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Thoughts on sensory deprivation (BDSM)?

To anyone in the BDSM/Bondage community : I recently agreed to give myself completely to my husband and agreed to 24/7 bondage. In deciding this I simultaneously agreed to extended periods of sensory deprivation in which my ability to see and or hear is completely removed. I currently wear a padded leather blindfold 23 hours per day with no exceptions and am struggling with the complete loss of my vision. In addition to the blindfold I currently wear small sound isolating earplugs several hours per day which render me completely deaf. My husband albeit a wonderful guy is insisting that I wear both the blindfold and earplugs at a minimum 20 hours per day. I am struggling to cope with the loss of both my hearing and my vision simultaneously. I would really appreciate any advice reagrding sensory deprivation and hearing/vision loss in general.
Thoughts on sensory deprivation (BDSM)?
Thoughts on sensory deprivation (BDSM)?
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I told my husband that not being allowed to see or hear was too much and that I could not do it which I don't think it was what he was hoping to hear. He agreed that I no longer have to wear the noice cancelling earplugs and I agreed to wear the blindfold for only as he requires me each day up to a maximum of twenty-three hours. I appreciate all the responses I recieved and realized I need to slow down and really consider what it is I am doing.
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  • This is considered a form of torture, and your husband is making a very stupid choice that can cause you actual psychosis. You are a person, not a toy to break. Blindfolded 23 hours a day? That's bullshit.

    Have him read a book called The Loving Dominant. Get involved in the BDSM community so you can each be mentored by experienced individuals.

    And tell him you simply will not do more than an hour, and only when in scene.

    This 23hr requirement is not good for your health.

  • As said previously, if this is something that has you experiencing feelings of panic, discomfort, anxiety... you need to address this with your husband.

    Its something I personally enjoy, but only in small doses and strictly in the bedroom. Every Dom I have been with though, has known my boundaries and respected them.

    Also, as said before, this sexual activity without a safe word can be very bad. Safe words and boundaries and respect is not just a desire, but a necessity.

    • I really appreciate your advice. Could I possible ask for your advice on two other questions I posted? I sent you the link to answer them.

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  • Yeah, sensory deprivation, especially in a BDSM setting, is interesting and fun, but not for that long. It's bad for your mental health to be deprived of your senses that much, whether you previously have problems or not.

    • Hi @purpletarantula I agree there needs to be limits in a relationship in a relationship especially where mental health is concern. Me and my husband new to sit down and set stricter boundaries.

  • I've always wanted to try bondage but not BDSM. Honestly I couldn't be that committed to it that much.

    • Hi @CarLey99 bondage and BDSM are very similar. You need to start slowly and work your way up where sensory deprivation is concerned. Me and my husband frequently change and set new boundaries as the situation requires. Most importantly always make you are safe.

    • Yes but BDSM involves humiliation and I'm not into that.

    • I agree and neither am I.

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  • wow, I'd love to try it

    • The process of sensory deprivation is extreme even in small amounts. I would recommend you wait and consider if this is something you really want to do.

    • I know it is but I've already done some bdsm so know the basic framework to build it around with safewords etc. but the idea of being deprived of any sensory input other than him is appealing

    • You are only 17. Correct? I would urge you to reconsider. It is different being deprived for almost 23 out of 24 hours per day. You need to be prepared to give up a lot of things.

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  • That’s fun and handcuffs

    • It is. It becomes different when you choose to do it 24/7 though.

    • Oh your the slave.

    • Slave is not a term I or anyone I know in the BDSM community appreciates. The correct term is submissive.

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  • You agreed to do something, but now you don't like it?

    • It is not that I do not like it. The process has just been more stressful than I imagined that it would be.

    • Then you don't like it. Tell him that you don't want to continue with this if it's stressful.

    • BDSM/Bondage is stressful in general and doing it 24/7 even more so. I want to learn to overcome stress not just give up when something becomes to difficult.

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  • No deal. How do you cope with life?

    • It can be hard. I realize my lifestyle is not for everyone and may seem a little extreme. It is my own choice, no one is forcing me to do anything and no one is getting hurt.

  • Why the Fuck would anyone do that

    • I realize my lifestyle is not for everyone and may seem a little extreme. It is my own choice, no one is forcing me to do anything and no one is getting hurt.

    • Extremely extreme

    • Hi @Flower-petal I apologize for stretching the truth and although my lifestyle may be intense it is not quite so extreme as I previously made it seem.

  • I definitely could not do without those senses for as long as you’re describing. My anxiety would be through the roof...

    • It is definetly a challenge. The first time I was placed into total bondage including losing my vision and eyesight I screamed so loud from fear. It was even scarier thought because even though I knew I was screaming I couldn't hear anything. I thrashed around wildly for a little over 15 minutes from shear panic and fear. The panic did eventually overwhlem me and I passed out. It is not nearly as bad now although I stil usually panic a little the first few minutes.

    • That sounds absolutely horrible :(

    • It certainly was not pleasant. It was not the most embarrassing thing that has happened to me though. We had dinner at his parents house over the holidays. I had to wear my cuffs, collar and blindfold to dinner. My hands were tied behind me to the back of the chair and my ankles to the chair legs and the blindfold placed over my eyes. I was not allowed to wear any clothes except for a pair of black underwear. I had to ask my husband to feed me the whole me. The meal last almost two hours and I was seating next to his mother. I could have passed out right on the spot I was so mortified.

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  • You really should work up to that. Start with smaller amounts of time.

    • I appreciate your response.

    • Do you think there is anything I can do to help ease the process?

    • Make sure you have a safeword in case you need a break.

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