Was this a friendzone or was it intentional emotional control by the woman?

[lightbulb27]

Id like to hear from women, do you feel you can really F over a guy to control him, without him realizing it? Do healthy women keep guys around?

I had a scenario years ago, within a few dates together, turned touchy. She came to my house. I started to explore and pleasured her (as best I recall). She was pleasured, she never reciprocated. No sex. Happened again at her driving, but she never reciprocated, no sex. I said no more to that, it turned friendzone not long after.

I recall another time I was in bed by myself, she came in, lied next to me... I went to touch her, hip, she pushed my hand away. If I tried to touch her hand years later, she pushed me away. She did not want to be with me clearly, but she also didn't want me to leave as I gave so much.

I stayed with her emotionally for years, giving her my all... foolishly. I was virgin when met at that time and inexperienced in relationships in general.

Is this something women would do intentionally to F over a guy and control him? What kind of damage does it do?

Have you had someone play games with you like that, pull you in, push you away (borderline personality disorder?). Did you find yourself emotionally hungup? How did you move past it so you were emotionally available to another?

No doubt there are spiders, and there are bugs...

[Jaumet]

Well, Mister guru if you had wanted this only to be answered by women all you had to was make sure only females could answer this. The who concept of being friendzoned is nothing but some incel ideology. Worse , if you allow anyone, that includes women, ok, to mind control you... the you have no free will and are thus simply acting on someone else's behalf.

I get that I'm only talking to a puppet who believes that others control their lives... However, believe it or not, that is simple BS... Nobody but yourself controls you! It's your life, if you want to live in fantasy or in reality... it is totally up to you. Now take charge of your life and live it like you want.

[lightbulb27]

Guru's... ha, didn't even realize that... forgot to click that button. Soon, I'll be a "Genius Guru"! Guru's make mistakes in life, the ones that are still alive, can share them on GAG and introspect. Incel doesn't fit (I could get a girlfriend), but definitely was working through my own emotional damage and issues. You aren't of the same cloth, but I think there is more going on in the manipulation realm than you may be aware of. I sure wasn't. Some of it is personality type. points taken.