Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Ahhhh... the wonderous and vast world of online dating. Many twenty-somethings are turning to the world of online dating as a means to satisfy sexual desire, meets their one and only or see what the big fuss over online dating is about. Aside from those reasons, online dating also serves as a way for busy individuals to meet the opposite sex from the comfort of their own home! It would seem that love in the 21st century should be so much easier with these new ways to meet and communicate with the opposite sex, yet... online dating much things much more complicated. Here is my story and my take on the realms of online dating, but we will take a look at Tinder, an online tool in which I am all too familar with.
My name is Thomas. I am 24. I'm a pretty averag guy with a lot of ambition. I've always been the guy who many have called "Mr. Right". I am a college graduate and graduated top of my class. I wouldn't call myself athletic, but I value my health and hit the gym often and enjoy taking fitness classes. I also wouldn't peg myself as popular, but I do have a great group of friends that I hang out with every weekend. I enjoy doing community service at animal shelters. I work as an Account Manager for a major corporation. I live in a high class apartment complex and I drive a pretty nice car.
When you read all of this, you may instantly think that I have it made. You may think to yourself, "he sounds like a great guy and has all his ducks sitting in a row". Many people say this to me, but that's far from the truth. Because of my busy lifestyle and due to work, I have a hard time meeting women and my love life is in total ruins. That's when my friends suggested Tinder to me.
When I first got Tinder last fall (October 2014), I was so excited. I put my best pictures and I wrote a pretty detailed and honest biography about myself. I felt like a kid at a candystore. I was just swiping right to every woman that popped up. I would later just unmatch those women that didn't appeal to me in terms of attractiveness or persona. By the end of the first week of Tinder, I had over 170+ matches! During those proceeding months, I also went on dates with about 15 women. But those dates didn't really go anywhere at all. I continued to use Tinder for a while, and here are the types of women I would encounter almost everyday.
The Never Satisfied:
This is the type of women I would regularly encounter on Tinder. This type of woman will constantly complain about how there are no good men. How men only want sex. How men have always let them down. I have encountered this kind of woman many times on Tinder.
The High Standard Women:
This is another type of women that frequent Tinder. These women are looking for the impossible -- "Prince Charming"! Everything about the guy has to be perfect. He looks need to be on point. His personality needs to be on point. His career needs to be on point. His conversation has to be on point. They won't settle for less. I've actually went on a few dates with women like this from Tinder. Even if the date goes smoothly and everything was right... as soon as you say one wrong thing that doesn't meet their standards, they will instantly reject you. These women are also very smary, usually career oriented, attending graduate school and judge men very harshly.
The Girl Looking For A "Rebound Guy":
Ths type of girl is hard to spot at first... but as the conversation goe on, they will reveal how they recently broke up with their ex and how they are looking to meet new people. When you think about the term "rebound", you may automatically thing "sex"... but these women don't want to have sex with you. They will talk to you about their relationships as you are trying to get to know them, bringing up their ex quite often and telling you how awful or mean or terrible he was. To these girls, you're just another girlfriend they can share their problems with.
The Time Waster:
As the title says... these women are time wasters. You will go in circles with them until YOU decide to drop them or they get bored with you. These women aren't really looking to go on dates or meet you in person. They are just looking for social media buddies or trying to get their followers up. They will match with you because you are cute. Beyond that, they have no interest in ever meeting up with you or getting to know you outside of the digital world. There are a lot of women like that on Tinder of all ages... but a lot of them are usually 18-21 who hold this title.
Baby Mommas:
Depending on what you're looking for, these type of women aren't into games. They are willing to go out on dates with you, get to know you, and want something real. But... this all depends on you. Are you, a single successful male, willing to tackle taking care and spending time with another man's child?
