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I've never had sex before and I'm now in a relationship where he wants to be intimate and I'm scared.
I have so many questions in my head. Like will I regret this? Do I want to do this outside of commitment? Should I just suck it up and lose it. I don't know. I feel that I should talk to someone but not my mom because she tends to be overbearing in all aspects. It's hard to get through to her. She acts like she's never had sex outside of marriage but I'm pretty sure she has because she would have bragged about waiting if she didn't.
I don't want to talk to my dad about this because obviously he's a guy and doesn't want me dating till I'm 100. lol My sister is too little and I feel like I have no one to talk to so I'm writing it out. I don't want to sound like a baby about it but I don't want to regret anything. Everyone who says the didn't wait says they regret it. And everyone who didn't kinda wishes they didn't do it with the first person they did it with.
I want to live my life with no regrets either way I go. I need to develop a healthy attitude towards this but until then I'll continue to wait it out and think about it before jumping to any conclusions.
What Girls & Guys Said
26 39I wasted my virginity and I do regret it, but I say I wasted it because the girl I did it with doesn't care about me and I didn't care about her.
I would've much rather have saved myself for my current girlfriend but I missed out on that by my own doing but I'll be her first. Sex is a wonderful thing that's meant to be a loving, romantic activity done between two people who love eachother.
If you do love him and truly believe that his heart is in the right place, then I'd say go for it and have sex with him.
Don't be afraid to talk with him about it as well, communication is great and if he is kind hearted like I'd hope he is, he'll understand you might be a bit puzzled as to what to do when you get started.
He'll take the lead and guide you and he'll know how to do it if he knows you well. If at any point you decide you're not ready, he'll understand, if he reacts negatively and gets mad, we'll there's your dead giveaway that you made the right decision.
Take it slow and don't be afraid to tell him to slow down, I've read very mixed stories about girls losing their virginity. The hymen will be stretched and this usually causes a bit of bleeding and some pain. Although just as many people are saying that doesn't happen as people saying it does happen, so your mileage may vary
yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited.
Don't do it. He will dump you. Any man who needs sex to stay in a relationship does not love u
It's one thing to demand it, it's another thing to say that he feels ready and ask her if she feels ready. I'm in a similar situation with my girlfriend of 3 years and yeah, I'd love to do it with her but I've told her if she's not ready, I'm cool with that
@Rangers u are a great guy
If you are not sure about it don't have sex. You will know when you are ready for it. You're just not there yet
So just don't do it. Save yourself the trouble.
Don't rush into sex with anybody.
Yeah saw him with another girl the other day
Do it when you feel its right. It should occur naturally, and not forced. This goes for the guy too.
This is only a question you can answer for yourself. I'd like to make you aware of female pair bonding before you make your decision. I'd leave a link but I'm not Xper level 3:/ Google it. Honestly depends on what you want, fun? or commitment / marriage? Actions have unforeseen consequences & the more you know will help you make an informed decision on what you really want.
Most guys this age just want to have sex and are not ready for commitment. I'd advise you to wait till marriage but that's your choice. Let the guy make his intentions clear and dont let him fool you.
Make sure you trust him, whoever you do it with. Since it will be your first time, it will prbably hurt and you want to be with someone who doesn't want to hurt you. When you decided to do it, do cowgirl, that gives you the most control. I personally say that virgins should wait a minimum of 6 months before considering sex in a relationships. Most people are not okay with this, and usually 3 will be good enough to know if you see the relationship as being somewaht long term. Sex will change your relationship, but unless he's looking to fuck and dump, it will make it stronger.
he keeps telling me to get on top of him so I can control it but I'm not sure
That's better for the girl who is losing her virginity
If you’re sixteen, you’re ready for teen Shrek’s. AAAAHO
How do you know you're boyfriend girlfriend, if you haven't had sex yet?
That's a really uninformed thing to say. You can have a relationship without sex just as surely as you can have sex without a relationship.
@1stupidrobot Nope
relationships are about commitment and connection, sex can be a part of that or not. it may be that you wouldn't consider someone a girlfriend without sex, but that isn't the standard for everyone.
and stop being a DB
@KennyG72 You are totally wrong and stop being a jackass
@KennyG72 @miseriacantareafi thanks guys!
You know they're wrong, right?
Girl he gone take your virginity then leave you🤣🤷🏾♀️
yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited.
Wow shaking my head dudes so fake
Keep it and decide later when you think it is the time.
Keep your virginity babe wait till married and don't waste it for anything!
yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited.
don't don't it because most likely you won't be with this guy forever so just wait
yesterday I saw him in town with another girl. And while I’m kinda sad I did ask for clarity on the situation and I got it. So not sure how to feel rn but thank you! Definitely glad I waited. You guys are awesome though
You are the only one who gets to decide if its something you regret. It baffles me the puritan undertones of this country. Sex is awesome & the more you practice, the better it is. If you are feeling pressure and you cave to that pressure, then you are having sex for the wrong reason. If you wanna fuck your boyfriend, fuck him. Remember that sex is not love, virginity is super overrated, and if your parents are too square to talk to, find someone else you are personally close to. Never ask a random group of strangers on the internet
Im finding a girlfriend please
okay?
If you keep it it’s yours
What’s yours is powerful you control it
It’s up to you but it doesn’t hurt being the boss ~ boss move lol
It’s up to you I mean at the end of the day do it or don’t do it only because that’s what you want. don’t get obsessed with certain rules.
But you are questioning it so I think it’s a no?
At the end know that married couples and couples who are together for so many years still break up because they lost their “love” or whatever the reason ~ so where did the “ have sex because it’s vital for a relationship go in a broken marriage ~ smh society is here to fool you not help you.
Do what feels right for you
if you're scared then you're not ready. wait more...
Depends how old you are, what are you scared of? Is he experienced? Eventually you will be curious and hormones will kick in but it should never be forced, you need to be comfortable with them
Would love to know how you kept your age range out of the profile even anonymously
19 he's definitely had sex several times before
You don’t need to be afraid of it, just take it slow