Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
First, I am not slut shaming. As long as you are safe I see nothing wrong with having fun. I do however, think that men are objectified by women in their younger years. I do think that we as men are used sexually and it isn't even talked about in society. The sexual objectification of men doesn't even reach a national conversation. It isn't just women being left confused and lonely after sex...there is an untold story of men who's feeling are hurt because they really liked the girl.
A woman on dating apps between the ages of 18 to 25 is not looking for her next husband.
She is looking for her next boyfriend. A woman by nature is just a sexually polygamous as men are. We are created to be fruitful and multiply. To have sex and mate with as many people as possible for fertility.
A woman in her 20s is in her wild years of sex where she cycles through a number of boyfriends and gets to experience a variety of dick.
By the time she reaches 28 or 30 years old a woman likely has been plowed and rammed through by dozens of partners.
Then when she is finally seriously dating and is dating for marriage she will say, "I've only had 3 relationships. They were long term."
But if she is 32 years old and she has one relationship that was 1 year, and another that was 4 years, and another that was 2 years...that means she has had sex with 3 people over the span of 7 years...but wait..she is 32 years old.
Say she lost her virginity at the average age of 15. So there are an extra TEN YEARS of potential sex partners for her that are not accounted for. Either she was celibate or she had sex with a couple different guys per year. a couple times 10 is 20 guys. Maybe she had a break up and had a crazy week of three different guys. thats 23. You see what has happened to men now days?
We as men are just a cog in a while. Just another bedpost mechanic a few nights per month tickling her fancy because she is bored or lonely.
Me? I am not bitter. I am dating. I love women. But I feel I need to speak up on behalf of the guys who are too afraid to stick their phallus's out and start this discussion.
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34 45Women gonna woman. It just is. I recognize it and adjust accordingly.
But I will let her be responsible for her choices and not enable her. (i. e. STFA from women like that)
It is true that some women lie about how many sexual partners they had, which is just wrong and the man should indeed know, but don't forget if you are in a pretty steady relationship and they are telling you a number you don't believe, they are probably telling the truth. If you try to prove them false when it isn't so you will just wreck the relationship.
I'm honestly not sure what the question is, or if it is a question?
I think a woman who is sexually liberated is hot, empowered women turn me on. I know I'm in the minority of men who feel this way, and for what it's worth I'm also not into gigantic boobs.
Frankly, the more experienced women are better in bed. Not just the sexual positions and acts, but they are better at communicating their desires and sexuality in general. The worst thing in the world sexually is when it's awkward and uncomfortable because a girl is afraid to express herself sexually.
A lot of men seem to think that it's okay if they plow dozens of women, but any girl who has slept with more than a handful of guys is "not marriage material" That's complete bullshit.
This is not a question. It is a mytake.
I see that now :P
best of luck to ya!
Well I don't have to worry about this cus I know my self value & their way high above , nobody is gonna try to take advantage of me 🙅🤗
actively try to avoid girls. when they have a body count into the double digits or higher.
not really to shame them. more so because I would rather not be compared. to other people she has been with in her past.
because for both genders. if you go around giving up your best years to random people for free or cheap. almost no one is willing to pay full price for what is left afterwards.
Typically if a woman has had more sexual partners than I have fingers and toes, then this is an indicator of having very little or no self control. I tend to look at them like I would a high mileage car that was nearing the end of its life and headed for the junk yard. Me personally, I don't believe in the hook up culture. I don't believe in casual sex. Sex is something that happens either during, or after a commitment is forged. I'm not telling people how to live their lives or judging anyone. I'm just mentioning that as a reserved person, I am not attracted to those who hold nothing in reserve by being with untold amounts of men..
There's more.
Like it or no, The Creator designed men to seek multiple sexual partners while we are young. Why? Reproductive strategy with our species was barely surviving. Ironically, when we approach 40, we have had our fill and become "Mitt Romney", mentoring our daughters to avoid guys like we were. Fukking like minks in our 20's does not prevent us from bonding later on.
The opposite is true for women. Multiple partners gradually diminish their capacity to bond to a man or be an effective mother for her children. The insidious thing is that they can fake it for a while before they reveal themselves.
I disagree with this statement. The creator also says for one woman to take one man and one man to take one woman IE get married. However it's virtually impossible anymore for a man to get married unless he wants to take all kinds of risk. The only answer is MGTOW.
None of this is true for a lot of women
You might be right. Lets all discuss. Whats your number anyway?
This guy seems to think women and girls have sex always thrown at their feet and available whenever they want which most definitely isn't true. I won't say it's not easier but it's not like we can snap our fingers and suddenly a guy that meets out standards is there.
@CCammiee14 totally!!!
ANd that number he asked about?
I don't see the point in asking, you're just going to get lied to and/or lectured to about slut shaming.
You're better off just coming up with a ballpark estimate of what you think her past is based on her other traits/opinions and what kind of friends she has.
For example, a girl with more low-key traits vs. louder. The low-key may still have been a non-virgin, but the question then would be more of quantity.
This is so generalized and specific
I would not date a man who has one night stands
#don't want sex, but I want a long term relationship where a guy, but I can't even find. I prefer video gaming. sex is ok, but I wait until I with the right guy. it was ok take. you forgot about STD
Soooooo, after being together for 13 years, complete with children, my wife finally hit me with the ugly truth that she had been lying since we met. She actually had sex with about 50 people by the time she was 20 years old. Multiple 3somes with strangers and grown men while still a teenager, and had literally had sex with just about every male friend she had met (including the ones she had continued to hang out with when we were together). I tried to deal with that, and if there were not already so many issues, maybe I could have.
