'Tight pussies' are just a word, not reality?

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  • If you were born with a vagina, you’ve probably heard a lot about what your vagina “should” feel like. For example, maybe you were told that a “tight” vagina is a good thing, but a “loose” vagina is bad, based on the completely misguided idea that frequent sex can permanently reshape a vagina. Cue eye rolls so hard our eyes fall out.

    This uninformed thinking isn’t limited to the U. S. Around the world, “tight” vaginas are associated with virginity; so much so that in some countries, like India, doctors use the “two-finger test” to determine whether someone with a vagina is a virgin.

    The medical reality is that “vaginal laxity,” the technical term for how tense or relaxed the musculature in the vagina is, has literally nothing to do with whether or not someone is a virgin or how many people they’ve had sex with. Especially because making assumptions about someone’s sex life based on vaginal laxity assumes that the vagina owner is having penetrative sex. And we all know that there’s way more to sex than penetration.

    So, why is the ‘tight vagina’ myth so powerful that it just won’t go away? The short answer: patriarchy and misogyny. But there's a lot to be gained from exploring the long answer — including a better understanding of your pelvic anatomy — so let’s get into it.

    Where the “Tight vs. Loose” Concept Came From:

    We’ll start with an infuriating reality: Historically, and to a somewhat lesser extent currently, a primary way that patriarchal societies maintain power over people with vaginas is by controlling their sexual and reproductive behavior. (Limiting their ability to go to school, get jobs, and earn equal pay are others, but those are convos for another day.) And it all starts with placing a high value on virginity.

    Of course, there’s no physical test that can prove someone with a vagina is a virgin. So all sorts of ridiculous ways to determine virginity were invented. For example, if a bride bled on their wedding night, it was a sure sign they’d been penetrated for the first time — except it’s not. Sometimes, doctors examined prospective partners to make sure their hymens were still intact, even though the hymen can be broken by myriad non-sexual activities. And it should be noted that there is no “normal” hymen to inspect anyway. Hymens come in all shapes and sizes, and they change and wear down naturally as we age — sometimes they surround the vaginal opening, sometimes they curve around only the bottom half of the vaginal entrance, sometimes they partially block the opening — and luckily by now, we know that your hymenal appearance is an inaccurate measure of sexual activity. And, of course, a “tight” vagina was also considered a sure sign of virginity. So, “tight” vaginas became valued over “loose” vaginas.

    Additionally, the assertion that “tight” vaginas “feel better” to a penis-owner creates another unfounded and sexist reason to value “tight” vaginas. For one, what feels better is subjective — and one person’s experience isn’t more valid than another’s. Not to mention that a “tight” vagina can be a sign of muscle dysfunction that leads to painful penetration (more on that below).

    All of these myths are based on false understandings of how the vagina functions and changes over time. Given the woeful lack of sexual education in this country, it’s no surprise that some people with penises as well as those with vaginas are still on the tighter-is-better bandwagon.

    What You Should Have Learned About Your Vagina in Sex Ed:

    Your vagina is the fibromuscular tube that runs from your vulva up to your cervix. It is composed of three layers of tissue:

    1. A mucosal inside layer (the part of your vagina you can touch from the inside)
    2. A middle smooth muscle layer (smooth muscle is controlled by your autonomic nervous system meaning its function is involuntary)
    3. An outer layer that provides flexible structure known as the adventitia.
    The vagina is very flexible and adaptable. It can stretch big enough for a baby to pass and collapse small enough to hold the slimmest tampon in place.

    The vagina is influenced by hormones, your autonomic nervous system, and your age. Its structure changes during puberty, with each menstruation, and again during menopause. When estrogen levels are increased, the vaginal mucosal tissue is plumper and more flexible. When estrogen levels are low (like during menopause or when lactating) the vaginal mucosa becomes thinner and less flexible.

    It adapts during sexual activity as well. During arousal, the vaginal smooth muscle relaxes, allowing the vagina to expand open (it becomes looser by actual design!) in what is known as vaginal tenting. When not aroused, the smooth muscle stays active with intermittent and automatic contractions to assist in expelling menstrual blood and discharge. Similar to how your heart has a unique resting heart rate, your vagina has intrinsic compliance.

    Another thing to consider could be influencing how “tight” your vagina feels, is inflammation. Vaginal infections caused by STIs or yeast infections for example, may cause the mucosal lining of the vagina to become inflamed and less flexible. This could be perceived as tightness.

    Just like bodies, vaginas come in all shapes and sizes. Some vaginas are naturally wider than others, and may not feel as tight as other vaginas. Some people naturally have more muscle tone throughout their body than others, including the muscles of the pelvic floor and vagina. This can make the vagina feel tighter. People with chronic illnesses that impact muscle tone may have naturally weak pelvic floor muscles, which can impact how tight or loose the vagina feels.

    The point is, the sex you are (or are not) having, has very little to do with it.

    • @hawkes_lady Amazing!

    • Probably has more to do with child bearing but there are exercises for that. You seem very upset about this topic. Tighter vagina just feels better. I would have to see research that shows it's about sex or number/ size of partners for me to file that out.

  • First tight can be bad because it can hurt. Second its a muscle so 'getting loose' is not a thing. More so the opposite because of 'training'.
    Technically it can be a thing with the right training.

    For those who think they get loose with too much dick: did you know dicks shring dramatically in size when you fuck too many different people, because it tries to accommodate everyone and shrinks to fit the smalest.
    Thats not a problem if you only have one because than it knows how tohhandle that one instead of woring around to fit everyone. 🤣🤣 just so you now how stupid your logic sounds.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Male penises come in various sizes, so do female vaginas. Some are tighter than others.

  • It's actually two words... I'll let you go ahead and tight ones are just urban legend.

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  • Right on! "Tight" isn't really the best way to describe a vagina. It's more about muscles that relax and contract, depending on arousal. For a good experience, it's all about feeling comfortable and turned on. Don't worry about some random term!

    • @zoeysiren impressive definition.

  • It’s just a term, the vagina elasticity adjust on how wet she is, on her partner dick girth, on self-care-like pelvic floor muscles exercises.
    I’m not sure about Caucasian/European method for vagina tightening.
    Some ethnic groups or some cultures do have some method they use after sex or once in awhiles.
    Even dancing, like hip thrust helps with pelvic tightness so, so stop being a stiff stick wind those hips ladies.

    • @altheavas very interesting.

  • there are reasons for it to be "tight", including a medical condition.
    but the misconeptions mostly come from the weird ass beliefs of them getting "loose" with use or such.

    • @helpfulwoman strong point, so without medical issue its made up thing?

    • its "kind of" a thing. mostly from not enough foreplay and such, or if your partner may be very well endowed.

    • @helpfulwoman so most men say 'you are tight' 'tightest ever had' is actually a reality?

  • It comes from abdominal muscles.

  • Learn how a vagina works

    • @jahaims what your learning says?

  • I've known several girls who are very tight, even after having children

  • I like the vaginas of beautiful women

  • Some are tight and some are not. Go on YouTube and see Bad Dragon dildos. They range from small to extra large, and the small ones are big.