This is about sex?

OK so me and my man have a great strong relationship, we're happy but we also have a past he did cheat on me but we were both young I choose to stay and forgive him I know he would not do that now I know. I've always had self esteem issues but I don't know he's seen every part of me but I just feel so self conscious when we're together I feel bad about myself my body my skills I just want to fake it or at least act like I'm confident how can I get over this. He deserves it I think I do to. Any suggestions please
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Superb Opinion

  • What we're dealing with is a failure to communicate. You are assuming you know what he values in a woman, yet you haven't taken the time to actually ask him. Find out what drew him to you in the first place, the special surprises he has discovered over time and what keeps him coming back. Never minimize what he says, even if you feel he likes something that society doesn't see as ideal. Whatever he likes, find ways to enhance that. Let him enjoy you as you are rather than faking what you assume he'd prefer.

    As an example, there are guys who prefer small-breasted women. Unfortunately, it is very challenging to find small-breasted women who feel good about what they bring to the relationship. They constantly assume he wants large breasts and is just settling for her. By not savoring his appreciation of her as she is, she ends up destroying the relationship.

Most Helpful Guy

  • No need to feel self-conscious about your appearance

    • I don't mean to it's ruining everything like we used to be able to watch porn together now I just think am I doing it like that I don't look like that I'm not doing it good enough... so on and so on and I'm pushing him away I'm hurting him he tells me I should be confident and that I'm sexy he could never be with anyone else our relationship is strong were different special I just don't know how to stop myself

Most Helpful Girl

  • So here’s the thing: you can’t sit there and say you are over his cheating when your self esteem issues with him stem from his cheating. You aren’t over it. What exactly don’t you like about yourself if you don’t mind me asking?

    • My stomach my lips my nose my butt my boobs I compare myself to other girls and I love women I don't want to be like that I used to have an open mind not care now I just try to hide

    • @Maybeeline why are you with someone that makes you feel so insecure? How does he treat you now?

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  • You need a wake up call. gtfo of there