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Tips for a good Handjob?

I recently started hooking up with a much more experienced friends with benefits . We haven't had penetrative sex, but he has fingered me and gone down on me. He basically has brought me to at least near orgasm every time we've been together, but this is my first series of sexual experiences and I have no idea what to do. I tried jerking him off, but I couldn't tell how into it he was and he doesn't really like talking about the experience because that makes it "less fun". I really could use some tips on how to turn him on and at least jerk him off successfully.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Use lube or saliva to make sure that it's wet enough, you don't want too much friction because that's uncomfortable.
    Have your hand "upside down". Meaning, instead of your thumb and index finger being at the tip of his penis, they should be at the base of his penis. This will give you a better grip, and it will better simulate the kind of grip he has when he jerks off (the thumb is resting on the upper part of his penis rather than on the underside, and your palm and the rest of your fingers are basically rubbing on the underside of his penis instead of the upper side).
    Focus a lot on the tip, maybe rub around it a little and apply more pressure as your hand goes up. Put your entire hand around is when you reach the top and gently massage it until you go down again.
    You could also cup his balls and play with them a little if he likes that.
    Start off slow, and build up speed and pressure as you go on. Don't go too fast and hard though, since it might hurt or feel uncomfortable.
    The moment it starts feeling more dry (which might happen if you go at it for a longer time), apply more saliva or lube.

    • * put your entire hand around IT *

  • Assuming he's circumcised, make sure to get some form of lube as he'll probably dry out quickly and nobody likes painful friction. If you don't have actual lube with you, olive oil will suffice. As for what to do with the actual hj, move your hand up and down. You can do it in a bit of a twisting motion to keep things interesting, with the movement being in your wrists to get the twisting.

    Since for guys, the head of their dick is pretty equivalent to the female clit, on the upward stroke you can remove you hand from around his shaft and let the palm of your hand make contact with the head before resuming the stroking, if that makes sense.
    Also a good idea to throw in some gentle stimulation to the balls with your other hand.

  • If your open to also using your mouth. Maybe have your hand at the base of his dick and your mouth at the top part. Then have both your mouth and hand move together. I always think of the mouth part like trying to eat a popsicle. Since your just sucking/licking it and avoiding using teeth, lol. Also like one dude in the comments said. The tip is pretty sensitive.

Most Helpful Guys

  • The best Handy is therapy, not passion. Soothing, followed by a burst of pleasure. It's best done sitting up beside your guy. Use plenty of lotion, especially at the finish, to avoid chafing, giving him a two hand erotic massage from nipples to knees. That's also the time also to slowly massage his package. When he's fully hard, go for the finish by very rapidly stroking him penis while massaging his sack. When he begins to ejaculate, stop all motion but grip his penis snugly. Resume slower stroking when his squirts slow down. by the way, I like to have hand access to a boob to get a little more inspiration while she's attending to me.

  • to turn him on.. use lots of teasing, show some skin like more cleavage, thigh, butts etc...
    for handjob, firs kiss the tip of his cock and lick it over with saliva.. thats the most erotic way to lube it. then use hands and use gentle long strokes first. concentrate on the head and below the head where lots of nerves are there.. change your strokes and pressure on the cock and also pla with the balls a bit. when the guy is about to explode, take your hands off and tease him till he begs u to make him cum.. then do it with fast strokes :P

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  • Just blow the guy, most of the time we're masters at our own craft and you won't be able to jerk us better than we can jerk ourselves

  • Tip 1: use your mouth. Every guy is a pro a giving himself a handjob and why would we want something that we can already do ourselves?

  • Use your mouth

  • Cut your nails really short... need i explain why?

    Also, USE LUBE. For crying out loud! I hate it when girls jack me off dry

  • There are a lot more nerve endings in the tip of the penis so try to touch it more than the base

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