U could have not mentioned it in that way. U could have just said what u think he could do that would make u come. Leave the ex part bfore. U were kind of inconsiderate. I wouldn't blame him now if all he thought about while u were having sex is how much he can't please u as ur ex did, turniing his sexual experience into something much less than enjoyable.
Also, in a relationship sometimes people take time to find their own sexual rythm. Instead of shaming him for not doing it righ, teach him in a respectful manner how to make u hot nd bothered. Anyways, hooe u are able to apologize profusely and say that it was somethung said in the heat of the moment and that it was clearly uncalled for and that u just need to find ur rythm together. So take it slow nd enjoy ur time teaching each other. Hooe u also make him understand he is the one u crave for nd not ur ex who u no longer love. Id sugest to treat him with a very well done BJ too and to make it about his pleasure for 1 night, as a way to also apologize.0 0 0 0Ex part out* i meant
Good luck though. Cause it won't b easy for him to stop being pissed
I'd dumped him then he annoyed me by messaging me trying to win me back yet calling me at the same time so I dif so back. Not sure whether I want him anymore
Yeah. Like just change the roles and imagine how you'd feel if he said his ex girlfriend was better. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, it's just good to imagine being in the other persons shoes.
To be honest, I don't know what you could say to him to fix what you said..
To him I guess it sounds like, my ex was so good, and you're not.
Even bringing up your ex at all, is hurtful. Let alone bringing up the sex you's had.
The only thing you can do is apologise0 0 0 0I'd already dumped him at this point but then he text me trying to win me back, saying he likes me a lot then started moaning about things at work as usual bbefore pointing out my flaws. Reading it only made me think we aren't right together even more and yet he still tried towin me back whilst pointing put my flaws
Well it seems like he really cares about you, enough to let go of what was said. Like in a way I guess, it's trying to help to make yous work. Like pointing out your flaws is so you can work on them, no one wants to be forced to keep quiet. He probably really wants yous to work, if I was you, I'd give him another chance :). There's no harm in seeing if there's any chance for you both :). I'm not saying for you to stay in a relationship if you're not happy, but when someone texts you to win you back obviously has a lot of strong feelings for you. Enough for him to stop pointing out things. But one thing that you pointed out too, was the thing about your ex, maybe this is a way as "getting back at you". It's childish, I know. But maybe a second chance would at least give him a chance to change. :) Best of luck
It does sound like he's mad - at the very least, he's not very happy with you. You're not necessarily wrong to point it out seeing as he was pointing out your flaws too, but by drawing a direct comparison to your ex, you're going to make him jealous and insecure and it looks like that's happened.
1 0 0 0You could have just said you don't cum instead of bringing the ex into it lol
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"He pointed out my flaws?" What kind of a boyfriend does this? That's just ugly. For me, someone "pointing out my flaws" is a deal-breaker. It's reasonable to ask a partner to change behavior. It's just ugly to tell someone what's wrong with them.
So why was it better with your ex? Was the ex more responsive to you during sex? If you can figure that out then you may be able to tell your boyfriend in one way or another how to get you off. OTOH if your boyfriend is just not paying attention to you at all during sex then maybe not. Good luck.0 0 0 0Well i'd ended it and he sent a text trying to win me back, telling me he likes me a lot but... then pointed out lots of my personality flaws so I did so back. It didn't make sense... it only made me think we aren't right together even more. He twists everything round on me and I ended up going too far yes but if he'd sent me a sweet message trying to win me over I would not have written that and I would have given him another chance but he just confirmed what I already thought. He's still chasing me and I don't know what i want. He's your age also
My ex warmed me up and was gentle. He rams me immediately
So not only is this guy much older than you, he's very selfish. I think you are well rid of him. You can do much much better.
Relationship 101: Never compare your current partner with your ex... NEVER!
Yeah, he is mad, you just hit his ego pretty bad xD4 5 0 0Yeah. No kidding. Id b pissed too if it was my boyfriend telling that to me
Tenho!!! I agreed you never ever never to be compare never 🙈
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4 14Comparing exes in bed, very very bad idea.
1 2 0 0Yep. You were so wrong. Try to never bring out his flaws and instead, tell him that what he thinks are his flaws, are actually a turn on to you. What you both are doing is plain stupid and immature.
0 0 0 0Oh yes he's mad... that's a big no no when dating, it's common sense to not bring stuff like that up
1 2 0 0We don't get as insecure as women but we DO have pressure points... Comparing us to your ex really hurts. So yeah, you did wrong. You really hurt his ego. Might take a while to repair... What if he said you're ugly or your vagina stinks or your boobs are too small?
0 1 0 0He never would. He's very attracted to me, gets off on the scent of my pussy, he'd go down on me all day and his favourite part of my body is my big tits. He insulted me first, my personality flaws when he sees himself as an angel and he's far from it
The point is not necessarily to mean it, but to hurt. It hurt him. Whether he deserved it or not. Instead of defusing it, you threw fuel on the fire. It is understandable and human, but not very productive. I think you should really discuss about what you would want sexually once you two patched things up. Maybe he thought you prefer rough?
God damn! I would've dumped you right then and there.
0 3 1 1Yeah.. that's considered the lowest you can go with mpst guys. Never compare the quality of sex of your current with an ex.
You could offer your boyfriend suggestions based on your ex, without mentioning your ex. Like, you know what makes you cum, and your boyfriend should want to know what makes you cum.
And if he's pointing out your flaws? Tell him to keep his mouth shut if he's not going to offer a loving solution, and doesn't speak respectfully with you.0 0 0 0Well, not the best thing to say for sure. Most guys get offended pretty easily and this probably will get printed in his memory for a looooooooong time.
BUT, its not like things were not bad before, right? Sometimes it's best to just blow everything up instead of pretending nothing is wrong and being miserable about your life0 1 0 0Yeah you're extremely wrong; You emasculated him and compared him to an ex. Tell him I said for him to leave you since you obviously have no respect for him.
0 0 0 0See this is why guys like virgins. If they tell us that we don't get our feelings hurt because we know they're lying.
0 1 1 0Gahd dayum! You really said that shit to him?
31.media.tumblr.com/.../...mfqykX1sz8klro1_400.gif1 1 0 0You might as well have kicked him in the balls.
1 2 0 0You slut! I would have kicked out of my life on the spot!
0 1 3 2You're an idiot. It makes me a slut to have sex with my current boyfriend... hmm ok.
You're so dumb... thats what you understand from my opinion. No wonder that you post such a dumb question. You're a slut anyway.
he is emasculated at this point but seems inexpereinced as well. why no orgasim is he small size?
1 0 0 0I've started to a few times but I scratch and he stops me. I just lose the feeling then cos he's stopped me
He isn't inexperienced. He's 41. I've asked him countless times to warm me up first but he's always rush rush
well if he rushes he is not a good lover.. he has to find your sensitive places and take time to explore and kiss and... pm for more details.. I have an option.
Yeah that's a pretty fucked up thing to say
1 1 0 0u have the right to get orgasm everytime he is mad
0 0 0 0You may as well have told him that he was adopted and that you murdered his real parents.
0 0 0 0oh shit that's messy
0 0 0 0Well I told my ex that he never made me cum and that he had a small penis and that that's why I left him for his cousin was that wrong probably
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