TW: was I raped?

[Anonymous]

I don't even know where to start. I've had a really fucked up day and night and I'm not even sure what to call ehat happened. Rape? Assault? Was it nothing? My friend said it isnf my fault but I don't know..

So there's a guy we'll call Panda and I was talking to him, but not quite dating. I was told today that Panda went around telling people he got my drunk and unconscious and then had sex with me while I was unconscious. So he went around saying he raped me.
That's what he told people super proudly but the isn't what happened? And I'm happy that isn't the truth but is the truth also rape? He offered me alcohol that day and I said no. He took a shot and that was it, he wasn't drunk or even buzzed because he's an alcoholic and has high tolerance. It grisse some out to think he probably wanted me drunk to rape me like he had bragged about.
And so he kept trying to have sex and i kept saying no. He reached between my legs so many times and I kept saying I wasn't ready. I was a virgin and I just didn't want to. But he kept doing it and trying and so I eventually just gave in? I just kinda let him and I moved so he could because I didn't have a ride home from his house (I lived 10 miles away) and I was scared to say no anymore? so I just kinds let him? and I was really depressed and suicidal at the time so I figured it didn't matter because I was just gonna be dead soon anyways? I don't know, but I told him after that I didn't like it, too. I didn't want to do it in the first place and I made it clear that I didn't want it to happen afterwards for weeks whenever he brought it up. I felt so sick and guilty. and I didn't feel any pleasure the whole time because I was just... emotionless? Like I didn't feel like I was in my own body I was just kinds gone i guess? And it was in February.

He has been bragging about it so much, what if people think it doesn't matter because "at least I wasn't actually drunk and unconscious like he told people"

[Roxxy99]

You’re a minor so, depending on your age and the laws where you live, it could be rape. You may not be old enough to even give consent. As for the rest of the story, it might be considered rape, even if you gave consent, if it was given under circumstances where you were fearful or intimidated. You mentioned you were scared to say no. You should reach out to your family for guidance and local law enforcement to report what happened. Rape counseling may help you process what happened as well. Don’t bottle it up inside.

[btbc92]

Yes, that is rape. This is why sex before marriage is a sin. The fact that he bragged about it shows he is a disgusting person. He needs to be charged for that. That is rape, period. I suggest you get away from him, tell your parents and call police. What he did is wrong. You was not at fault, but you shouldn't have stayed. The moment you said no, and he pushed by 3, you should have walked. Not stayed. He took advantage of that and this shows that he is a flat put criminal by taking advantage of you. It is rape. Legally, he can go to jail and should be charged.

[JustinTheGreat]

The fact that he want around bragging about raping an unconscious woman is disgusting, whether it’s a lie or not.
What he did was wrong, teaching between your legs after repeatedly saying no. And I don’t care if it’s not rape by definition, seems like he wasn't stopping until he got what he wanted and that’s pretty rapey in my book.
I hope you’re not still in contact with him

[JustinTheGreat]

Reaching*

[JustinTheGreat]

I’ve experienced rape and assault before, so if you need to talk about it my messages are open

[Guffrus]

Im sorry this happened to you, that is really awful.

I would put in a formal complaint to the police.

Lets allow a judge / the prosecution service decide what this is legally speaking.

Morally speaking he is a highly dangerous rapist and he must not be allowed to act in this way unchallenged.

[Guffrus]

If you are under age you cannot give consent so this would automatically be rape in the eyes of the law even if you hadn't said no a million times etc.

[Kaneki05]

Umm were do you live india? because literally anywhere if a guy went around bragging he raped you he would be arrested.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

In the USA, that fits the legal definition of rape. You said No multiple times and he continued assaulting you. That you eventually said yes doesn't matter.

[waterniggbone]

Sorry but you gave consent in the eyes of the law it's not rape but he would go to jail for repeating to touch you down there over and over but he won't be charged with rape never give consent if you dont want it to happen

[chriscdi]

no he didn't rape you, you gave consent and its weird he is bragging about having sex with someone when they aren't concious or whatnot

[potatoiswhoiam]

She didn't give consent. She was really pressured a gave up. Two different things

[chriscdi]

thats not what the law will see, she gave consent period

[potatoiswhoiam]

I don't think the law will go against her. She's underage, been assaulted and pressured enough to feel emotionless and empty to the point of giving up, he seized the opportunity and raped her. This isn't one of those "me too" bullshit stories. This is an actual rape case and she's a victim. So stop acting like a bitch making it as if "no, you gave consent". The guy knew she didn't want it, he kept harassing her over and over until she had nothing left in her to even fight it back. This is serious, not some silly drunk couple story.

[chriscdi]

go tell the police that and see what they do, doesn't matter how you see it, whats written in the laws, rape is physically forcing someone to doing intercourse, you have your definition of rape all mixed up, she admitted giving it up at the end, weither she felt pressured or not, its not rape she gave it up, talk to a real victim of rape, i have, its completely different, this seems more of her getting taken advantage of, he found a loophole around it, thats all this is, he pressured her to giving it up, her giving it up is already consent that she let herself get fucked, which she mentioned she did, its not rape in my opinion, i really dont care how you see it.

[chriscdi]

now the underage is a completely different story, just cause she is underage doesn't mean she got raped, now its not good to have intercourse with a minor but thats a completely different charge that has nothing to do with rape, if anything thats what can have him arrested, depending all on the age of consent too, in most places here in the US the age of consent is 16.

[winterfox10]

You were definitely raped. This guy must not be too smart if he's running around advertising the fact that he raped you

[AmeerX]

I am unclear whether you had done it or not. Though the other person seems like a jerk

[Wise4myage]

Yes, its rape and I sorry that had to happen you. Please find the courage to report that piece of shit to the police.

[Dazzler1983]

Sorry to hear such a sad story. He took advantage so it is rape.

[Nononocoffe]

Probably get away from these criminals as far as possible and spread and tell your dad or an older man you trust to spread a rumor saying i caught him using his sister 10 inch dido collection and that he has lots of videos that he's triying to delete porhub😇😂😂😂 everyone will believe that trust me. Also i know being suicidal and depression very well and that it isn't easy at all but always remember you can ask me for help or ask others here.

[Anonymous]

You were raped. Call police. You were coerced into sex.

[Anonymous]

If I were you I’d go ahead and report him to the cops. He already admitted it and sounds like rape to me so yeah let him freakin pay. Dude gotta mind what he brags about next time!