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I was first asked for nudes on snapchat by someone I didn't really know when I was 12. I was horrified and immediately blocked them. Since then, I have been asked multiple times and said no every time, until about 2 months ago.
This time it was my boyfriend that asked. I at first said I was uncomfortable with it and didn't want our relationship to go in that direction yet, since we were just 16 and hadn't even been dating for 1 month. That wasn't true, I hate the idea of nudes and I just didn't want my boyfriend to think I was a prude. I'm kinda insecure though, and if a guy likes me, well, I don't really see how much of an asshole he is. He continued to ask and ask. Looking back on it now, I should've just broken up with him then because all he really cared about was my body. He didn't want to get to know me or anything. But me being me, I didn't see that and was scared I was gonna lose this guy if I didn't do what he asked. So I sent him one. He screenshotted. He asked for more.
I sent him about five before I started to panic. I was absolutely petrified of someone finding out. Before opening instagram, I had panic attacks in fear that he might have posted them. I guess that's just how much I trusted him. Another sign I missed.
Last week, I found out he was hitting on other girls and asking them for nudes too. I broke up with him, but said it was because we weren't talking as much anymore and I felt like we were growing apart. This was because I was afraid he'd get angry at me and share the nudes. I can't talk to my friends about him cheating on me because they might confront him and then he'll tell them I sent him nudes as revenge. I'm still petrified and I will never send one again. He wasn't even upset when I broke up with him. This is how I knew for sure that he didn't care about me at all. Only my body.
So guys, if you ask a girl for nudes, you are telling them that you don't care about their mind or their personality, only their bodies. Wait until we want to send them. Wait until we trust you.
Girls, if a guy asks you for nudes, you deserve better. Find someone who loves your brain over your boobs.
I have beaten myself up about this so so much and I don't wish it on anybody. I have realised now that I need to be confident in myself and I must learn how to say no. I shouldn't have to follow someone's every wish just because they say they like me. I need to be more secure in myself and my beliefs.
So if you really want nudes, Kim Kardashian's instagram has plenty.
What Girls & Guys Said
23 38I send unsolicited nudes to random people all the time
Nice mytake i agree
I am sorry that happened and if I could help cheer you up, then please never send anything sexual again. If you were my daughter, I'd be livid and irate and would search for that boy and inform his parents.
never do this
I'm sorry that happened to you.
And there are guys who won't ask. Or don't even like them.
I'm so terribly sorry to hear that, I hope you're doing better now.
Why doesn’t it show her age?
Cool duck
Thank goodness my brother is a decent guy that never asks his girlfriend for nudes. He even wrote a myTake on GAG about the chances of being identified from the photo and the Exif data contained in it.
Even innocent photos can identify you, or at least, where you live or other information about you. Gotta be so frickin' careful!
Send a picture of your nails with no nail polish on them. He didn't specify what had to be nude...
I've never in my life considered sending nudes and I really don't think it's advisable for anyone even if you love that person because in this day and age, there are hackers, there are people who break up and use the nudes for revenge, and even accidentally, someone may go through their phone/computer, and there you are.
I was recently actually watching a show where this woman's ex who turned out to be a real nut job, emailed her entire company her nudes after she broke up with him and filed a restraining order. She was then forced to quit and he threatened that anywhere she started working, he would do the same. I mean, you never know. There is such a real danger these days with being too public. Obviously, this is after the fact for you, so I'm glad you're sharing your story and hopefully it will make someone think twice about doing it. I'm also glad that perhaps you're starting to understand your self-worth a bit more. Anyone who would try to make you feel bad about saying no to something, especially something involving your body, isn't worth it.
I don't think I would have done this as a teenager, but it's good to hear this perspective since I have a daughter who will one day be a Teenager and possibly asked for nudes.
Nice myTake
I don't the same but I haven't shown my face (At least not to what I remember).
I feel the same way as you. but it ok
I used to send nudes a lot… to randoms online. I always thought that sending them was absolutely disgusting, until that day I got bored and made myself a kik. After about a week I was sick and tired of doing it but I kept doing it. Even though my family now low key hates me I’m kinda glad they found out. If they didn’t I would still be doing it now, and I wouldn't have the same dynamic in a relationship with a guy that I do now. Now, I avoid the temptation of sending nudes just so a guy will like me and I have realized many guys like me for my personality, not my body. I’m horrified that I ever did that and I know for sure I’m NEVER doing that again. I’m really glad that this was posted, I never would’ve been able to say something like this even though it’s exactly the way I feel!
My ex girlfriend used to send me nudes constantly on Snapchat. They go away. I returned the favor but NEVER showed my face.
Or... you could just not care.
So what if people found out you sent nudes, who cares? Pretty much only you.