Was I sexually violated?

[Anonymous]

I have a long distance boyfriend and we’ve been dating a year. Sometimes on video calls he will strip off and expose himself on video call start shaking his dick and masturbating on video or just go to the bathroom and show me his dick on camera and then start touching himself and talking dirty to me. The first time this happened I had an uneasy feeling but it’s been happening now almost every time and I’ve just accepted it as the norm. Not once did he ask my permission to do these acts he just did it and then when I called him up on it and questioned him he said “I do it because your reaction is funny”

Is this normal sexual behaviour? Was I sexually violated?

[Kingship]

Its not normal. This is a boy, immature. Miss, think it through 'would you be with a "man" that whips out his dick when you guys have a *distant relationship* instead of trying to find meaning in your relationship.'

The boy does not care about you, but rather his infatilization of being pornographic.

Disgusting and immature. Remember: *distant* relationship. I mean really?

Why are you wasting your time. Ask him if he wants to do porno, because it seems like he is spiritually dead and only wants to be gay.

A male touching himself is gay.

Playing with a penis. Really?

This is gay and sick. He wasted your time and its a distant relationship.

Embrassing.

Females always have other options.

Just go to a library and you'll possibly find a sensible guy.

He has violated your time, and your peace of mind and you felt uncomfortable. Key word, uncomfortable. He thinks its normal, so there is a good chance that if you guys lived together and he wanted to fuck, he would violate you because he* thinks its okay.

That means what he thinks is wrong.

Move on. Good luck miss.

[Kingship]

violate as in rape you.

[Anonymous]

I did that to my ex, except for the naughty talking part, and jerking off. Just showed myself naked and then with underware, while changing off, after taking a shower. Bad timing. I think it was Christmas or new year night.

Yeah, never did it again. She wasn't happy about it.

At the same time I didn't know what to do. Context: Us been sexual, should be something that comfort her (in my mind I though that), but it caused the opposite effect: she felt down, after every attemp. I get tired of it and completely stop making the first move and stop show sexual desire. The relation was dead at that point. I should have breakup from year 1.

[Opinion Owner]

Answering your question. If you let him know and he kept doing it, you were sexually harased. To violate sexually, that's another level.

[Kingship]

yeah, its like sending dick pictures. Weird. Why digital when you can have find true meaning in person.

[Opinion Owner]

@Kingship My case was LD. I would never do that if we were in person, or had a conventional relationship. Thing with LD, is that if it's not healthy, mentally it destroys you.

[Anonymous]

see, if you guys lived together, this would be normal. but since you are long distance, it's fucking weird and makes everyone uncomfortable... at least you told him you're uncomfortable. but then he made a joke about your feelings. which isn't good. I don't know if you can even break up with a long distance boyfriend since this is not even a real relationship. but just stop texting him.

[Screenwriter]

Girl, this isn't normal and it's abusive. End this "relationship" now. No. 1, he's using you for his freakish cheap thrills. No. 2, you've hit the wall with this dude.

These are his true colors. Bid him good-bye and block him on your phone and all social media. He's sick. Good luck. There are loads off normal men out there. Don't put up with such shit! kisses to you.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s gross. You were sexually violated. You should break up with him and block him.

[bowenw]

I'm not sure what you call it, but at the very least it is disrespectful to do what he's doing without your consent. I suggest you tell him to not do it again.

[dudeinohio]

Not really normal. You were not violated. He didn't touch you.

[gorydetails]

Lol, no you aren’t sexually violated. If you tell him to stop and he doesn’t you break up.

[MasterKS]

you have decide what it is.

[Sophiecortess]

In my opinion, you were sexually violated because he didn't ask you first, boys always check if a girl wants you to master bath in front of her or strip off, it can cause emotional damage to us

[MasterKS]

@sophiecortess emotional damage to watching them jack off?

[Anonymous]

It's disrespectful, but I wouldn't say you were sexually violated. Why didn't you speak up the first time and tell him you weren't ok with it?

[Opinion Owner]

And why do you keep not speaking up about it

[Anonymous]

Yeah but the problem is you brought it on yourself by not telling him from the start I don't like this. Now he thinks you do, that you are accepting of the behavior, etc.

Your screw up.

Do yourself a favour and break up with him because you're too far down a hole to make anything salvagable about it. He's gonna to think you've mental issues if you suddenly say stop.