Was I too adamant in standing my ground?

Recently I tried to use online dating to find a hookup and found a decent enough guy that seemed friendly and it seemed to be going well, but when we were getting hot and heavy, I insisted that he use a condom because I didn’t want to risk being pregnant.

Then he started telling me how much he hates condoms and tried to convince me that he wouldn’t get me pregnant. I just ended up walking out altogether which was really disappointing but I couldn’t take the risk I feel, especially with a guy that stubborn.
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  • You can't have boundaries if you just let a guy talk you out of them.

    Look, I understand his point - I *hate* condoms too - they're AWFUL - but at the same time, they are NECESSARY unless you are monogamous and tested and have alternative BC.

    You did the right thing, and if he doesn't like it, then kick him to the curb. There's plenty of other guys out there who are down for some casual sex with you.

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  • Good for you. No condom means no sex. You do not want to be a mommy at a young age or get an std. He should respect that. Before I got married I always used condoms and the sex was always great and the orgasms were always great. Good job walking out on him. Were either of you virgins?

Most Helpful Girls

  • If it was just a hook up that was a smart to do, pregnancy isn’t the only thing to worry about STDs could be equally life altering.

  • Nah.
    Behavior like that makes me question if they have STD's.

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  • If he was open to hookups, didn’t want to use a condom, didn’t agree to it before sex, and did not discuss STI status and tests, then you were even too kind. Fuck off these people.

  • You did the right thing,

    pregnancy risk aside, how would you like having a lifetime STD etc.

    If he routinely has unprotected sex, then the chances of an STD greatly increase.

    Also for him, it’s stupid as he could also get an STD from some random girl.

    well done.

  • Good girl!

  • Good for you for standing your ground, aside from the pregnancy part, there's STDs to consider. Sounds like he threw his toys out of the pram because he just didn't want to wear a condom, maybe he'll learn his lesson.

  • You did the right thing

  • You did the right thing. Otherwise now you would have been due in 9 months

  • You did the right thing.

  • You did the right thing. Its not just pregnancy but sti's they protect against

  • I feel like it was smart of you to want to use a condom, let's not forget about STDs as well

  • You did the right thing. You never know what kind of disease this guy may have had too.

  • It's your body so you make the rules. You we're simply letting him know the rules. You can do better than a guy that doesn't respect you the fist time you meet.

  • No you did the right thing.

  • You made the right choice girl, good job!

  • You were not too adamant! Any dude that doesn't respect you enough to wear protection when you ask them to can't be trusted.

  • No. You did what you did. And you had every right too. Chances are mid way through he would have taken it out and tried to continue. I’ve learned if they don’t respect your wishes from the front side in certain things. Best to let them go.. and in this situation.. it would have led to a life altering outcome that you didn’t want. You made the smart choice.

  • Standing your ground was DEFINITELY the right thing to do. Never waiver from your boundaries…. even in the heat of the moment.

  • I don't use condoms because I can't get anyone pregnant.

  • I think you made good decision. You deserve better guy who can understand you well and respect your feelings

  • I couldn't blame you in that you're protecting yourself and against pregnancy 😍😉😁

  • Ahh yeah talk about blue balls. Lol. But no. It’s ur body and your right. Stand ur ground! 😎

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