Thoughts on friends with benefits relationships?

Any thoughts on Friends with benefits relationships? Anybody whose had one? Anybody who knows someone who has had one? Vote, comment. Let me know how you feel about them!
Eh. Sex without strings? Why not?
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I've had one and it didn't end well!
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I'm opposed to them.
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I've had one and it worked out great!
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  • i'm so down for it I'm like 6 feet underground.

    it worked out fine once, but then the girl stopped comin over for a very long time.

    i haven't seen her in like 3 years now. but there's no awkwardness between us at all.

    with another girl, it was going fine until she got all weird on me and ended it without explanation.

    now I know a few girls it could work out greatly with, but they're all too far from me.

    my homie has had and has a few girls he just hooks up with.

    its worked out fine for him cause he doesn't talk to them much, pretty much only when one of them wants to meet.

    this one girl now has feelings for him.

    but it seems to be under control since they're not together and they seem to want to be together.

    i find it very odd how some people want to be FWB exclusively.

    i can see how they'd be jealous about sharing even if they have no real feelings for the person cause most people(mostly girls) get attached after having sex.

    but I still don't see how people can seriously expect such a thing when its a relationship based mostly on sex.

    there's a difference between FWB who were already friends and FWB who only became friends due to their sexual interest in each other, so I can understand it better when the first get attached and want to be exclusive. but it bothers me that people in the second can be so irrational and clingy.

    if you're just having sex, why not share? why not take the opportunity to even have more fun and try 3somes or something?

    know what I mean?

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    I hate the term friends with benefits. First of all, I don't consider intimacy some kind of erroneous boon, it's not a 'benefit', and second of all, it implies there is no benefit to regular friendship. F***that.

    I only engage in sexually intimate friendships, I don't date. My heart belongs to another =] But, the girls I fool around with, they tend to be very close and intimate friends, and usually, there's a very deep connection, and there seems to be such a stigma about that... I've had countless sexually intimate friendships, I've never called them anything more than a friend, and they've all worked out. Alright, we don't always stay friends, but I don't even stay friends with the people I'm not f***ing. And a few of them are friends for life.

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  • FWB or no strings, casual sex is just not a good idea.

    No strings sex is as old as dirt. FWB is just a new packaging of an old deal. Women used to only be financially motivated to enter into casual sex. Not necessarily being a prostitute, but having the man take care of you in some way. Consider that women having access to the same careers as men being a pretty new situation. In the not so distant past, women had to rely on men in their lives to make it beyond a scrappy sub-par living.

    Now, FWB is being glamorized. Girls are supposedly "cool" if they can pretend they can have emotionless sex and be fine. Most women cannot. Most women secretly hope that any guy they sleep with will fall for them, and this applies to all sexual encounters. Doesn't mean she will want a relationship, but she wants to feel the guy thinks she is all that and a box of chocolates. Women tend to get pretty unhappy when they find out that the guy they are sleeping with would be just as happy to sleep with many other girls. Worse, when they find out that he never saw her as relationship material, and ends up with a girlfriend while they are still having their FWB deal, that really stings.

    So, I think people should consider more the value of emotional connections with others and avoid casual sex. For girls, don't be fooled, the old double standard of labeling girls who have casual sex as not being girlfriend material exists. It's just not worth it.

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  • I never wanted them, they happened by accident. I loved and really cared about these two guys, but as I was falling in love with them they didn't want a relationship with me. One had sex with me once before he told me we were just friends, we had been seeing each other alot. One told me he didn't want anything serious. Both of them just basically touched me till I was so aroused. I never really had sex again with the first but he fooled around with me a lot and I was so kind of in love and affectionate to him that no matter what he said I just wanted him so badly to be with me, to love me too. And maybe also with the second friend, I also just loved being with him, and I really couldn't help it. he wanted to have sex with me, I don't know if its just physical or not but he made me feel like he cared a lot about me, treated me very well, took me out on dates and to dinner, and we had really good sex together. But basically the only trouble with all this stuf is the fairytale ends, and usually he wants it to end, so that's what happens. its seen as a short term thing, and then it makes me very sad, because I would just love these people who didn't love me back.

    • Thank you for sharing.

  • Honestly, I don't think I could do it. I love being in a relationship, fully committed to a person who is committed to me.

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  • Unless people are going to make the obvious mistake of falling in love when even the definition of this type of relationship includes "no strings attached", I see no reason to avoid it, and many reasons to try it.

    • Do you think it's right for a guy to take out his FWB's close friend on a date, without previously informing the FWB?

