Unconsented sadistic sex, man who had sex with and hurt me, what can I do what are my rights?

[likelyOK]

A month ago I posted Anonymously about how I had sex with someone who physically intentionally hurt me during sex after I repeated asked him and at one point begged me not to to hurt me. But it’s not rape bc I consented to the sex. But I REALLY am scared he might hurt more women and he won’t talk to me about it. I will copy below what I originally wrote.

had sex with someone I want out with a couple of times it was very rough and I did not enjoy it. The foreplay was okay but as soon as we had sex it hurt and he would stop if I asked him to and go right back to it. At one point he held my face and said this face u make is so cute, I said ,”when I’m in pain?” And he said yes. The third time I asked for him to finish bc I just wanted it over. He is younger and as I remember they like to go fast and hard but this was more than this. He also, and I’m being totally serious, asked to call me momma. Word huh? He held me.

He also has a two year old and he seems like such a good dad which made the whole thing so confusing and fucked up. He is much younger 22 and lives at home, what the hell should I do? I see a therapist on Monday over this but I don’t know what to do?

[The_Inquisitor]

Get therapy warn all the friends you know that he is a sadist and move on thats the best you can do.

he had your consent to fuck you as you clearly said "But it’s not rape bc I consented to the sex"

This entire post kinda peeves me a bit because once I read that it just started to sound like you are making bad decisions and are trying to make it worse than it actually is.

[likelyOK]

I did tell my friends “trying to it worse than it actually is” this encourages me even more to go public but not the police route. I’m going to see what the therapist says. If you think that this really isn’t that bad I hope something like this happens to you.

[The_Inquisitor]

You do realize if you make it worse and word gets out it was consensual sex and you were just too stupid to leave the guy and go on with your life then you become the enemy, like many of other women who have falsely reported rape on men. You are just regretting not backing out when you should have.

[The_Inquisitor]

did you just wish that i would be raped?

[Neko911]

Yes, yes she did

[The_Inquisitor]

Did You just wish rape upon me as a comeback? See this is why its hard to take victims of sexual assault seriously, people are real quick to turn something they consented too into "assault" then when things turn south they say shit like "I hope something like this happens to you"

[likelyOK]

I am not reporting rape I am intending to report EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED and I would be willing to submit to a polygraph. What it is is not rape but sexual violence I would never lie that lessens victims’ experiences. And sense you think it’s not a big deal I would hope what happened to me would happen to u

[Neko911]

Not really sexual violence wjat you described... you clearly stated he stoped when you asked... so y didn't u leave then... no cop is gonna take that serious

[likelyOK]

@Neko911 no he did not he did you read it what kinda troll or you. You are sick

[bowenw]

See what the therapist says. They may know more about the laws where you live. You could also discuss it with the police for their opinion because you didn't consent to being assaulted.

[likelyOK]

I appreciate that I’m not going to the police I don’t want this person to hurt anyone else is all I don’t want any other women to go through this I don’t think people are aware this happens until it happened I have never heard of it. I think I’m going to go into detail and go public.

[bowenw]

@The_Inquisitor
Under federal law 10 U. S. Code 843 – Art. 43, there is no statute of limitations at the federal level for a person charged with murder, rape, sexual assault, rape or sexual assault of a child, or any other offense that can be punished by death.

The length of the statute of limitations on a sexual assault charge depends upon the state. At this time, there are eight states that do not have any statute of limitations for prosecuting felony sexual assault. Also, some states, such as South Carolina and Wyoming, have no statute of limitations for any type of criminal prosecution.

Some states do have a DNA exception for their statute of limitations.

www.federalcharges.com/.../

[bowenw]

Best of luck. Stay healthy and safe.

[The_Inquisitor]

Yeah but when you look at the story she posted its not rape. She consented. THE CONSENT for the sex was given. thats what lawyers and the judge will see, they will harshly question both individuals and anyone who would of known them at the time. Then if the idea that she consented came up, that she did as an adult not being pressured to consent willingly consented the charge for rape would be null.

[Gwenhwyfar]

That is rape!!!

Report him to the police. Have him prosecuted. Also sue him if he has any money.

This makes me sick to my stomach but we can talk privately if you want

[WowwGirl]

@gwenhwyfar what do you think.

I'm not a expert I don't know

[Gwenhwyfar]

It’s rape I already answered her down below

[WowwGirl]

@Gwenhwyfar 😂😂😂

[WowwGirl]

Sorry

[Gwenhwyfar]

Nbd 😊

[WowwGirl]

@Gwenhwyfar I woke up at dead hour again so did you I bet😒

[WowwGirl]

Need some hugs😂❤️😂

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yeah lol. Imma go grab a shower now. You too?

[WowwGirl]

Couldn't get any earlier 🤣

[Gwenhwyfar]

Damn straight 😂

[WowwGirl]

@Gwenhwyfar yes 😂 dang it man

[WowwGirl]

Moscoto thirty ttyl

[Gwenhwyfar]

Ttyl

[Jerre]

Think it is time for you t o find a new fuck buddy. Shame you don’t live closer to me. I never hurt a woman when we fuck.

[Joe1956]

ask an attorney

[Anonymous]

Report him to the police.

[Neko911]

Why? That's not rape or sexual assualt. So it's not reportable

[The_Inquisitor]

That won't do any good, if its rape you need to see the police immediately after while there is still DNA, if its consented sex like she said it was, then all they can chalk it up to is domestic abuse and possible assault, but she waited like a month so its no use really. The police can't just arrest a man based off word they need evidence which the issue here.

[The_Inquisitor]

@Neko911 Its assault still just not sexual assault

[likelyOK]

Do you think I would have a case? I really can’t hire a lawyer right now?

[Neko911]

@The_Inquisitor actually no it's really not. It was rough sex. Nothing she really implied was violent enough to be considered assualt. Going fast during Sex? And saying she makes a cute face when it hurts? Yeah that's not assualt. That's just being a dick. One she could have left. Nothing she's implied says he wouldn't have let her leave while they had sex. She actually implies more so that she stayed even after complaining he was hurting her...

[The_Inquisitor]

@Neko911 if she asks to stop and he refuses and its causing physical harm that counts as Assault if she consented to the sex it cannot be considered sexual assault.

[The_Inquisitor]

@Neko911 I am also not defending the poster at all, I was just saying the most they could do is charge him with normal assault or domestic abuse

[Neko911]

@The_Inquisitor she stated he'd stop then go back to doing it. That's not gonna hold up in court. She could have left at anytime between when he stopped. Yet never choose to. That's on her

[Neko911]

@The_Inquisitor and I'm mearly stating they wouldn't do either. And if they did, then it would onky be because he's a dude. Not because her case is actually a valid one