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I love to wrestle and "humiliate" my girlfriend. Am I strange? I love to wrestle my girlfriend, pin her down and put her head between my thighs until she's totally helpless and unable to defend herself. I tickle her and cover her mouth with my hands while she tells me to stop. I enjoy it very much, even though she doesn't seem to like it. I just love the feeling of totally controlling and dominating her. Am I strange? (I'm not a bully by the way. I only tease my girl.)
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36 21honestly that sounds sickk and kinda lik rapist sh*t lmao sorry ... but its kinky lol but yes you are kinda strange
I would definitely not be into the 'humiliating' part of that. Wrestling. . . HOT as hell! Not necessarily being 'weak and helpless', but wrestling does sound like fun. . .
@gonaners16 I totally agree with you! Wrestling is definitely fun and can certainty be hot (depending on the relationship you have with the girl, I’ve had a great time wrestling girlfriends and girls that are JUST friends) and I never want them to be “helpless and weak,” it’s WAY better if you know you might actually lose :). So have you wrestled before or do you just think it sounds fun?
No! I'd love you to do that to me, especially if you spank me as well.
Just as long as your not over doing it. Regular Guy said it best though.
to tell the truth, I mean it is kinda creepy. but if you are doing it out of love then its cute. ha. I mean like if my guy did that to me I wouldn't mind it but if he does it to the point where I am scarred. that's when you have something to worry about. ha. but if she hasn't said anything about it. I think you fine she probably likes it
nah lots of guys do that
Save the domination for sex dude!
Seriously you might want to see a counselor or something to see where this stems from. It doesn't sound healthy at all, go through it in your head and put yourself in her place. Would you enjoy being dominated and controlled like that?
If you really can't get passed that, join and adult site and meet a girl who enjoys that. Then you can be in heaven.
"It doesn't sound healthy at all" why? it's play wrestling. it's fun. look, if she told me to stop it I'd stop immediately.
It's your fixation with it that's unhealthy dude. Is it fun for her or you? Cause if your the only one enjoying it, it really isn't good. Ask her how she feels about it, if she likes it then no problem dude. I get the feeling that you posted cause she's been complaining. Regardless it it's innocent or not, if it's being forced on her it's abuse.
I think it depends on how far you take it. If you're just fooling and you both know it, I don't think it's strange. If your hurting her, or out to actually make her feel inferior, then ya, that's a bit strange.
I don't like to judge others, but you need to listen to what you are saying 'humiliate'my girlfriend!
Am I strange?
if you want to be totally controlling and dominating her you could do that while you guys having sex in the bedroom.
you need to talk to her and see how she feels about it instead of asking us.
Yeah, but I don't know how to ask her. I don't "humiliate" her by the way. I just play with her from time to time.
Judgment isn't bad. We all do it every day. Plus, this site is devoted to opinions. Every time you answer a question, you're making a judgment. And I agree this guy is warped.
Neubauten, you don't seem to be very clever. do you know the difference between an opinion and a judgement? sh*t, are you really 31?
Yeah you have issues.
What do you mean?
I guess I'm not into domination and all that stuff. But if she is and you are than more power to you but if she is not I would recommend not doing it.
OK, thanks.
My boyfriend does the same exact thing to me.
And I hate it so much.
It's not fun being held down and tickled until you can't breathe. Especially when there's other people there. I just don't understand why you do it. You sound like a total asshole by saying "I just love the feeling of totally controlling and dominating her." Domestic violence much?
Ask her opinion on it, and if she really doesn't like it, then stop!
I sound like a total asshole? so you also think your boyfriend is a total asshole?
Yeah, my boyfriend can be an asshole, because he has some issues in his life that we're trying to get by. Trying so hard. Maybe you have some hidden problems that you need to let out. Then maybe you wouldn't be so, controlling. But really, I seriously think that you should ask HER about it. Because she maybe she's the kinda of person that likes that kind of stuff. Obviously, I don't.
