Very regular s*x with boyfriend but he still wathces porn?

I'm 23 and I dont feel like I'm satisfying my boyfriend of 6 years. I have never turned down s*x and I will let him do anything he asks me to try. We have very regular s*x and he says it's good... but he watches porn a lot too. He even watches it before i come over to his house knowing i will give him s*x, and it is not to help him last longer or anything like that... I have caught him on porn AFTER s*x as well. What could be wrong with me? Could I possibly just have a very unsatisfying vagina? Or an ugly body? He still wants s*x and bjs from me and he still compliments me and stuff outside of the bedroom too, and he still eats me out and touches me and kisses me... but what is up with him getting sex pretty much everyday and still needing porn? Is it me? Be honest...

also this doesn't appear to be an addiction, he has a job and other hobbies and we go out on dates and stuff. So the only thing I can think of at this point is that I'm not satisfying him...

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  • There’s an addictive element to porn and it’s always stimulating because there’s so much of it and such a variety of it, but the more you watch, the more you crave it and something new from it, which there always usually is. It’s addictive, and the problem with that is that it makes one desensitized to sex with an exclusive partner. I’m glad he’s able to share satisfactory sex with you but a lot of porn can and may affect his ability to be satisfied by you. That’s why I try to avoid it because I want my woman to be the sexiest, most exciting person and element in my life. In the past I’ve had trouble finishing for my partner because of too much porn. Despite all these guys here, I would say be careful and he needs help to start waning off from it

    • I get that it could be addiction, But he has a job and other hobbies and we go on dates and still have sex. It's not like it's taking over his life or anything. But it's just the fact that he is viewing this crap literally when he knows I am coming to his house in just a few hours and we will end up fucking. Like, wtf? And I have also caught him on porn literally AFTER sex. We both came together, I fell asleep for like an hour, and he was jerking off... like are you sure the problem isn't me or my unsatisfying vagina?

    • Well if he’s watching it before and right after sex, then it sounds like an addiction. He’s immediately disengaging with you and the first thought of his is porn. I’m sure you’re lovely and a good lover, but he should remain in the moment with you. That means then either he’s not getting enough of the mental stimulation from you, which is what porn does- makes you crave the spontaneity of something or someone new, which is mentally exciting, or he’s not really interested in you and just likes the fact that he has someone to have sex with. Porn sometimes gives you ideas of what to try with a partner but he’s watching all the time. You either need to talk with him and tell him it concerns you why he watches all the time, or move on. It’s not really a healthy habit and can have long term effects in your relationship as you try to grow even closer to each other

    • Right. You don't think it's because maybe my vagina doesn't feel good or that maybe he doesn't find me very attractive?

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  • Woah, don't stress yourself out thinking it's about you! Porn doesn't always mean something is wrong with your actual sex life. Your boyfriend is clearly into you if he's still wanting to be intimate all the time.

    Guys just sometimes enjoy porn for different reasons - it's exciting, new stuff to look at, whatever. Doesn't mean the real thing isn't awesome too. I'm sure your body is hot! As long as he's still making you feel good and you're both having fun, I wouldn't read too much into the porn.

    Maybe just talk to him openly about it - ask why he likes to look sometimes rather than assume it's a problem with you. Good relationships are about communicating, not worrying needlessly. Chances are he's just pleasuring himself casually and it has nothing to do with your skills, luv. Stay confident in yourself! Don't stress it unless other parts of your bond start to seem off.

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  • Sounds like a addiction in my opinion. He needs to stop watching so often and focus on you

    • Right. But he has a job and other hobbies and we go on dates and still have sex. It's not like it's taking over his life or anything. But it's just the fact that he is viewing this crap literally when he knows I am coming to his house in just a few hours and we will end up fucking. Like, wtf? And I have also caught him on porn literally AFTER sex. We both came together, I fell asleep for like an hour, and he was jerking off... like are you sure the problem isn't me or my unsatisfying vagina?

    • It just makes me feel like I'm not good enough.. and it has ruined my sex drive. I used to want sex literally all the time. And now i barely get horny anymore due to my self esteem. I still have sex with him tho. The thought of him getting off to other girls makes me physically sick. If I don't give him sex, he will probably do it much more than he already does. :(

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  • Girl don’t bother worrying about it, porn is an essential part of a men’s life so it’s kimd of burried inside him to watch porn, but to ease your pain would be better off if you embrace it with him and it can lead to new types of intimacy like you can jerk him off while he rubs your pussy while you watch porn together and also you can get new ideas to try together so it would increase the harmony!!

    • What if you're getting regular, good sex tho? Maybe the sex isn't as good as I think it is? Or maybe my vagina just can't satisfy him sexually?

    • Well you do know tgat penises can’t tell by a big margin different vaginas so saying your vagina can’t please his cock is like saying that food won’t fill you up, plus I would totally love a girlfriend like yoh and would want to fuck your vagina and just like me your boyfriend thinks the same and to top it alk that’s not a thing like a not sexy vagina, only in extreme cases but usually those are extreme girls on the negative side so just relax and enjoy the sex with your boyfriend!!

  • It's not about you. How does this affect you?

  • Have you ever tried talking to him? Have you asked him if he would like to try particular fantasies or kinks?

    In a couple you have to be complicit and talk to each other so that you can find mutual satisfaction.

    • Yes I've tried talking to him. He says the sex is good and is satisfied and gets mad if I ask how I can improve the sex for him... then he shuts down and absolutely will not answer me. He just says the sex is great and to shut up about it... so yeah. I don't think I'm satisfying him tho if he needs porn so much...

  • You girls don’t understand men. Porn to men is like shopping to women. It’s our favourite hobby

    • What if you're getting regular, good sex tho? Maybe the sex isn't as good as I think it is? Or maybe my vagina just can't satisfy him sexually?

    • It has nothing to do with you sweetheart. I’m married and still watch porn. It releases dopamine and makes me feel good. Why don’t you offer to watch porn with him so he doesn’t feel threatened?

    • So you watch porn even if you have sex everyday?

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  • Nothing wrong with that.

  • He probably just enjoys watching people in porn and it has nothing to do with you.

    • What if we're having sex everyday tho? Could it mean he's not satisfied by my vagina or my body?

    • I honestly don't think it's related to you or any part of your body. Please feel free to PM if you wish.

    • unless you have had multiple kids, it is fine I promise you.

  • Porn can effect how long a guy can stay hard when he's having sex.

  • Normal watch it with him

  • Has he ever turned you down for sex

    • Yes, a few times. And I've never turned him down.

    • Then it may be a problem, and you are uncomfortable with it

    • Could something be wrong with my body or my vagina?

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  • I assume he was the one who asked you out and hit on you

  • Why don't you watch porn with him?

  • Maybe because you say s*x instead of sex.