What a Slut Really Is, and The Importance of Self-Worth

[Anonymous]

Simply put, a "slut" is a woman who sleeps around. There's no point in sugar-coating anything or acting like we don't all know what a slut is, or getting offended by what a slut is. That's what it is: A woman who sleeps around.

Now that that is established, what's so bad about being a "slut"? All a slut is, is the female version of a man who sleeps around. That too is correct. Men can also sleep around. But I'm not a man and I'm not going to speak on behalf of men nor will I try to persuade any men to think anything other than whatever they already think. I'm just not going to do that, I don't have the kind of expertise it takes to talk to men. No, I'm just going to take a minute to talk to the ladies. Guys, you can stay, you can go...whatever. It's on you. But girls, this message is for you because YOU'RE the ones who are going to have to live with this kind of message for the rest of your life.

First, let me say that there is a DIFFERENCE between slut-shaming and sharing an important lesson in life. If you hate me after this then oh well, but somebody is going to have to tell you this and I guess it's going to be me.

So anyway, what anybody does behind closed doors is their business. I've done my dirt. I'm not a slut but I'm not a saint either. Just because I haven't done certain things doesn't make me "holier than thou" because what I haven't done, I have probably thought about doing. The shit I see other women doing, I sometimes feel like I COULD do. After all, we all have a body and free will. And of course we have fantasies, urges, and needs.

Some of us have thought about the idea of using a man for his money. Maybe we want to experience the power or being important enough to "buy" per se, or maybe we just need the cash. Some of us have really liked a cheating man or just a man with a girlfriend; I won't act like the thought of being a side chick crossing my mind is simply impossible. Being a mistress couldn't be all bad, right? Some of us haven't done much, but we WANT to. And of course, we have that oh so amazing free will and that means that we can do whatever we want to do.

I haven't done much, in the eyes of today's men I could be the epitome of purity even, but I will not act like I'm anything special. I'm just another woman with a VJ. VJ is everywhere, I could even go so far as to say every woman on the planet has one. So hiding this lump of flesh shouldn't be anything right? I mean, its just another one in the bunch. And no matter how tight, how hairless, how wet or how unused it is there is and always will be more. That much is simple.

Like I said, I haven't done much but I'm only human and I'm not perfect so I can't judge another woman for doing shit that I just don't have the heart to do.

But that's just it. I don't have the heart to do the shit other women do because I'm not cut from the same cloth. My standards are too high to be enticed by the idea of using sex to my advantage. The action alone of just having sex is nothing new, people have been doing that for millions of years and will continue to do it. But there is a DEFINATE correlation between the decision to have sex and one's self worth.

Take for example a person whom you hold in high esteem. I'm going to go with my future daughter. (You could think of your mother, father, brother, sister or even cat for that matter). I have this idea in my head that I want my daughter to be the best woman she could be and I want her to have a mind to know. I want her to know she deserves to be a great woman and I intend to raise her as such.

There's not a doubt in my head that outside forces will influence my future daughter. A sweet-talking player with a lot if money and a bad reputation could swoop by and make her question her morals. But as her future mother, I care so much about her that I would still hope that she could see the wrong in doing something she knows she should not do. There are plenty of forces on this earth that could persuade someone to do wrong, but when you see the value in them and have faith in them, you hope with all your might that they can pull through and still be the best they can be.

So why can't you see the same value in yourself?

If you could hope that someone else that you love with all your heart knows their worth enough to be a good person, why can't you think that way about your OWN self worth? If sleeping around with people who you aren't in love with does nothing else, doesn't leave you pregnant, doesn't leave you with an STD, doesn't leave you catching feelings....nothing else, then it AT THE VERY LEAST makes you lower your own self worth. If you do something that you wouldn't want the most important person in your life to look down on you for, then you are consciously being what you KNOW is a slut and that's what makes it so bad.

The conscious knowledge of your actions with no intention to change to be BETTER than that. You have to consciously try to be the kind of woman your own self could be proud of. That's all being a "good" woman really is. Its just making the effort to be the kind of woman you would want to be because you feel like you're good enough and deserve it enough to be. And it's up to you to be the judge of that. Not a man, not me, not your doctor (well maybe, that depends). Its up to you to decide how important you think you are.

[ShortCircuit]

It's less about self worth, and more about your value to the opposite gender. However, I'm not saying that it's inherently bad to base your self worth on the approval of the opposite gender, because afterall, a man will treat you better if he values you.

Let's see... Remember those crappy Valentine's Day cards that we handed out in elementary school? They didn't mean anything because *everyone* recieved one.

