Girls, Under what conditions would you end a marriage If everything besides the sex was really good?

[Bricealan]

If you married a successful man, and he treated you very well, you had money, you traveled, shared the same political ideals, the same religious values, and yet, he was sexually inept, had a penis that was 'too short' to satisfy you. (This is not a Troll question, I have a friend that was in this position for years)

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I wouldn’t end it. Have people not heard of bedroom toys and foreplay? I mean, if he can’t please me with his penis, there’s 100 million sex toys out there that can help please me.

[Bricealan]

She said she tried that solution, and it was not the same as a 'living, breathing, body". Apparently, she struggled with it for several years and she 'said' she tried dildoes, and other sex toys, but it was not satisfactory. She is still married to him, and NOW apparently, he watches porn and jerks off at his computer. My view is "What a nightmare"! Thank you for responding!!!

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Ugh, I can understand it being different or not as satisfactory for the woman, but that seems to be a lot better than leaving or cheating. It’s unfortunate that he just watches porn and masturbates, he could at least do oral sex or fingering. I did a little research and found “cock sleeves” which could be of help for both him and her?

[Bricealan]

P. S. RE the oral sex, I asked her if anyone had 'eater her pussy" and she said "no' that she would not let them, for fear they would want her to suck them. For me, that is an IRRECONCILABLE" position, as I NEVER insisted that a girl suck me after going down on her.

[Bricealan]

Although, I did not indicate it, she is a blood relative, who shares much with me and I, her.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Understandable. It does seem like a bad situation to be in, and I just hope that something gets figured out eventually…

[Bricealan]

Well, she cheated for several years and said the sex was "wonderful" with this other guy. (lasted 5 years) until her husband discovered love letters. She said a 'virgin' should never marry, if she had it to do over she would not marry a virgin, inexperienced man.

[HelenJacob]

I would find a more satisfactory sex partner, and at the same time try to keep my marriage intact.

[Bricealan]

Thanks, Helen. Apparently, she did just that, and was perfectly happy with the sex partner (s) and did keep her marriage intact, however, her husband found a 'love letter' from the other man, and she never did tell me how her husband resolved that with her. That had to have caused some trauma, but I never asked about that. Had she been able to start over, she said she would NEVER get married as a virgin, and that was the REAL problem as her husband was a virgin also and very inept. Her situation (a close relative of mine) illustrates a case of NOT SAVING IT for marriage.

[katiesmuff]

I picked B as it would take more than just the unsatisfactory sex to go for a divorce

[Flower7]

I would stay with him. With all those other wonderful things, I could overlook the sexual issues.

[Bricealan]

She did stay but had a couple of long-term affairs. They are still married.

[Sour-rose]

Sounds exactly like the guy I'm looking for. All I ask is he stfu about me being lactose intolerance when I order a pepperoni pizza with thick cheese, don't worry about me and just give me my space when I say I need it. And cuddle with me.

[dustybiker]

Sex is what makes the relationship. Passion. Without it’s just friendship. Something you can have with anyone.

[Bricealan]

Thanks, Dusty

[dustybiker]

You are welcome.

[butterfly113]

if i would marry someone it would be because how he treats me and how he can makes me happy not for his dick like lol we as woman it's proved that we orgasm on our own more than when we have sex with man
it ain't a big deal

[Gwenhwyfar]

I can live with a short penis but sexually inept after I tried and failed to teach him would be a deal breaker

[Bricealan]

Thanks Gwen. She and I talked a lot about it. She said she did not want to "get old" and never have good sex. Sometimes, difficult to know the whole story, but from what she said, her husband was not 'small" per se, but it did not satisfy her and he was not willing or unable to do what she wanted him to do. They went to a 'Christian" college together, and although I feel sorry for her, the way it ended, she admits she should have never entered the marriage knowing nothing about HIS sex drive or interests in that area.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yeah but it’s his responsibility to satisfy her. And vice versa (barring any weird kinks and the fact that some women just don’t like anal). But yeah they should’ve experimented before they got married. I sympathize with her.

[TyLeeAndPink]

That seems like a really stupid reason to leave a relationship, pardon my French.

[Pink2000]

I’d probably start cheating.

[Ninania]

You do know that sex isn't all about the penis, right? There are plenty of other ways to sexually satisfy a woman.

[Bricealan]

This was not about me. It is/was a very close relative. Apparently, she tried many things, but was not open to what I Suggested.

[Desconhecida]

I would never leave someone that was perfect for me and made me happy. No matter what physical problems he had.