Traumatic Masturbation Syndrome?

Ok so I found this article on www.healthystrokes.com that says that masturbating prone is the cause of my issue with cumming with my girl. She does a great job and I know I can cum. My question is that the website says to stay abstinent for a month to solve the problem, but I have only done this like two times a month in the past. My question is that I do not do it a lot so do I really have to wait a month?
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  • If you mean you can't come from straight intercourse, I know what you mean. I used to have the same problem. My solution was to either masturbate the night before, or the day of preferably. Also try masturbating for just a few minutes without climaxing. For me it made me more sensitive, all the right areas were already a little swollen and stimulated. The problem sometimes can be that the vagina won't stimulate the right areas in the right ways, but it's something that can be solved over time with practice.

    • Yeah very true. If you don't mind me asking... how long did it take you to get back to normal climaxing?

    • Not all that long.. Less than a month or two I believe.

  • It's because over use of the same muscles reduce the feeling of stimulation, I'd say the time varies... Personally I don't see it as a con, most guys would prefer not to come easily. It's not impossible for her to make you come it'll just take longer, my own experience is like an hour and a half or two hours. But if she's finished she could give you oral. I found that getting a handjob from a partner made me come easier than having sex with her.

    • Thanks for the information. I just want to be able to get off because my girlfriend feels as if she is not doing something right.

    • No problem, I often have a similar issue.... although I stop self pleasuring when I have a girlfriend, wether I have a sexual relationship with them or not. Blow jobs are the major issue with it, I've never came from one, sex I can sometimes cum, but it's not that frequent. So I've had to tell a few girlfriends. I just say it's not that it didn't feel incredible, but it's my own problem and she doesn't need to worry.

    • I know exactly what you mean. I have the same issue currently. I am switching the way I mastrubate to make myself more sensitive so I can get off when my girl does stuff to me.

Most Helpful Girls

  • well if the website says so then yeah , you should try it, they are pros so trust em on that, it wouldn't be the end of the world if you don't touch yourself for a month, distract yourself by doing other things

    • See the problem is with my girlfriend because she is afraid we will not be able to do anything for a whole month and that can be hard on a close relationship.

    • If she's a cool chick she's gonna understand your issue if you tell her, and when ur ready to be sexually active again its all gonna be fine, if you still can't come with the vajajy first then ask her to give you a handjob prior to sex, you know like a warm up

  • its basicaly you are used to jacking off with your hand and your girlfriend cannot get that exactly right.

    so cut down on the amount you wank and you will come fine

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  • My question is in order to give help . . . .. . What is the "Problem " ? ?

    • The problem is I can't get off and my girlfriend blames herself.

  • Is there something wrong with this chick? Maybe you like guys =P