Was I wrong to tell my boyfriend my ex made me cum when he doesn't?

Me and my boyfriend were having a discussion about our issues, he pointed out my flaws. I pointed out that my ex would make me cum every time because he'd make love to me but he is always rough (he does always make me cum with his tongue though) - he replied with 'well go back to him if he's so amazing' does he sound mad? Was I wrong to point that out?
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  • U could have not mentioned it in that way. U could have just said what u think he could do that would make u come. Leave the ex part bfore. U were kind of inconsiderate. I wouldn't blame him now if all he thought about while u were having sex is how much he can't please u as ur ex did, turniing his sexual experience into something much less than enjoyable.
    Also, in a relationship sometimes people take time to find their own sexual rythm. Instead of shaming him for not doing it righ, teach him in a respectful manner how to make u hot nd bothered. Anyways, hooe u are able to apologize profusely and say that it was somethung said in the heat of the moment and that it was clearly uncalled for and that u just need to find ur rythm together. So take it slow nd enjoy ur time teaching each other. Hooe u also make him understand he is the one u crave for nd not ur ex who u no longer love. Id sugest to treat him with a very well done BJ too and to make it about his pleasure for 1 night, as a way to also apologize.

    • Ex part out* i meant

    • Good luck though. Cause it won't b easy for him to stop being pissed

    • I'd dumped him then he annoyed me by messaging me trying to win me back yet calling me at the same time so I dif so back. Not sure whether I want him anymore

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  • Yeah. Like just change the roles and imagine how you'd feel if he said his ex girlfriend was better. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, it's just good to imagine being in the other persons shoes.
    To be honest, I don't know what you could say to him to fix what you said..
    To him I guess it sounds like, my ex was so good, and you're not.
    Even bringing up your ex at all, is hurtful. Let alone bringing up the sex you's had.
    The only thing you can do is apologise

    • I'd already dumped him at this point but then he text me trying to win me back, saying he likes me a lot then started moaning about things at work as usual bbefore pointing out my flaws. Reading it only made me think we aren't right together even more and yet he still tried towin me back whilst pointing put my flaws

    • Well it seems like he really cares about you, enough to let go of what was said. Like in a way I guess, it's trying to help to make yous work. Like pointing out your flaws is so you can work on them, no one wants to be forced to keep quiet. He probably really wants yous to work, if I was you, I'd give him another chance :). There's no harm in seeing if there's any chance for you both :). I'm not saying for you to stay in a relationship if you're not happy, but when someone texts you to win you back obviously has a lot of strong feelings for you. Enough for him to stop pointing out things. But one thing that you pointed out too, was the thing about your ex, maybe this is a way as "getting back at you". It's childish, I know. But maybe a second chance would at least give him a chance to change. :) Best of luck

  • It does sound like he's mad - at the very least, he's not very happy with you. You're not necessarily wrong to point it out seeing as he was pointing out your flaws too, but by drawing a direct comparison to your ex, you're going to make him jealous and insecure and it looks like that's happened.

  • You could have just said you don't cum instead of bringing the ex into it lol

Most Helpful Guys

  • "He pointed out my flaws?" What kind of a boyfriend does this? That's just ugly. For me, someone "pointing out my flaws" is a deal-breaker. It's reasonable to ask a partner to change behavior. It's just ugly to tell someone what's wrong with them.

    So why was it better with your ex? Was the ex more responsive to you during sex? If you can figure that out then you may be able to tell your boyfriend in one way or another how to get you off. OTOH if your boyfriend is just not paying attention to you at all during sex then maybe not. Good luck.

    • Well i'd ended it and he sent a text trying to win me back, telling me he likes me a lot but... then pointed out lots of my personality flaws so I did so back. It didn't make sense... it only made me think we aren't right together even more. He twists everything round on me and I ended up going too far yes but if he'd sent me a sweet message trying to win me over I would not have written that and I would have given him another chance but he just confirmed what I already thought. He's still chasing me and I don't know what i want. He's your age also

    • My ex warmed me up and was gentle. He rams me immediately

    • So not only is this guy much older than you, he's very selfish. I think you are well rid of him. You can do much much better.

  • Relationship 101: Never compare your current partner with your ex... NEVER!

    Yeah, he is mad, you just hit his ego pretty bad xD

    • Yeah. No kidding. Id b pissed too if it was my boyfriend telling that to me

    • Tenho!!! I agreed you never ever never to be compare never 🙈

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  • Comparing exes in bed, very very bad idea.

  • Yep. You were so wrong. Try to never bring out his flaws and instead, tell him that what he thinks are his flaws, are actually a turn on to you. What you both are doing is plain stupid and immature.

  • Oh yes he's mad... that's a big no no when dating, it's common sense to not bring stuff like that up

  • We don't get as insecure as women but we DO have pressure points... Comparing us to your ex really hurts. So yeah, you did wrong. You really hurt his ego. Might take a while to repair... What if he said you're ugly or your vagina stinks or your boobs are too small?

    • He never would. He's very attracted to me, gets off on the scent of my pussy, he'd go down on me all day and his favourite part of my body is my big tits. He insulted me first, my personality flaws when he sees himself as an angel and he's far from it

    • The point is not necessarily to mean it, but to hurt. It hurt him. Whether he deserved it or not. Instead of defusing it, you threw fuel on the fire. It is understandable and human, but not very productive. I think you should really discuss about what you would want sexually once you two patched things up. Maybe he thought you prefer rough?

  • God damn! I would've dumped you right then and there.