Was the sex or me just not good enough to keep him about?

[Anonymous]

We have three kids together.

He claims I’m exactly his type. He loves big bums and small boobs and loves my eyes. Said I have the whore look he loves whatever that is. He said I have really big nice eyes and the boobs he likes and a big bum that he loves.

The other week he told me I did “some crazy shit during sex”, he loves eating me out and could do it all night. He loves 69, and told his friends how awesome the sex was. Said he doesn’t even need to doubt it he knows how good it was.

He calls me super hot and hot during sex.

He always wants to go twice maybe even three times.

Although there is times when the sex isn’t quite that good but it’s still good. Like we won’t do new things or “crazy things” it’s just calm sex which I like tok I like all types.

He did seem to imagine sometimes when sucking my boobs hed need to pace. But he’d need to pace too by staring at me when I was finishing or by what I did. But I always did worry he imagined just because I saw a meme saying guys do this. But he always needs to pull out to pace when looking at me. Also when sucking my boobs so maybe he does both.
But there’s been times he’s so hard and horny and it’s purely from looking at me and my body etc. there’s other tiems hee not too

He moans a lot at the kids and says things like I didn’t want to me it was forced on me. It’s the worst decision of his life etc.

Now he has a new girlfriend. Does he realise the sex with me just wasn’t that good and I’m not that hot or is it more he doesn’t need to deal with his kids with her? He asked for only 4 days a month with the kids and to pay the smallest he can. Surely if it was about the kids he’d go 50/50 failing that every weekend?

[BasedBaeBecca]

The fact that he is asking for the bare minimum of time with his kids and paying the smallest amount he can says a lot more about him than it does about you.

He may be focused on his new relationship and the excitement of it, but that doesn't mean that the sex wasn't good or you weren't hot to him.

It sounds like you two had a good sex life, but he didn't want that to be the basis of your relationship. He wanted more than that. Maybe he has different ideas of what he wants from a relationship with you vs with his new girlfriend.

[Asker]

That was my thinking the freedom of being with this girl no kids come through asking for a snack, not needing a babysitter since he leaves them with me 24/7

[richardcory]

There could be many things going on, but based on what you wrote my guess is that the sex was fine he just didn't want kids. Did you both discuss kids and did he say he actively wanted them?

[Asker]

He said he did but in recent years does not want them he disappeared for 3 months at the start of the year because his friend broke off an 8 year relationship. He has decided to be “done with the kids” 3/4 times.

[richardcory]

Did you have the kids at a time when he wanted them or was it after he decided he didn't? Kids are a huge responsibility, some people don't want / can't handle that

[OlderAndWiser]

You are telling this story about how hot the sex is and, all of a sudden, he's gone and has a new girlfriend. There's more to the story than that.

[Asker]

No that’s literally what happened. We had amazing sex the week before and then he was gone

[Asker]

He said I did some crazy shit then blocked me said he had someone new. Don’t contact him he will see the kids 4 days a month. Don’t I dare try and ruin it for him with the new girl because we had sex the morning he met her

[Asker]

Crazy shit during sex

[Asker]

Spoke to me that Friday saying he’s so sorry for ever bad things between us would step up be a good dad and partner then he had a new girlfriend

[Asker]

The sex the Friday night he said that was weird. There was so much sexual tension and we were so desperate to sleep together then he boring during it he bored me anyway. Then the sat morning we did it again in the kitchen

[Asker]

Is the sex with her just that much better? Or is it because with her his ego is boosted. No one is telling him what to do with his kids and it’s new?

[Asker]

The sex would go less amazing at times and seem less sexual tension etc but thats normal

[Asker]

He has a massive massive ego yet is so insecure so I reckon needs this girl to want him to feel okay

[OlderAndWiser]

You two aren’t married, right? Is the new girlfriend younger than you? Does she have kids?

[Asker]

No idea. Nope not married

[B4851]

He wanted the fun but not the kids. He's a loser.

[B4851]

Feel very sorry for you.

[Asker]

Did he choose the other girl cos sex is better with her or cos she doesn’t tell him what to do with his kids and try to get him involved? And they can just chill and have no responsibility

[B4851]

I think he just doesn't like kids, and he didn't like not getting a 100% of your attention.

[Asker]

And that’s why he only wants them 4 days a month to prove to this girl he does “something”

[Asker]

Or did he just really want sex with someone new?

[B4851]

Who knows. He just doesn't seem to care about anything but himself.

[Asker]

Do you think he did prefer sleeping with her

[B4851]

That I have know I'd. I think it's all about being the center of attention for him.

[In_Trance]

I call bullshit

[Asker]

Bullshit how?

[Anonymous]

Tbh u are allowed to cheat on him now

[Asker]

I’m blocked and he’s gone off with a new girlfriend demanding 4 days a month

[Opinion Owner]

No no with guys