We both confessed that we both masturbate on other people. Is it normal?

Hey, please be open minded and empathetic with us..
so we're in a long distance relationship and planning to move in together but in a year, we have been in this for 2.5 year because of studies. He's 29 and I'm 23.
We're having a healthy and good relationship and sexual life when we're together in live, but we kind of struggle on distance. We experience sexual frustration and he lately told me what he struggled with lately - that he masturbated on other girls. I should confess, that i do too, masturbate on other people but neither for him nor for me it has been more than this. Just fantasies. We are not comfortable and not considering open relationship because we're aware how the damage it might bring to our emotional well-being because we love each other and feel really well.
But I feel a bit emotional now. Mixed feelings Do you think it's normal? I'm happy and sad at the same time - happy because of this honest talk and openness between us, and also sad because I'm prone to anxiety and I just fear that my negative thoughts on distance will escalate and he will find someone and stupid thoughts like this (i don't have a reason for that because I know how much he loves me). Also, we don't masturbate on others when we're together.
Have you experienced the same thing?
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  • Don't worry too much about your fantasies. They're just that -- fantasies. Not real.

    My favorite masturbation fantasies started as reliving experiences with real women who I haven't had contact with in ages. They're good, reliable, fun fantasies, tho. They in no way color my real life experiences.

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  • Yes. We dont have sex much (me and my girlfriend) but we both masturbate. Because we simply have a low sex drive and we rather instead of annoying each other, just masturbate. Just check if you both are satisfied with your current sex life. If yes, there is nothing to worry about

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  • I haven't, but then, I've never been in a long-distance relationship. I doubt it's unusual, though; being in a relationship doesn't mean you magically stop finding other people attractive.

  • everyone does

  • When I was in a LDR we did a lot of Facetime/Zoom sex. It was fun to see each other naked and masturbating to a great orgasm. Have you tried that?

    • Of course. We do that :) send pics regularly

  • I think it can be something normal, and you should not overthink it and worry too much, you should trust him as much as he trusts you

  • Of course you do. That's completely normal.

  • It's completely normal. I keep them to myself.

  • That's beautiful.

  • I prefer homemade porn over any other type of porn. The girls in those porn videos are normal people and not porn stars.

  • I totally get it

  • Normal

  • Confession is good for the sole, open minded relationship is a good way to start

  • you guys will have fun

  • What do you mean on other people?

  • Of course it is normal. Don't be jealous about it. Your imagination shouldn't have boundaries. You can masturbate thinking of any male celebrity, he can masturbate thinking of a webcam model. That's totally OK. Share your masturbation experiences with each other. Thinking about someone else does't mean you would prefer him over your partner. Just stay in open, honest communication.