Now remember how much more it meant to you when/if you recieved a Valentine's Day rose in high school from someone, specifically for *you*?

Sex is the same way. My point is, if you want to make your future partner feel special, then you shouldn't be handing your body out to everyone at the drop of a hat. Why? Because it will make it much less valuable when you decide to have sex with that special someone that you actually care about.

If you don't care about him enough to be driven to make him feel special, then go right ahead and continue being a slut for your own personal gain. I just hope you don't plan on changing your lifestyle, and trapping that poor soul of a man later on.

[somebodysaycheese]

. Men get called whores sluts just like women and get judged as wel lthey just dont get bothered by the label. Very few women would take a male hoe seriously , sleep with him yes but not a relationship or marriage. And I think if you are comfortable with who you ar and what you do someone calling you a slut wouldn't matter. Unless, deep inside you dont like what you are doing.

[AleDeEurope]

Was gonna give my own opinion, but you said exactly what I was going to say.

[myTake Owner]

I know. This can also happen to men and men should value themselves too. I just didn't say that because i didn't feel like it. Valid point tho

[desidoll]

I agree MHO here.

[BubbleBoy69]

That/s not what i've seen. Many women gladly will pick a male hoe provided he is a reformed male hoe. Women seem to get a kick out of their men being desirable by other women and there is no more proof that needs to be said of a male desirability than a man who was able to bed plenty of women. Thus, provided the male has reformed and shown he can be monogamous for her , many women actually would gladly and preferably pick said male for a BF/husband over one who lacks proof of being desired by other women.

[FemaleAssassin]

@BubbleBoy69 you're just so wrong on so many levels, i'm a virgin and so are almost all of the unmarried girls in my country, but believe it or not, non of us want a male-slut tbh, because i've protected and cherished my virginity for him so i only expect him to do the same.

[Brokenheartedx]

Slut is actually a word off of slattern, which in turn meant women with dirty houses..

I find minding my own business on how many partners someone has had goes along way. Those who cast first stone etc.

I don't find anyone sluts, I do find that those that call others it never disclose how many sexual partners they have had.

It only takes sleeping with 1 person to be called a slut anyway.. so what difference does it make? If people use that word on others to make them feel ashamed then those aren't the kind of people worth knowing in the first place.

Yup I've been called a slut and was told I had slept with over a hundred men, never corrected them if that's what they think then that's their problem.

So really you can't change someone's perception so no point in trying. If a man looks his nose down on a woman and thinks she's a slut then that's his problem. Worlds changing and if those men don't step into 2016 then allow them to live with an 1800s attitude, the shock will come when they have daughters of their own.

[tues_clues]

I'm definitely a slut. always have been my whole teen and adult life. i have very low self esteem and it has lead me to do very promiscuous things that i probably wouldn't otherwise do if i valued myself more. but I'm working on it

[MrMysteryMan]

Keep working on it. You can have a lot of sex and care about yourself as well. Either do it for reasons like you care for the other person or love the sex and care about yourself. Don't do it because you only get self worth from someone else. It's tough probably to feel you're worth something if someone or something scared you and caused you to loose your confidence and self worth. But, you're worth is important to someone. If anything, you should be that someone at least.

[tues_clues]

@MrMysteryMan Thank you! I am trying, and I have definitely turned down sexual offers recently because i decided i valued myself more than this random experience. I used to never feel like i could say "no" because I wanted to feel valued by the other person.

[efefefefef]

I respect you for accepting who you are.

[tues_clues]

@efefefefef thank you <3

[Berethor]

@tues_clues it's also an self-fulfilling prophecy, a girl become an slut out of low self esteem and then she get even lower self esteem for being an slut and used goods.

[dragonfly6516]

So what about those of us who are not using men, we just love sex, love our bodies, have plenty of self confidence, and feel no shame for what we do? Hey guys, how many of you would like to see more women who can just have fun without catching feelings and demanding some sort of payment or commitment?

[SvetlanaSavachenko]

I'm a Slut and I have absolutely no shame or regrets about being a Slut. I believe I was born a Slut. I have had an overactive sex drive since I was very young and have a constant need for sex. When I don't get sex or enough sex I can be very unpleasant to be around.

I don't feel a bit degraded by being a Slut. I know there are a lot of men out there who want sex and aren't getting it and when they choose me to have sex with it actually makes me feel good. There were a hundred women at the bar last night, 30 of us being Sluts and out of the 30 Sluts at least 27 were more beautiful than I am yet these men chose me over the other 29 and probably 15 went home unfulfilled. I must be good at what I do or I'd have been one of the Sluts going home unfulfilled and that makes me feel good about myself.

