I don't, even though I was super freaky during our encounters.
He calls but usually communicates via texts. He has his own business, so I understand he isn't readily available, but I still feel like he may not be into me like I'm into him.
Help me with this?
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  • My sister just went through it with a guy that owned a construction business.
    This is my guess on him. Big ego. Is always right. Brazen. Actually saying you are the type…ugh it’s one thing to hear it from someone you don’t know online, but in person that’s just lazy and shallow. That word “type” is cringe as fuck.

    • That sucks and I can see that! While his female cousins were sizing me up, they made comments about him having money and other materialistic things. I wasn't impressed by that, and I have my own obviously, but that's another thing that I thought about in the back of my head. Why would they say that... were they trying to be his wing women or were they trying to figure out my intentions. When it came up, I started doing something else to let them know that I'm unbothered. The nerve of them all!!

    • I know what you mean. Their is different kinds of wealthy people that you will meet.

    • I hope so, because my clock is ticking. He is disappointing me.

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  • Look when we get to this stage of life we know what we want, sex is less of an awkward issue, we're not in the playground anymore. We tend to give it up more easily because there is less social stigma around sex and we know out bodies, we've all been there and done things. Don't over think this, but make sure you are doing date type things and it doesn't just turn into a sexual relationship if you see a future in it.

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  • Help u with what it seems like you just overthinking on your own insecurities

  • I am sure it is obvious that you are not a hoe. Life is short and you deserve a little fun. Let yourself off the hook.

  • You should talk to him about this?

  • Are you trying to have fun or get in a long term relationship possible marriage?

    • Eventually, I want to be in a committed relationship with the right person. Don't think I'm built to just have fun. It's never been my mo

  • It's impossible to tell if he is as invested as you. Yet if he's invested, does it matter?

    • Yes, it matters to me. I'm liking this guy and would like to know. I mentioned about us being up front... I've even asked him was he just interested in sex or wanting to get to know me more because I am ok with both. I said this because on one hand I'm ok with it and on the other hand I wanted to know where his head was so I can keep myself in check and not get too invested without it being reciprocated. Of course, he answered he'll like to get to know me more. But sometimes it's hard to tell, and that's my issue

    • If he's invested for the same thing you are, does the intensity matter?

    • I just don't like playing the guessing game. Say what it is and we can go from there.

  • You are over thinking like each other and had sex it all good

  • I think you are WAY overthinking this. Have some fun and see where the relationship goes.

    • It's hard to not think when you are wanting more possibly. I will try and do that

  • Well he hasn't given you any signs that he's not into you so into you so the only thing you can do now is wait and see what happens

  • Tldr but you’re a grown women I sure it’s ok to have sex a little early

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