Guys, Two guys one girl threesome went wrong?

This guy i like and i got really drunk last night with a friend of his and we kind of had a threesome. But i feel kind of weird about it, like i regret it. Also he is being really weird to me today. I don't know what to do? I mean most people do something like this at some point in their lives but what am i supposed to do with the way i feel about this and about his behavior
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  • Been there man; got sauced with the girlfriend and pulled a thruway with her and her friend. Sure it was fun/hot at the time but yeah the aftershock to the relationship is definitely weird. Pro tip: If you're going to pull off a three way do it with two people you aren't dating. But that aside what's done is done so your best bet would be to talk to him about it. Something like "So hey remember that night we did the threesome; how do you feel about that?". He'll more than likely say he has mixed feelings about and ask you how you feel in turn. Talk it over, what you liked and what you didn't like then see where the chips fall. For me I was like, "I didn't mind you getting pleased by this other guy but I didn't like it when he kissed you" and she was 100% onboard with that. Then it was a lot of "Wow I can't believe that happened" and "I love you" and all this crap to make sure she knew my feelings were towards her and making her happy. But all in all a threeway can be a good experience, just water it down to just being sex and that no feelings were involved.

    Or if you were really into it just tell him to bring the whole train next time and lets set sail for pound town. Some guys are into their girl taking on the whole team.

  • Most relationships don't long survive a threesome, because people get jealous and insecure and it changes how they feel about the other people (and often themselves). And so while a (safe-sex) threesome is fine with casual partners, it isn't something you should usually do with someone you have an actual relationship with (or want a relationship with).

    Only time will tell if your relationship with this guy will survive, but don't be surprised if it doesn't. Some guys may see a girl who does a threesome (especially a MMF threesome) as a "slut" (and I'm not agreeing with that judgement - just describing how some thing) and won't respect her, and/or will just want her for sex. It really pushes the emotional extremes of a lot of people, sometimes even in ways that surprise themselves, and so it is always a high-risk exercise, with a strong chance for things going wrong.

    You rolled the dice, and the odds were against you. Time will tell what the outcome will be.

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  • Most people do not do this. Just because its talked about doesn't mean its done. Mainly for the reasons your describing. Guys generally don't think of a girl who does these things as girlfriend material, bring her home to mom after a threesome or considering her being the mother of your children genrally doesn't come to mind either. I'm not trying to be mean, its just for some reason people keep thinking this is a good idea and then it backfires horribly as they realize that fantasy and reality are very diffrent and fantasy does not generally focus on the after affects. If you like the guy you should talk to him about it, but I don't know how well thats going to go. Why did you do it to begin with?

    • Because she gets slutty when she's drunk. He probably liked her before but now he knows what she's like. She messed up. Hopefully she learned her lesson. Bummer

  • Alcohol- making kids regret stupid things they did since 1967

    • Or since cave men

  • This is the result of not being in control through drink or drugs, or both. You have done something from which there is no going back. The clock only goes round one way! The two guys may well be regreting it as much as you. It may have ruined your friendship with the first guy as he is fully aware you had sex with another guy.

    How to sort out your feelings? Put it down to experience and decide if you'll ever repeat it. Think of whether you want to keep it hidden from a future partner or whether you will tell him. Be prepared for a lot of guys to reject you if the find out.

    His behaviour? Not much you can do about that. That's for him to decide.

    • Dude id divorce a women if I found this out. Hell if we were old and she told me id probably kill her.

    • I wouldn't like a surprise like this either! Not after a lifetime of living without the truth.

    • Yeah id feel she stole my life away. Women today are hos. Honestly you're young so if you want one you have to snatch them up quick by my age its single mothers and hos.

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  • "most people do something like this at some point in their lives"

    actually people who have had threesomes are probably in the minority

    • Not probably, most definitely, by a lot. And the number gets way smaller of chicks who have been gang banged like this. Bummer.

  • First off a threesome truly isn't that common. Secondly he is most likely hurt by the fact that you had sex with another guy even though he was involved. He my feel self conscious thinking the other guy was better at sex than him or if the other guy's cock is bigger than his. He likely feels as awkward about it as you do and is confused not knowing how to deal with it. Talking to him about it is really the only solution.

  • That's gross on all of your parts this is why I don't drink , because it makes everyone fucked in the head dont drink if you're gonna do stupid shit you regret simple now youve had two cocks at once the only question you should be asking is how many people know by now but at the same time I don't know you so enjoy your life make better choices in the future I hope?

    • It's not really gross just sad but sloots gonna sloot

    • Yup gross. And yup just don't drink.

  • Im going to say the vast majority of people never do anything like that at some point in their life.

    • solid point

    • And for good reason.

  • Talk to him. tell him how you feel about him and see if he feel the same. and ask him to be honest how he feel about you guys and what happened

  • Okay, you say you 'kind of had a threesome'? What does that mean?

    In regards to regretting it, do you regret the whole act, that you were drunk or regret doing it with the guy you like?

    ... and if he's looking down on you now because you went through with it, its a bit hypocritical on his part because he was part of the act as well..

    • Haha "it's a bit hypocritical"? Well yea. Have you ever been around dudes? Of course it's hypocritical. We always try to get chicks we've never slept with to do crazy shit. That's why it's up to them to be the adult. It's been that way for thousands of years. Just because some people have decided they think everyone should be the exact same doesn't mean that thousands of years of instinct and courting rituals dissapear. The difference is now women are told that they should be hypersexul. And they shouldn't. Shame and guilt are part of the experience when they act slutty. I wish this girl would have told the whole story of how it went down.

  • For some people a threesome can be done for others it isn't really worth it. I think that its going to not go the way you planned at all and is going to throw you for a loop. Best to just move on

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