  • I've had a friends with benifits friendship kind of thing,

    it was never supposed to happen it just kind of did...

    i wouldn't ever do it again though.

    I look back at them times and I feel cheap and nasty.

    But when I was in it I wasn't in a very good place, I was suffering from depression, so I did it to make myself seem like I was wanted in a way.

    I wouldn't advise people to get into them because nine times out of ten someone will get hurt.

    Sex shouldn't be thrown around.

    It should be kept between two people in a stable relationship...

  • I'm not opposed to them in general. If you enjoy it and you can avoid getting hurt, more power to you. But I wouldn't have one myself.

  • C. I know for a fact I would get attached to the guy and develop feelings for him and then just end up getting hurt.

  • i picked c. I'm a virgin and would probably get super attached to any guy I do it with >.<

  • I've had several long-term FWB's. The guys are still great friends of mine and when neither of us are in relationships it works out great for a hook up. The sex isn't emotional, we know that.

  • If a person chooses to do this the rules are simple yet impossible to follow

    - You can ONLY have sex with each other

    - No friendship AT ALL outside of sex

    - Meet for sex leave after sex no snuggling or kissing

    - You can ONLY have sex with each other

    - No conversation beyond initiating when to have sex

    Considering as to how every friends with benefits relationship I have EVER heard of in life FAILED miserably I declare them a lousy idea. UNLESS they are done with the instructions above.

    • oh yea. Never had one never will I'm married and oh.. I knew several people who tried this and failed.

    • Uhm... Relationships imply only having sex with each other. FWB don't.

    • exactly... this is the only way I believe you could safely satisfy your sexual needs and date. I don't believe you should have sex while dating. Save the sex for a relationship. Dating is just for seeing who you like and are compatible with. I'm very conservative with my sex life as you can see..

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  • I had one before with a friend I known for 3 years and we had always been attracted to each other, since we met just.. never dated. He and I were best buds very open with our lives and even talked bout our sex lives lol Then when we were both single we decided to be FWB. We actually did a good job because we didn't devlope feelings. And we still are great friends lol

  • If I ever met a man who told me he has had relationships like this, I certainly wouldn't think of dating him. Very unlikely that anything positive occurs during or after these kinds of relationships.

    Stay in the light, it makes for better thoughts, and how we think is what we are.

    • FWB is usually what occurs between relationships. If you were seriously dating a guy where he was intimate with you then he would not need the FWB. If he had both, well then he is just a player.

  • What's the purpose ? It looks youngsters are more and more burnt out at an early age these days.

    Usually these things happen when you are in your late 40s.

  • never had a boyfriend, or sex, so I really couldn't say, but I think I might feel a bit guilty having just sex and nothing else. you know?

  • It doesn't appeal to me personally, but I don't think they're wrong or dumb or anything.

  • Never been able to do that, I need to actually want to ~be~ with a girl in order to want to have sex with her.

    • You do want to be with that person...but just sexually. You don't have an ugly friends with benefits? Where is the benefit in that? LMAO

    • But he has to want to be with her romantically to want it sexually, apparently. I know a few people like that.

  • I can't find FWB's are real friend, because friends came without benefits, remove benefit part from friends with benefits then see how good friend are they?

    • i think is possible, that I would like to sleep with a girl doesn't make the friendship false, it just mean she is attractive. The problem is most friend with benftis are only that in name, when all they are is f*** buddie. But I think is possible.

  • Wouldn't masturbation be easier?

  • You have to both really be on the same page.

  • My thoughts on things are to try everything out at least once. If you're interested go for it. If things don't really work out as you hoped, then oh well. Lesson learned. It something that isn't for you. Everything is different for every person.

  • I hate them.

  • Had one once- I had no intention of dating him, and I never "fell for him" like some claim to do with friends with benefits, I would however get jealous seeing him flirting with other girls.

    At the time, I was just sick of relationships, but I'm over that phase now, so I don't see myself ever doing it again. haha

    • lol your only 17

    • And the Qustion Asker is under 18, so I think my answer is pretty relevant...

  • I had one, he ended up being my boyfriend now he's my ex. Haha, funny sh*t.. FWB-->BF-->EX

    I like them but I wouldn't want one anymore. I want to have sex with the guy I'm in a relationship with..

    FWBs are awesome if no one gets attach.. Some girls use FWB as a lean way to get into a relationship with a guy.. Vice versa..

    Just f*** and leave.. That's how it is.. I don't know why people want to cuddle, talk, and/or hang out afterward. -_-"

    • Maybe because they're friends? Are you talking about 'fvck buddies'?

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