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Vaginismus
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Treatment
A health care team made up of a gynecologist, physical therapist, and sexual counselor can help with treatment.
Treatment involves a combination of physical therapy, education, counseling, and exercises such as pelvic floor muscle contraction and relaxation (Kegel exercises).
Your provider may recommend injection of medicines to help relax the vaginal muscles.
Vaginal dilation exercises using plastic dilators are recommended. This method helps to make the person less sensitive to vaginal penetration. These exercises should be done under the direction of a sex therapist, physical therapist, or other health care provider. Therapy should involve the partner and can slowly lead to more intimate contact. Intercourse may ultimately be possible.
You will get information from your provider. Topics may include:
Sexual anatomy
Sexual response cycle
Common myths about sex
Outlook (Prognosis)
Women who are treated by a sex therapy specialist can very often overcome this problem.
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Vaginismus
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Vaginismus Treatment
Women with vaginismus can do exercises at home to learn to control and relax the muscles around their vagina. This is called progressive desensitization, and the idea is to get comfortable with insertion.
First, do Kegel exercises by squeezing the same muscles you use to stop the flow when you’re peeing:
Squeeze the muscles.
Hold them for 2 to 10 seconds.
Relax the muscles.
Do about 20 Kegels at a time. You can do them as many times a day as you want to.
After a few days, insert one finger, up to about the first knuckle joint, inside your vagina while doing the exercises. You might want to clip your fingernails first and use a lubricating jelly. Or do the exercises in a bathtub, where water is a natural lubricant.
Start with one finger and work your way up to three. You'll feel your vagina's muscles clenching around your finger, and you can always take your finger out if you're not comfortable.
After a while, you’ll be able to put cone-shaped inserts into your vagina for 10 or 15 minutes to help your muscles get used to pressure.
For women whose vaginismus is linked to fear or anxiety, therapy often helps.
You are going to need to find a therapist that deals with vaginismus with a combination of counselling therapy and physical therapy. Vaginismus is a psychosomatic condition created by the brain giving a physical response, you need to overcome whatever the route cause is.
If you speak to your doctor they should either be able to refer you or point you in the right direction.
I'm not sure we have any doctors on this site who can answer this question. I have never heard of it myself.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Practice kegels and try dilators. Maybe those will help make sex more comfortable for you.
Make sure the guy goes easy on you as well
I've never heard of this
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