The Clingy Woman:
Every man wants a woman to clamore all over him, but these women put the "boyfriend" tag on you too quickly. As soon as you start the conversation, everything seems to be flowing well and you too get along. You get her number and you begin talking more. In the coming days, she will badger you for not texting enough. She will expect you to plan dates with her. She will expect you to call her during your lunch break. If you have not talked to her in a day, she will get pissy with you and call you out on it. These types of women need to be stimulated by you 24/7... and if you are not showing them attention, they get angry... FAST. This has happened to me a few times. I also had to break dates I made with these types of women for personal family reasons, and they refused to go out with me or talk to me again for breaking the date!
In Closing:
Tinder is a fun little tool. Great way to meet women, talk to woomen and refine your skills. Beyond that... it's not a great way to forge lasting relationships with women or even hookups (all women on Tinder say they don't want to hook up in their profile).
If you use Tinder for dating purposes, you will be sorely disappointed. After using Tinder for so long and meeting this types of women, I have come to the conclusion that many women on Tinder are there because they are "bad daters" or want something very specific.
I will probably have to get out there in the real world and try meeting women the old fashion way -- IN PERSON
MEN:
Have you ever used Tinder and experienced these types of women? What are your thoughts on online dating and using Tinder?
WOMEN:
Do you think online dating and even Tinder is an effective way to meet other men? Do you agree that women who use social media are "different" than those that usually meet men in real life situations?
What Girls & Guys Said
12 17Thought I'd try this app out today, downloaded it and it wants to send me a phone verification code but it won't send it. Anyone else have this issue and know what the problem is or how to fix it?
i guess i could be considered what you called a "timewaster" , as i haven't ever been on an actual date on tinder , but its not because i don't want to , im just very shy and also worried that guys only want sex (which is often the case on tinder). its not to do with reaffirming anything about my appearance. social media can be good in terms of talking and connecting with people , but i find i am pickier than i would be in reality (say i met one of the guys in a bar)
I signed up for tinder with very little expectation. I matched with a guy who started messaging me, soon gave me his number than we went out on a date and have been dating ever since. Its effective for some people, but not everyone.
Nice! Can't say I've ever used Tinder before, but it does change the game to some extent. I think now more than ever you need to know exactly what you want and when you want it. That's the only way to know when to stop looking and also how not to waste time as you go. For me, if a girl doesn't at least kiss by the second date and seriously make out by date 3 or 4, she's probably not interested in me in a way that makes a relationship make sense.
I was on Tinder for a few weeks last year. Met my then-boyfriend through it. Initially I went a little overboard to be honest. Had a date for every day of the week at one point, but after I found three guys I was really interested in, I stopped using Tinder and continued dating them until I agreed to more with just one of them. I got a lot of dating experience out of it. It was summer then and I had the time, so it wasn't too hard to talk to many people and go out on dates with them, but at the end of this experience I realized some things:
a) Tinder can easily suck up a lot of time if you talk to even a quarter of the people who want to talk to you
b) It does give you more practice with talking to people you like, flirting, dating in general, and what to say and not say when turning down someone
c) related to b - so I always offer to pay my way, but I realized a good thing to do if you're sure you won't see him again is to really insist on it even if he protests, because otherwise you might feel guilty or like you owe him
d) Plenty of guys on there are just looking to hook up, but there are also those who are looking for something more. Sorting through them can be a challenge but I picked up some simple ways to do that
e) Guys come up with some of the weirdest, and most disgusting lines lol. Some of the filth I've been subjected to reading... I can't even. You can think you're talking to a nice guy and then BAM
f) This one taught me something about myself. As exciting as it can be at first, I really dislike dating/talking to many guys at once. I need to be able to focus on just one or a few at most. I get too detached otherwise. There is such a thing as too much choice, and it's not healthy and screws with you
g) I'm glad I at least met a great guy though it and we had a good relationship, but the next time I'm single (I'm not now) I don't think I'll be returning to that app. The old-fashioned way ftw
This was cool, and gives me hope. thank you
I'm not handsome enough for tinder
I have used social sites to meet men and I have found the love of my life online, you are so limited in person, but online you can find the person you define as perfect, you don't need to settle. I don't think women and men who use oline dating sites are any different from those who don't because a normal person uses dating sites and other normal people don't/