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Trying to make sense of modesty

Trying to make sense of modesty

Recently I've seen there is an interesting debate on if modesty is even important or relevant anymore. To get view points more guided to where I would like to hear them, I am making this mytake girls only while guys can still read it, if they wish.

Trying to make sense of modesty

I would like to start here with the slut walk. There is a lot of pride in being able to be sexy without judgement for it. It has found a lot more freedom in recent years. Being able to enjoy your body can be a beautiful thing. But are clothing choices situational?

Trying to make sense of modesty
Trying to make sense of modesty

Ok let's start here. Can this man and woman go to a family dinner or to go pick up their kids at school wearing this? Can we start here? This a place where I am asking, is there are start or area or level of modesty? Is there a social modesty expectation? Should there be a social modesty expectation?

Trying to make sense of modesty

Here is a family dinner.

Trying to make sense of modesty

Here is picking up kids from school.

and oddly enough, a news story caught on to this idea.

https://www.newsbreak.com/news/0G6uEe7C/mom-of-3-is-criticized-for-dressing-inappropriately-when-picking-up-kids-in-school-her-revenge-shut-everyone-up?s=oldSite&ss=website

Trying to make sense of modesty

Given, this a model that had to pick her kids up after her job but it shows there is an idea, an expectation of inappropriate dress.

Trying to make sense of modesty

Then there are expectations that are asked for by companies. Overall, I would just like to recap my questions and then open this up for discussion again. But are clothing choices situational? Is there are start or area or level of modesty? Is there a social modesty expectation? Should there be a social modesty expectation?

I will finish with a quote by Jessica Rey

https://www.jessicarey.com/

Trying to make sense of modesty

Tell me what do you think about this topic and how do you view modesty overall?

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  • I dress "modestly" basically because I don't feel. comfortabke with showing my skin and only people I'm close to should be able to see it.
    But yes clothes cloices are situational (and require common sense) like you won't show up to your workplace wearing a super revealing attire that looks more appropiate to a Halloween party.

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  • I doubt many of the Turkey Pot Pies on GAG are that into modesty judging by their questions and opinions. When people are so much into sex modesty goes out the window. It is quite obvious by the clothes they wear and the acts they perform. But that is just my opinion. I expect all the fake pink accounts to post here how they love wearing next to nothing and how they love getting anal and giving blow jobs. If there is no modesty on a site like this, Instagram, Tinder, and the rest, is there much in the rest of society. When we used to have dress codes in school, now they dress like Ho's and Pimps. People are into hooking up, not into committed relationships. People today are just like in 2 Timothy 3 - But understand this: In the last days terrible times will come. 2For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3unloving, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, without love of good, 4traitorous, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. COVID-19 is just a precursor of things to come. Let me step off my Soap Box now.

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    • "When people are so much into sex modesty goes out the window"

    • @CubsterShura Certainly judging by the clothes they wear today. They show as much as they can and if it were legal, a lot more.

    • Go to church if you want some modesty

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  • I don’t care about modesty, I’ve never had a reason to actively pursue it

    • I rest my case.

    • @Daniela1982 your comment had nothing to do with me personally. Just because I genuinely don’t care about modesty doesn’t mean you have me figured out based on your outrageous assumptions. But go off I guess 😂

    • If a person doesn't care about modesty it is because they are either exhibitionists ( in which case you should be on Instagram and not GAG), a Ho, or are really a guy. I can expect that kind of stuff from a male. But whatever.

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  • Here's how I personally see it:
    When a lot of people discuss modesty they talk about whether or not you have the right to dress in revealing clothing the way you want. I like to go on the flip side instead and ask if anyone else has earned the right to be able to look at MY body.

    When I'm in school, what matters is my studies and my grades, now how I look. As a friend, what's important is whether or not I am a good friend and not necessarily how many heads I turn. In my workplace, how I perform matters not my appearance, unless it's working for a modelling agency of course (and we know that industry isn't very pleasant). The thing is, I really don't want anyone to have anything to do with my appearance in places where it's not relevant. Heck, if a workplace doesn't hire me because I don't doll up enough, I might as well have dodged a big bullet because no one deserves to be treated like an escort when they aren't. A lot of people get very sentimental about the clothes and dignity thing, but I think the point of it is that if I get a promotion, pay raise or anything equivalent, it's 100% going to be for my performance and not because I showed a little more cleavage so that customers give more tips or sucked my boss's dick to make him happy. I believe that's where the dignity lies. When you gain a reputation amongst your circle as someone who earned their achievements through honest work, people WILL respect you more.

    The only person in the world who truly has anything to do with your body/appearance is your romantic partner. If anyone ever tells me I dress too strictly I ask them "Are you my husband? No? So find me one proper reason to show you my body then." Usually they try to respond like "No it's not about me I don't care how you look..." I ask them again, "Then what is it? Tell me?"

    Even then I don't believe a man has the right to my body unless he's shown his commitment, which is ultimately through marriage. At the dating stage all it does is weed out the ones who are just there to use a woman for her body and are scared of commitment. Nothing bad about it at all! It forces a date to focus on me and not my tits or legs. It's a good thing, I want that. But I have to mention that looks do matter to an extent. For any decent man, features like complexion, face, overall size, eyes etc things should be enough to decide a partner in terms of looks. I lift weights in the gym and a lot of people tell me to stop because it will make me bulky and unattractive, I shut them up saying 'no one has to find it attractive. If my husband likes it that's enough, and I don't think a man who doesn't want his wife to lift will marry me anyway.' This is one way it saves you from a lot of insecurity that you don't NEED in your life.

    There are evil men doing all sorts of wrong shit... Leaking nudes, filming non-consensual porn, taking pictures from inappropriate angles and uploading publicly, God Forbid, is having some fun worth ending up in their hands?

    There will always be perverted men out there, always. But I'll give you two scenarios that are identical with one difference. I'm standing somewhere in a bus, and some man sitting next to me is giving me a nasty stare. But in one scenario I'm wearing a loose flared trouser that hides the shape of my legs and in another one I'm wearing yoga pants with everything on show. The beauty in the first scenario is that this dude can keep staring for ten hours without blinking and that wouldn't remove my pants to show him even a millimeter of my skin. Practically it won't happen though, he will eventually look away when he doesn't get to see what he wants.

    The thing is, anyone else except your long-term partner, if they want you to show your body, are in one way or the other exploiting you. I have the power to not let that happen, so I use it to its full extent.

    • Finally, someone who shares my views. The world is governed by sex and kingdoms have fallen because of sex.

  • I think clothing choices are definitely situational. Like I wouldn't go to class in a bikini, cuz that would be ridiculous. However when it comes to choice, like a bikini or a "modest" swimsuit when going to the beach I say take it or leave it. Dress how you please.

  • It really depends on the situation

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