Virgin having sex for the first time? Tips?

[Anonymous]

I am a virgin and I will have sex with my boyfriend for the very first time. I have history of sexual abuse hence the reason I never had sex although i am 23. I feel good with him and I trust him so I feel like I am ready to step it up and have sex. He told me he likes positions like, full nelson, cowgirl with hands tied behind my back, cause he likes submissive women (in bed) he likes to finger etc. Looking at his interests would you give me any advice on how I could prepare myself and satisfy him.

[SnowedIn]

His positions are TERRIBLE for your first time. Cowgirl is okay but not tied up.

Your first time needs to be relaxed not him dominating in the way that you're tied up, etc.

He needs to be slow, and patient, and thoughtful and based on what you're saying I'm not seeing that.

But, as for advice, it's two fold:

First: your priority is wrong. Your first time should NOT be about satisfying him -- it should be having as good a first experience as you can. Yes, future sex can, at times, be about wholly satisfying your partner. But your first time should be about your comfort and trying to satisfy you. Or at least him not acting like he's in porn.

Second, you need to be hugely and fully aroused. LOTS of foreplay. Preferably an orgasm first. You need to be as aroused and wet as you can be and then you also may want to consider lube the first time he enters you.

[summiter]

First of all make sure it is the right guy at the right time in your life. Secondly talk about and use both control (condoms every time) so it is one less thing to worry about.

I would not try a weird position for your first time. I have been wit a few virgins and always toook it very slow and two of them liked it when I suggested that hey go on top so they could control the depth and speed of things. Your thoughts?

[Jessica405]

If he likes submissive women, make sure you set any red lines BEFORE you do anything. Set a safe word and make sure both of you understand what it is and how it works.

Make sure YOU take precautions. Use a condom until you KNOW he is clean.

Enjoy!

[Bricealan]

Don't expect it to be 'fun"

[Mansearching]

Set lines. Talk to him about it. Esp If you're uncomfortable about being the submisive. Tell him you want to start out slow, being traditional. If he loves you and understands about your past, he'll listen to your feelings. And do what you're ready for.

Plus, make him wear a condom or no nookie.

[tfan1]

Make Damn sure you are wet enough. #1 rule. Trust me I know 😞

[Zayed_]

My advice that you don’t have sex and wait until you find the right person who would commit.

[virgincountryboy]

I know one thing I know that it's very hard to talk about sex or anything when we are still virgin and need some help and be each other tutor and help each other and be a team

[gorydetails]

This doesn’t seem like a good idea.

[Guardian45]

Enjoy it and relax!

[MasterKS]

relax and let it go naturally.

[Cheerfull009]

First of all you must be on pills, if no, then tell your partner to use condom, Lot of foreplay, when you are wet rather Dripping, then go to bed with your face up, go in missionary position, open your legs apart much, with knees up, tell your boyfriend to come and penetrate slowly, then tell your partner to push his dick slowly slowly, inch by in inch in you till it goes completely in, then tell him to thrust slowly till he and you cums,

[tallblondejohm]

Tell him to pound you hard and deep

[Anonymous]

an interesting case