People should not pressure other people but they should also not be selfish about sex either. He should offer her sexual favors and if she declines then he should respond by going off and jerking off by him self or vice versa if she's the one doing the offering. It should never be "come here and give me head." It should be, "may I give you head?" Most people who get head are willing to reciprocate. If that does not happen then the person should masturbate by themselves and if their S. O. complains then it's their own fault for not wanting to participate. So for me I usually start by offering to massage something or kissing her or something like that. If she's not interested then I usually just say "OK will then I'm really horny so I'll just go find something to jerk off to." Most of the time this results in her eventually seeking me out.
It’s OK to ask. It’s not OK to pester or whine or pressure someone. It doesn’t matter if it’s marriage or not. If your partner isn’t meeting your needs, that’s a whole different thing than not getting it whenever you want it. It needs to be discussed separately.
Also, FYI, while blue balls is real and is indeed uncomfortable/painful, a guy doesn’t get it from not having sex. He gets it from long make out sessions with no relief or stopping sex before climax. So guys that say that are just trying to make you feel guilty.
If your sexual needs are wildly different, you might have trouble over the long run, even if the entire rest of your relationship works.
It's best to get to know each other well before you decide to be longterm partners.
This takes time. Counselors and therapists say sometime between a year and 18 months is typical.
But sometimes this doesn't come up until several years into a relationship.
Then the people invovled have to decide whether they can tolerate a partnership that is or is nearly sexless.
For some people sex isn't important. For most people, this would be a problem.
I think if they're not meeting your needs, it's okay to pressure a little, but emphasis on a LITTLE. No one should feel bad about not wanting to have sex with a specific person or at a specific time. If it's a consistent issue, bring it up. Otherwise, let it be, or playful teasing at most, if you know they won't mind. I suppose in that way, I should've voted 'Only if it's been a while'.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Like everything, if you're in a relationship then the best place to start is discussion and agreement. I knew from the start that my boyfriend has a much higher sex-drive than me. He needs it every day, ideally more than once some days. I only need it a couple of times a week, maybe slightly more sometimes. But because I love him, and he treats me fantastically, I don't see this as "his problem" if he's really in need of it and I'm not, and I'm not going to ask him to always masturbate, or let it get to the stage where he gets blue balls. So mostly, if I'm not in the mood at all, I just give him a quick hand-job, it makes no difference to me whatsoever. It's a few minutes of me moving my hand up and down, I even do it while still watching TV sometimes with him sitting next to me. To me it's really nothing, but to him it's everything, so I'm happy to do it. When we do have sex together it's great, so the situation is win-win. But I see no point in being in a relationship, and even letting your partner get to the point where they have blue balls, let alone wondering what to do about it.
If guys get really pushy to the point it gets rapy, I just block them off. I do however think it's normal for guys to beg for sexual favors at certain points and it doesn't irritate me.
Pressuring someone for sex just shows that sex is the only reason you're with them.
It also shows a lack of understanding of who that person is, and highlights your own shortcomings.
If you have to pressure someone into having sex with you, then you're already doing something that makes people not want to have sex with you. Lol
And I can confirm, blue balls suck.
But I also have the capacity to relieve myself if it's really that bad.
If a guy tries to pressure you into sex by saying he's got blue balls, he doesn't. Because if it was that bad he wouldn't be wasting time trying to convince someone to fuck. He'd be taking care of it. Lol
Your 25 years old and you believed that blue balls story?
I said I’ve been told, never said I believed it, because I find it absolutely ridiculous when they have a hand to make us of.
It’s never okay to pressure or coerce someone in to doing sex or a sexual act.
things are based on trust and respect.
it’s just wrong
Its not okay to pressure someone into sex period. If there is an issue with one party feeling their sexual needs are not met then you sit down an talk about it. If it becomes a severe issues of contention then you should begin re-evaluating whether you want the relationship to continue or not
That’s a tricky question pressure and convincing are two different things and context is everything if it’s playful and not forceful then it’s fine if there’s more to it to where you feel uncomfortable then be straight out you two may just not be sexually compatible which can cause major issues like rape which is not ok and totally possible even in marriage
Pressuring someone to have sex isn’t a good idea. I mean who is going to enjoy a nice tussle in the bedroom if they were pressured into it?
when I want it, Im getting it.
Never. It's disrespectful and unloving.
Depends how far you two are in the relationship.
Never tbh. You need to let them feel relaxed and let them know it’s okay. 😊
It's never okay to pressure someone in my opinion
It’s never ok.
Everything up to coersion is fine, a long as your partner isn't annoyed with it.
By that, I mean SHORT of coersion. Violence is out.
Hopefully it's never an issue because she wants it just as much.
Hand them some baby oil and tissues and tell them good luck. If he keep going remind him that a slap to the balls hurts more than blueballs, so he can start pumping or shut up.
I haven’t gotten blue balls since I was like 15. If it’s that serious just jerkoff lol
I don't think you should ever pressure someone
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