I am well educated and have 2 bachelor of science degrees and earned all the "A's" that I got. Sure I did sleep with some of my professors but it wasn't for the grade I received, just the mutual pleasure it would bring both of us. I sleep with my co workers, bosses and business contacts but it's not to get the promotion or salary I don't deserve, it's for the mutual pleasure we both get from it.

I don't spread my legs for just anyone, I don't turn many down but I do turn guys down, either they're not my type or I just get a bad vibe from them. I am a mistress or a piece on the side for many married men, I'm not looking to break up anyone's marriage or expect any guy to leave his wife for me. I'm merely indulging them in a sexual desire their wives will not accommodate. Some of the wives even know about me and are OK with their husbands coming to see me. They say since their husband has been coming to me they are no longer bothered to do sexual things they don't want to do.

Am I ashamed or degraded by being a Slut? Not at all!

[madhatters4]

i guess a small problem i see here is the insinuation that a person who is promiscuous (synonym for slut) lacks self worth. it sort of suggests that our worth as people is somehow tied directly to our propensity for being sexually chaste.

there are plenty of very promiscuous people are incredible people and plenty who are virgins or have very little sex who are "worthless".

for some people they may glean self worth from sex but for plenty it's just sex. enjoying the carnal pleasures of life. i wouldn't suggest that a person who simply enjoys sex as having lower self worth

[MrMysteryMan]

But if someone sleeps around because they love the feeling of sexual contact, then why do we think they don't love themselves? Some people sleep around for comfort and that connection to someone. These two examples are just people who love sex and that feeling of connection and comfort and sensuality that a hug can't give you in the exact same way. I don't consider these to be sluts/whores. The ones I do consider to be sluts/whores are the ones who sleep around for money and/or material/status gain of some sort.

If you are one that has casual sex for comfort then that is more of they are lonely, not a slut. The ones that have casual sex because it's an awesome feeling and fun to do, they aren't sluts either, just human. The ones that use sex as a tool for gain or to hurt in some way another, then that's a slut/whore/prostitute. Those are the ones that have no "self worth" in my eyes. Also, you can have casual sex and still have self worth in that you care about the casual person you are with. Or you have continual sex with someone that isn't necessarily your partner/spouse, etc. It doesn't make you a slut. If you have sex with the whole football team or something and you don't care how they treat you, then that is a slut or you just did something slutty. To me, you can be a slut at any point in time, you just have to think about if you want to be considered a slut from that point on.

[Kaazsz]

When a man is a slut, its a compliment. When a woman is a slut it "lowers her self worth." Does that not make you think already that maybe the problem is not in women having sex, the problem is in society seeing women having sex as devaluing them? Because clearly having lots of sex is not devaluing men.

[CheerGirl38139]

Oh slut shaming... how new and different for G@G.

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How bout we try our best to stop judging other people, or calling them names?

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[Donniej]

I agree with you completely" don't judge someone because they sin differently than you" even murders , rapists, thieves and childmolesters

[CheerGirl38139]

@Donniej horrifically weak sarcasm bro. Not even a worthy attempt.

[Donniej]

Not being sarcastic bro. judging should be done only by the courts bro ;)

[CheerGirl38139]

@Donniej So there's a court of social interaction? Is there a division of promiscuity?

[Donniej]

Yeah bro it's called *whispers* society tada

[CheerGirl38139]

@Donniej yeah that's not really a guarantee of a fair trial now is it bruh?

[Donniej]

I suppose It depends on the society A society that includes ones that are capable of self control, wise and unbiased will give you a fair trail otherwise your screwed

[Donniej]

BRO! ;)

[CheerGirl38139]

@Donniej

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2147254-girls-how-many-of-you-sometimes-refer-to-guys-as-bro-or-your

[Donniej]

Wait what ur a girl?;)

[CheerGirl38139]

@Donniej are you pretending to be one?

[Donniej]

Ah! Young lady I will let you know that i did no such thing. And if you must know I identify myself as an attack helicopter the AW129 to be specific BRO!

[CheerGirl38139]

@Donniej mmmkay bro...

[Donniej]

Yeah good night bro

[Berethor]

Well many sluts don't see what they doing as bad, and it's their business, but when guy is thinking about going out with a slut it's because his business as well, as so it's totally okey to dislike sluts, especially on a personal level.

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[Berethor]

I mean "it's become his business as well."

