Was I sexually assaulted?

Question

When I was 11 me and my mom moved away from our old home to live with family (aunt/uncle/older cousins) and one of my older cousins would keep making advances on me (groping/etc), I never told them to stop because I didn’t know what they were doing was bad at the time and it felt good.

Sooner or later they went and did the whole thing but before they did it they asked for permission and I said yes so that’s why I’m confused. Because at the same time I didn’t even understand or know what sex was because my moms super religious and never had that talk with me and I didn’t discover porn.

They did it more than once but I’ll keep my explanation short

Now I’m confused cause I’m 15 and still thinking about this, I haven’t told anyone irl about this.

wheist9095 · Accepted Answer

It's hard to say, it also depends on the age of your older cousins. Because if you're 11 at the time and they're 12? I think that wouldn't really qualify as rape because they might also not really know what they're doing, and it's more of a mutual exploration. Like they hear a little bit about it and they want to try it out and you're a safe person because you're close, and you said yes but you didn't really know what you were getting into so it's kind of an uninformed consent kind of thing, like when somebody gets really drunk and says yes it doesn't count.

Alternatively, if you're like 11 and they're like 15 or older then yeah that's definitely sexual assault, rape kind of because you weren't able to give informed consent because you were too young... But that's arguable depending on where you're from and what courtroom you get into so it would probably just be called sexual assault. I would recommend going to a counselor to help sort out your feelings on the matter from like a qualified mental health professional who actually knows what they're doing but that can be really hard while you're young to keep it on the down low so you don't feel mortified or humiliated by the knowledge becoming public to even your own parent

loveslongnails · Accepted Answer

First you should read this article. To quickly answer your question however, minors can NOT agree to have sex, or legally, give their consent to anything - because their minors.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Yes on the first part about the groping, and technically what they did could constitute sexual abuse or statutory rape.

DaisyM23 · Accepted Answer

Yes, statutory rape because you are underage and didn’t know what sex was

loves2learn · Answer

Yes. I believe they did. How old were they? You were not old enough to consent.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yes you were assaulted / abused.

If they had sex with you it’s rape.

however it also sounds like you are banging close to PTSD as you realise what happened.

I would look at counselling girl, then look at what you want to do.

SamFromFL · Answer

Yes you were a victim. Wow, that’s terrible they took advantage of you

allaboutyou2 · Answer

In my opinion yes you were sexually assaulted, you were definitely taken advantage of but it definitely was not your fault.

MudRucker · Answer

11 year olds can't give consent.

Thedude1992 · Answer

Hard to say. How old was he? He mite have learned this and thought it was ok. You did say yes also. Did you ever say no or try to stop him. Did it feel good?