Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Ironically I was on Sparknotes of all places, getting a summary of an English period piece movie I was watching, when I saw this article on the sidebar:
The story goes, girl meets guy named J, starts falling for him, they get a little drunk at a party, they're about to have sex, the pants come off, surprise it's a girl, or a soon to be transgender f-to-m. Girl says, sorry, I'm not into vagina. J says its cool. J's friends find out, they get pissed at the girl for essentially dumping J and no longer wanting to be with 'him.' The friends are basically upset because they felt that the girl wanted to be with him before she found out he used to or is transitioning from a she, but only when the girl found out the whole story, did she split.
In my opinion, that is a dangerous game to play. We do live in world where a lot is changing, there is a lot more acceptance of other people, but when it comes down to being in the bedroom, I think the J person should have been up front and honest about her biology. I mean, I like a lot of people in my life who are way different from me, and I can be friendly and hang out and what not, but that does not mean I want to have sex with them. You can be accepting of someone and still not want to have sex with them. This J person is really lucky that the girl was actually pretty calm and nice about it, because so many would not be if essentially forced into that situation. Many trans persons have been killed for lying about or disguising their sexuality, so to do that is putting their own life at risk.
It is so not just about the body parts not mattering and being able to love whomever. In that case, you're essentially saying that gay persons for example, can and should be straight as opposed to gay, because you know, it shouldn't matter about whether there is a penis or a vagina down there in their partners---but we know, or at least, I believe, that's not true. You're attracted to what you are personally attracted to, and if that's a natural born man with a penis or a natural born woman with a vagina (or whatever in between), you can't force someone to like you in that way because you feel that you have changed into this new man or this new woman. I'm not saying that was the case in the example, but the J person's friends were certainly making it seem that way.
I guess the argument would be that everyone should recognize them as trans in their bodies that aren't as they were born with, but if you want people to value your sexuality, than you on the same token should value theirs and not try and put someone in that situation where you're trying to get them to be something they might firmly believe they don't want to be in that bedroom.
What Girls & Guys Said
11 20They should definitely tell you beforehand so you can decide if you still want to be with them or not. That being said I think the people that kill them for that are completely overreacting. Just leave.
yeah, I'm not ruining my own dang life and going to prison over that of all things.
I DON'T CARE ABOUT HOW THEY FEEL I REALLY DON'T
I care about the truth and there believing a lie
so to me there idiots
for my children fall for lack of knowledge
interesting take. now im waiting for some scientific dissing on pasexual (sheesh) people
pasexual? Is that people who want to fuck their Dad?
@zagor nah pc heterosexual who wants to be special liking things about personality etc in a non sexual way and not providing any specific gendere prefere, pretending to be different IE Pc fucks who are confused about their personality and wanna get laid more often than they do. What you say actually is having "daddy complex"
trans is medically valid. vacuous people say it's not. next it's "cleft palates aren't congenital!!"
I respect transgenders and all. But i definitely think they should inform their partner. Honesty is very important. Personally i am a straight female and i would only like to make out with guys. If a trans got me to make out with her i'd be disappointed as i am not into that. I really think everyone deserves to know whom they are having a relationship with.
I think it is the same as if you had a STD. You should disclose that to a potential partner before hand and let them decide if they still want to. Same should go for transgender people. I mean it is reasonable for someone to change their mind if they were not informed before hand. Also it isn't right to harm someone because they aren't who you thought they were. I mean you needed to assume they were to be in that situation so it is also partly your fault too.
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From my experince they come from a trama.
1. Either abuse verbally or physically by a adult or child.
2. It normalized by. Media and home
3. the household it self wasn't right. Like dad wasn't there or mom or too many men around or females or were treating like the oppsite gender.
4. Also it. Could be a mind trick that the brain does to it self to protect it self.
Like how some abused woman start dating woman becuaser they can't control woman.
All i know is all gays and transfender I've met in my life and seen in interview has weird past.
1.
Young thug dad used to beet him
2. Antowom dotson (hide ur kids hide ur wife guy) got raped at 12 behind a dumpster.
3. TRANSDUDE at my job told me his dad was never arpund and thay HE WANTS to slit his wrist and die becuz he can't afford to be a woman.
4. My aunt she never knew her father my grandma was mean. (She transgender gay she used to be a woman now she a man)
The only truth is that being transgender is a body dismorphia personality disorder. To not have the person in inpatient treatment and to normalize the personality disorder only leads to social collapse.
There are only two sexes and perceived gender is a fallacy; fuck who or what you want and stick a feather up your ass... it doesn't make you a chicken.
Their minds are not right