Thats awkward. But as long as she didn't cheat and you love her...
Even if your outrageous numbers are real (and not some made up fantasy) what difference does it make? If she's using him for sex and he's using her, who cares? If he's jumping everything female why shouldn't she jump everything male? You also don't take into account times when she isn't dating anyone, dates someone and realizes quickly that it's just a no, or any number of other possibilities. Reality, if she says 3, then it's probably 3; if she says 1, then believe her. If you don't, or can't, believe her them why are you with her? And again, it doesn't matter.
It comes down to trust. If she really matters to you then you trust each other and tell each other the truth. If she doesn't matter to you then why do you care if the number is 0, 1, 3, or 100, take proper precautions and it's still good.
It doesn't matter. Women have their secrets blasted and act like the my take is a bad thing. I specifically say that I dont think it is a bad thing. Maybe women are triggered because it makes them look bad? It doesn't matter. Now... what makes you think the numbers are real? I just made up a hypothetical example. These are real numbers. They are a fantasy. Made up just to prove a point. Now you ask why it matters. Well read my article. The point is that men are just a cog in a wheel. We aren't special. We don't have value to her like women do for guys. Women have higher sex partners on average. So by the time she meets you on a date she has had double and even triple the amount of sex partners. She is analyzing you based on assets other than sex. Your job, wealth, status, etc. guys we have far less partners and less options. So we have Oneitus. Does that make sense?
Words of a Man who gets it...
Lot of truth to this here. Plenty of females, after years of riding the cock carousel and they've developed a reputation, know that lots of guys won't want them and that's about the time they start to get desperate for a husband. And also the time they start getting mad if guys ask them what their body count is.
This is not surprising. What else could result from the advocacy of hedonism (at least in Europe, since the 60s), women's sexual liberation and hook up culture?
"A woman by nature is just a sexually polygamous as men are. We are created to be fruitful and multiply. To have sex and mate with as many people as possible for fertility."
This is the only paragraph I felt the need to comment on. We're too often reduced to biological machines, which human beings are not.
I would never be able to explain my past or background to my b/f. Is it really important how many guys or girls a person has been with? Don't let some random number be the reason you stay with or eliminate a person. Let the person and how they are with you determine how things go.
Yes, it’s important. It’s sounds like you are rationalizing it as you know it will be bad... and it will be.
Promiscuous women are incapable of pair bonding and will not remain satisfied in an LTR. While there will always be exceptions, the data are pretty clear about this.
Statistically the more partners a woman has the more likely she is to cheat, divorce, be unhappy in long term relationships (which should be a no brainer as she has trained herself for short term gratification and long term relationships take work and are not always fun (but will be rewarding in the end)), be dissatisfied with sex (because now she is comparing him to all the other guys she has been with but not even in a fair comparison but rather the best of all of those men with none of their worse aspects which no man can possibly live up to), and more likely to develop anxiety and depression issues all of which make her a terrible choice for a partner. So yes, it does matter.
@hellionthesagereborn Same goes for men...
@BlackCatBone Actually no, statistics show that its far more sever with women then men. Not that I suggest men act like this either, they shouldn't and why women encourage it (and they do) is beyond me.
Looking at some of your questions, I already notice the impact of your past on how you act with guys.
@BlackCatBone I agree with you... funny how some people read some article in people magazine and see those statistics as gospel truth... and for some of those others who commented... all I can about them is... judge much?
Our entire life is based on making judgements and then acting on those judgements. We all ''judge much''. It's essential.
Also women tend to be less happy in marriage in general. Only 65% vs 75% for the women vs men with only 1 sex partner. Maybe women shouldn't get married in the first place 😂.
@BlackCatBone That's not accurate. Traditional relationships bring women the most happiness. We also know that women who sleep around are less happy. We also know that society has been attacking traditional relationships and roles for decades now so naturally when your being pressured to not be traditional and to do all the things that don't make you happy your going to be less happy. Though I have no issue with women not marrying, so long as we get rid of the welfare system and men stop supporting women I have no problem with it (as it stands, women are still taken care of by men through welfare and other systems that are in place).
I think it's fairly important. I want to know if I am dealing with someone that has self respect, self control with personal boundaries versus someone who is easily pounded and rammed by any swinging dick that comes along.. A high mileage woman is like a high mileage clunker that wound up at the junk yard.. Used up by everyone and no longer of much value. And yes, I think it would be perfectly reasonable for women to judge men in this same light.
"By the time she reaches 28 or 30 years old a woman likely has been plowed and rammed through by dozens of partners. "
https://www.youtube.com/embed/h9wxtqoa1jYBe careful with these sensational claims.
Even though it sounds reasonable given some Hollywoodish-Brazzerish intuition, it's simply wrong.
It should be pretty obvious. If she tries to have sex on the first date it is likely a pattern. Barring LTRs, and assuming she succeeds 95% of the time (yes, there are guys like me who refuse), she probably averages 15-20 new partners per year. If she's 35 in this scenario 100 is a conservative number. I've known girls in their late teens who were already at two dozen or more.
I won't lie about it, there was nothing more I liked more than giving oral. I loved that more than actual sex. However assuming I weren't a 33 year MGTOW Monk, I wouldn't dare try it today because of the risks involved. You have no clue who's been riding the cock carousel and most women either have done so or are doing so now and you can't take their word for anything.