[TheDevilInside]

Well written advice. I've never seen it put this way, seen from this angle. I mostly just think of it as "are you a precious little pearl or are you a cheap piece of carpet that's on sale in front of the store? Which one do you want to be?"

[Library]

There is no such thing as a slut. They are promiscuous and promiscuous women are the best. They are better than repressed girls and have more sense of self worth. However if a woman wants to sleep around, it's nobody's business but hers.

[AleDeEurope]

There is such thing as a slut, and that is a woman that sleeps around. Sorry, but words have meanings, and if you fall under the definition of that word... well, you're a slut. If I act like an asshole, then I'm an asshole, I can't cry when people call me that because that's how I act. There's nothing wrong with being a slut, but don't say "there's no such thing as a slut".

[hellionthesagereborn]

By definition you are describing a slut. I actually find it ironic that you are shaming one group of women in an attempt to not shame another. The fact is if a woman who slept around has a stronger sense of self worth then why would she give up what she has so cheaply and so freely? Actions have consequences sex is no different it will have a negative impact in their future relationships and pretending otherwise is simply enabling a person to function impulsively and against their best interests.

[CheerGirl38139]

@AleDeEurope here we go again.

When you can define how many is "MANY" then you can say "slut" can be defined. Until then, no.

So how about just not using the word? It used to be OK to use words like "niqqer" and faqqot" - but it's not anymore. Because we have EVOLVED enough to realize that those are unnecessary words to use in our vocabulary.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/slut

www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/promiscuous

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/many

MANY = "a large but INDEFINITE number"

www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/indefinite

INDEFINITE =

1. NOT certain in amount or length
2. NOT clear or certain in meaning or details.

You were saying?

[GingerGuy]

I agree totally. I also notice it's mostly women that call other women "sluts" They're hurting their own gender.

[IceCubedude]

@CheerGirl38139 you think that which is fine but you can never change a mans way of thinking playing with words will not make a slut seem decent

[CheerGirl38139]

@IceCubedude that's not the point man. AT ALL.

[AleDeEurope]

@CheerGirl38139 Lot = a large number or amount; a great deal So, should we stop using the word "lot"? When is it considered a large amount and when isn't? To a fat guy, running 500 meters is a lot, but to an athletic guy, it is not. Should we also stop saying the word "asshole"? Cause someone may consider a person an asshole, but to me, he's not. What about stupid? Stupid = lacking intelligence or common sense. Where do you set the line that defines the amount of intelligence someone has? My point is that, there's many words that are used depending on the person that is saying it. For some people 5 is a lot, for others it's 50 when it's considered a lot. If we're gonna get rid of words that are up to people's interpretation, we would have a veeeeery poor language.

[CheerGirl38139]

@AleDeEurope you're using semantics to get absurd now. You know exactly what I'm saying. If a derogatory word (slur) is ambiguous to begin with, then it's best to simply choose to not use it. Not to "ban in from the language". YOUR definition is different from another guy, who's definition is different from mine... which means... it CANNOT be defined. So to you "a lot" of sexual partners could be 5, to the next guy it could be 2, and to another guy it could be 20. And then there's the girl/woman's age that SHOULD also be considered. So if she's slept with 3 guys, only the second guy would call her a "slut". If you personally think that 3 is not too many, would you say that she isn't a slut? And what right do any of you have to decide if she is or isn't? And if you do/did have such a right, what purpose does it serve? The point is, its a SUBJECTIVE and AMBIGUOUS SLUR, and unlike the word "a lot" - is harmful. Just because a word exists, doesn't make it appropriate to use.

[AleDeEurope]

@CheerGirl38139 So, again, should we stop using the word "asshole" or "stupid"? Cause it depends on the person and what they consider to be enough to say someone's an asshole or stupid. They're both slurs, and they're both up to interpretation, just like "slut". What about the words "Player", "fuckboy", "manwhore"... that are thrown around everyday?

[CheerGirl38139]

@AleDeEurope first of all, MOST people do NOT have a firm grip on their own language, nor do many of them have adequate reading comprehension. I don't care for calling people names period, but some are obviously more offensive than others.

So... if you consider a person to be "stupid" or an "asshole", if you insist on using those words, then it would be more accurate instead of being lazy and saying ""that was stupid" to say "that seems like a stupid thing to do in my opinion" - or if calling someone an "asshole" - you could say "that dude comes off like an asshole to me" - but most people are too lazy to do that.

Maybe we all could/should exercise a little more tact and thought in our daily use of language.

Regardless, I think slurs are insidious, and should be avoided whenever possible.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/slur

I also think that gender qualifiers like "man-whore" are blatantly sexist and inappropriate.