Hidden problem? hmm.. I don't think so. I'm not a bully and I don't need to compensate for sth. is teasing and dominating my sweet baby wrong? I love her and I'd never hurt her. why do so many girls think play wrestling/a dominant guy is such a bad thing? it makes me sad :(
Something that can start as playing around can end up as painful. It can be just by accident. My mom and little brother were fooling around YEARS ago, and my brother lost control of his strength and broke my mom's nose. And, once my boyfriend pinned me down with his leg, and forgot about the 18 screws in his leg, and it hurt so bad. Seriously, I'm NOT trying to be a bitch here. Just be careful and make sure it's okay with her! I'M not your girlfriend, SHE is. I know you care.
I'm sorry, but if she is telling you to stop, you should.
respect what she is saying
I know guys like to dominate, but you don't want things to go to far.
After our wrestling matches she never complains about what had happened. That is what makes me think she enjoys getting dominated.
Yes but do talk to her, when you guys aren't rough. Simply just ask her, if it bothers her when you do things like that. You just need to communicate with her. I mean what if it is bothering her? Just talk to her and see her view on it. She may like it, but maybe you are being a little rough, when she asks you to stop.
Ok, thank you.
hell to the NO. you're like a guy very of me! haha..
So it wouldn't p*ss you off if I did that to you?
Woops. I meant guy version of me. haha. no way.. I like to brawl too!
Yeah, but if we wrestled I'd win all the time. I'm pretty sure you wouldn't like it anymore. Or are you a submissive slave girl??
Same love it when my wife brawls and wrestle with me.
I like wrestle with my girlfriend too (in a fun way) but she when tells me I stop. Maybe you should too and not get charge for rape.
LOL! You definitely took it too far.
that so disgusting what is your problem? why would you get joy out of hurting her?
i have no idea why she stays with you.
Because I am the greatest ever.
Ha obviously not.
He's just playing all of you should calm down gosh he's not hurting her
you suffer(not the nicest word) from sadomasochism. It's not necessarily a horrible affliction so long as it doesn't entail damaging your girlfriend's health of course. You girlfriend would love it if she was a masochist. The fact that she accepts grappling with you in the first place and indulges in the activity (before you block her respiration) shows that she's competitive. The question you have to answer for yourself is how YOU would feel if she was strong or skilled enough to overcome you. If the answer is annoyed and humiliated, you should keep your girlfriend from attending martial arts courses as girls do happen to have controlling advantages such as the better usage of their legs over guys in grappling fights . If you want her to keep wrestling you, you should give her a certain lead to begin with, such as letting her sit on your back. This would help in creating a fairer situation and thus elicit a more motivated struggle in her.
Strange? Not at all, man! I too share this fantasy - however, I've not actually asked my girl to let me take her on. However, I've begun putting her in some interesting wrestling holds as our foreplay progresses - she seems to like it. Nothing that hurts, just holds that restrict her movement. Like putting her in a tight full nelson - or pulling her into a cradle hold. I would like her to do the same with me - however, I haven't asked . . . yet. Would be fun to have an all-out wrestling match with her! Winner takes all sort of thing :)
I WOULD LIKE TO WRESTLE YOUR GIRLFRIEND, TOO . . . WHILE YOU WATCH! You think you'd be into that?
My roommate does the same thing to me! He likes to tickle and bit me until I admit defeat. I asked him about it and he told me he finds it adorable that I'm so helpless and can't defend myself. Personally I like it although it might not be for everyone. I think you should always gage your partners mood though and be sensitive to when you're really hurting.
Heck no. That's totally hot for some chicks too! But you have to realize where she may be coming from... Some people just aren't into being controlled either through negative connotation of a previous experience or just self conscious about their vulnerability. Maybe you should try moving your controlling urges out of the annoying zone and more into the sexual one. She may just prefer you tying her up and doing what you will than being tickled. Try it.