Tips how to last longer in cowgirl position?

I'm 20 years old girl, 5'3" and ~160 lbs. Me and my boyfriend both love when I'm on top, but I get tired very fast and can't go on for long... My legs are burning, I'm out of breath and have to stop. Is it all about fitness or is there some technigue I could use to last longer?
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  • Most girls get exhausted after few moments being on top. When it comes to sex positions, some are just much sexier than others. I love missionary too but it does not have the same oomph as cowgirl, lot of oomph. Not only does it let the woman take control, it is also an amazing position for feeling confident in general. And part of what makes it one of my favorite sex positions is that there are so many ways to mix it up.
    It can be fun and exciting for couples, especially because variations on cowgirl can help give you access to the G-spot and allows a different view for each partner. The only problem is, if you are used to taking a less dominant role, then it can be a little intimidating to be on top. It can definitely feel exposing or a lot of pressure climbing on top and taking control, but it is so worth it. If you are feeling a little nervous about being on top, lean forward so you are closer to your partner and you can use your arms to brace yourself. It gives you the feeling of security, you can then use them to help move up and down, grind, whatever you like. You can even lie down on him. Similarly, you can use your arms to brace you but instead of leaning forward, lean back. This gives your partner a crazy good view and also gives a great opportunity for him to play with your clit, which makes the position about a billion times better immediately. You're in control, remember that. You're in charge and the view means your partner can see you being 100 percent in charge, so work with it. You can tease them with a just-the-tip situation, or once you get them close, you can back off and start again. Play around— teasing and anticipation makes everything stronger. Once you get your balance, you can use your arms and hands for other things. Even though you are in the dominant position, it does not have to be with your partner completely horizontal. Lap dance or lotus is surprisingly enjoyable. Playing with expectations keeps things interesting and emphasizes the interplay between you. Mix it up.
    There is an art of a lazy, clitoral satisfying cowgirl position. Cowgirl often entails bouncing up and down at a rapid and uncomfortable speed and you cannot enjoy yourself in the least. Add some extra lift, take two pillows and stick them under each knee. This is most successful with couch pillows, as they are less squishy than your sleeping pillows. Your partner still gets the full range of motion, but you don't have to bounce as high. Use your words to guide your partner into an alternate position. For example, “You are so sexy when you dominate me." Be creative. Avoid taking the fire out of the moment and simply shift the moment to something else. Lotus is a great alternative to cowgirl because you are still on top, it adds an extra layer of intimacy that is very sensual.

  • Also, in reverse cowboy I try to use the bed as a kind of trampoline. It helps you get back up again without too much hassle. Just make sure the penis doesn't slip out all the way, because then if land on his penis things might go wrong for him.

    Still, cowboy is pretty heavy on the legs. I think it might be more effort than normal fucking tbh. Let him fuck you from beneath as well indeed. Moreover; take breaks grinding (moving foreward backwords) while tightening your pussy repeatedly. Gives your muscles some rest and it feels fantastic for him. (Well for my boyfriend at least)

  • If you aren't physically fit this can contribute to you feeling out of breath and feeling that burning sensation

    Techniques maybe try going slower

Most Helpful Guys

  • Cowgirl sex does NOT require posting/bobbing. Just mount up, plug in and "dirty dance". Of your legs burn from posting, that solves the problem. If they burn from being spread wide to "ride", cowgirl may not be for you.

  • Simple you do 300 sit ups and pushups and run 15 miles with 90 extra pounds of weight every day

    • HAHA. I tried to do 30 sit-ups but failed at 20. I can't even do a proper girl push-up. I tried to run a mile but felt like passing out after 400 meters. So...

    • So work at it tell you can

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  • Grind with your hips and/or lean forward and let him thrust up.

  • It's the fitness, if you excercise and do it frequently you will gain stamina.

  • Try grinding instead of the constant up and down.

  • Embrace the pain. It’s a fun work out:)

  • 160 seems pretty heavy for 5'3". Probably just very out of shape.

    • It's about 40 lbs overweight, so quite out of shape

    • @Nachowedgie That's rue. Not proud of that.

    • Well at least you understand and realise it. It would definitely help many aspects of life including your sex life if you lost some weight, even 20lbs would make a big difference

  • Its honestly all about fitness but how big is he down there?

  • If you want to be better at it, do it more often. Porn stars do it forever because they have been doing it, forever...

  • Use your pussy muscles (kegel) to squeeze his cock. If you get tired, switch.

  • Let him do his bit

  • He can thrust up into you for a little while, while you rest s bit

  • Better fitness would help

  • When you get tired, let him fuck you from underneath.

    • Also, in reverse cowboy I try to use the bed as a kind of trampoline. It helps you get back up again without too much hassle. Just make sure the penis doesn't slip out all the way, because then if land on his penis things might go wrong for him. Still, cowboy is pretty heavy on the legs. I think it might be more effort than normal fucking tbh. Let him fuck you from beneath as well indeed. Moreover; take breaks grinding (moving foreward backwords) while tightening your pussy repeatedly. Gives your muscles some rest and it feels fantastic for him. (Well for my boyfriend at least)