Three Reasons On Why I Hate The Idea Of Traditional Homeschooling

I always love to look at both sides of an issue. When I first started researching homeschooling, it sounded like an awesome idea. But, once I started to get a fairly good idea on what homeschooling was, I realised that it would never work for someone with my kind of perspective. If and when I have children, I don't think I'll ever be homeschooling or unschooling in the usual sense because:

1. I think it's silly and irresponsible to try to educate children with just books or a homemade curriculum. It's irresponsible because it's simply not possible for one parent to cover everything, let alone to a professional standard. I've heard of homeschool kids passing tests very easily, and while I'm happy for them, I don't think that proves they've had a broad education; it just simply means they passed a test. It might not always be ideal, but in PS, you can meet a really broad range of other kids, and have the perspectives of multiple different teachers and people, every single day. Even an online program, at least makes sure that all of the subjects are covered in a really broad range; not just from a particular perspective. It's silly, because when you have a free and online program that at the bare minimum can give you a really good idea of what the kid need to work on or be tutored in...it just doesn't make any sense not to take advantage of that. The online program doesn't need to be the center of the kid's education, but it should at least be used as a guideline.

2. The entire point of unschooling is to allow the child to find out what their interests are naturally, without forcing them into a school setting or impeding them with time/schedules. I think that's a lovely idea, but it doesn't make any sense at all for that to be the ONLY part of what they do. Why not just simply sign them up for an online program that they can use for a few hours per day, and that guarantees them a HS diploam? The parents could use the other 80% of rest of the day to teach their child however they want, and let the child explore whatever they like...But why take the risk of them not passing the GED, graduation tests, or needing to take remedial college courses? Why not just simply use an online and free service that barely takes any time out of the day to guarantee the kid will have the bare essentials, and do the community college or whatever they want ALSO? When I have kids, I want to give them child as many oppurtunities as possible.

3. I really want my children to know how to be self sufficient. In my family, by the time you reached double digits, you did all of your own chores and made your own plans. Our parents jobs were basically to work, make dinner, and take care of their own needs. As we got older, we did most of the cooking too, except for holidays. I noticed on the homeschooling and unschooling blogs, the parents plan out the entire day for their kids, and if there's nothing to do, the only option they have left is for the kid to follow them around. I think that could be really nice occasionally, but I really want my children to know that it's OK to be separate from me, and to NOT want to be near me, as I'm sure most older kids are.

I realize many parents do those things to make sure there kids don't turn out like the how many PS kids do...To put it bluntly, as someone who barely tells her parents anything, I have never in my life done drugs or alcohol or done anything sexual yet, and despite being asked out quite a few guys, I'm dead serious about STD and pregnancy risks. I don't do dangerous things because of logical reasons (I may write a My Take on that soon, people are always so confused when I say that :p), not because my parents disapprove.

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  • Your issues with home schooling have validity. Most home schooling parents rely on a set curriculum as do traditional schools. Parents need to be well aware when they're inadequate. I've had parents ask me to help their kid do a frog or earthworm dissection because the parent couldn't. Most home schooling parents are very aware that their kids don't socialize like public school kids and their thankful for that. It's that socialization that ends up being toxic in kids lives (frenemy drama, dating stresses, social rejection, bullying, drugs and sex for which the kids are not ready). To make up for that, homeschoolers are often enriched with sports, jobs, musical talents etc.
    Overall the homeschooled kids I know have broader knowledge, are more articulate and are more confident than
    their public school peers. I'm sure that's not necessarily the case elsewhere.

    • Thank you for validating my points, especially as someone who's had experiences with HS kids. I know the socialization can be an issue; many PS kids have the problems you mentioned... But, you might want to take a look at my answer on this Q, I got MHO: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1216031-what-is-the-best-way-to-discipline-kids

    • Also, I forgot to mention that stopping kids from going to school won't necessarily protect them from all of the bad things you mentioned. Unfortunately, in the society we live in, it's not taboo to do all those things even after a certain age... So when those HS kids interact with regular people, there's an extremely good chance they'll still have to deal with those things. I've met people in their 30s,40s, and 50+ who do the things you mentioned, and don't care about hurting people at all. LOL, I'm not saying people are terrible and there are TONS of kind people... But, knowing how to deal with bad kinds of people is very important too.

  • Home schooling (not traditional) could work with a group of parents with an academic background in different domains and with lots of free time. but even then, the children would miss a mass of social contacts they can only get through school.

    Traditional home schooling seems mainly to aim at brainwashing children into extreme 19th century conservative ideas.
    Just read lemmas in the conservapedia to see what the desired result is.

    I'd call it extreme demofobia.