Let's not continue beating the dead horse :)

[IceCubedude]

@CheerGirl38139 cut the crap, sluts exist the word and the people , men dont find them wifey material deal with it , and by the way for most men more than 2 sexual partners is a lot.

[CheerGirl38139]

@IceCubedude now... @AleDeEurope... this guy above here (great example), would qualify in MY mind for a few of those words that you just tossed out there. But instead of "calling him an asshole" - I'm just going to chalk him up and someone who's opinion is irrelevant to me, because he seems to just be wanting to instigate a reaction. One could also say "faqqots and niqqers exist too, and straight white men don't want to be around them" ... and if you're in the KKK I guess that's how you would speak. THAT is how I perceive the above user. And THAT is not a very good way for people to see you, IN MY OPINION. But... that's how he wants me/us to see him apparently. So, rather than call him names, or tell him how "stupid" I think his comment was (2? at what age? 18 or 80?), I'll simply block him and go about my day. I have no use for people that speak, think, or act in such ways. :)

[hellionthesagereborn]

@CheerGirl38139 That's not evolution that's politics. Those who benefit from not being judged demand that the rest of the world not judge them on their actions, ironic since your actions themselves are a judgment so casting judgment is inescapable. Define big? Or Vast or any other of words we use that do not have a set quantity. That's a poor argument, it does not need a fixed quantity, that is subjective to the person or society that does not alter the action or the meaning of the word. Besides which we know that promiscuity has negative consequences and as such are going to stigmatize it just like we do for other self destructive behaviors because if its harmful to the individual its harmful for society.

[CheerGirl38139]

@hellionthesagereborn because it is subject to the person using it... that's they very reason that it can't be defined man. That's the point. Is she "a slut"? Well I dunno. How many partners has she had? 2? 3? 10? What's the number that makes her "a slut". There's not one. I try not to judge others, but I'm sure you're correct that it can't be done 100% of the time. That's not realistic. But using a slur is unnecessary and unproductive. Especially when it's completely subjective. That's the point man. If you wanna to call a girl "a slut" when she hits YOUR number that makes her one in YOUR eyes... I'm sure you will. And that... is just nonsensical. But it's not like you're gonna listen to me. Might as well use "niqqer" and "faqqot" too. I mean they're slurs that are in the dictionary too. ✌

[Maik567]

If there was no such thing a slut the word wouldn't exist. Don't be stupid.

[hellionthesagereborn]

@CheerGirl38139 A word that cannot be defined is still a word hence, again big small hot cold painful etc etc. All things are subjective and relative to the individual. The word has a definition that is fairly accepted and while the number is subjective the meaning is not. Besides which its singular function is to shame people into not doing the behavior so it hurting some ones feeligns is in fact the point. We don't applaude liars or cheaters or lushes or the obese. As for n** and faggot I do use those words if I find it necessary, unlike you who self censores even when the word is not being used in a negative context, because words mean nothing, intent is the only thing that has meaning. A word has no inherint meaning just the meaning that is ascribed to it at that particular moment in time. Plus, again, promiscuity has many negative consequences so we call it out just like we call out all bad behavior.

[CheerGirl38139]

@hellionthesagereborn I'll agree that you have a legitimate argument there. I just don't agree that it's a useful word, as no slurs really are. And like I always say, just because a word is in the dictionary, doesn't make it appropriate to use. I can give you dozens of other words that are too subjective to accurately describe another person, but there's no point. We are not going to agree here, I guess it's simply a personal choice... Maybe how you were rasied... I'm not sure... as to whether you think that sort of habit is appropriate. I never have and I never will. Words do mean something to me. And I don't mean from the aspect of having MY feelings hurt... but how and when I choose to use them...✌

[hellionthesagereborn]

@CheerGirl38139 I don't generally speaking use the term myself, if I address such issues I tend to stay quite technical and less emotional/personal. However again it being disrespectful is the point that's what shaming is about to make some one feel bad about the action taken and thus reform in order to avoid negative stimuli in this case being called a slut. So by trying to make a more "respectful" term you are stating that the persons actions where not bad that they where respectable and that they are no different then any other action thus not discouraging the behavior. Promiscuity has a lot of negative consequences its incredibly damaging both to the individual, the person they inevitably try to date long term, any child resulting from that relationship and by extention society. So people will continue to use the word or any other they think will make the person stop acting in such a destructive way if not for that person then as a warning to other people.

[0112358]

Why does sleeping around automatically lower a woman's self worth?

Why would the most important person in her life necessarily look down on her for it?

[rjroy3]

I like the message, but my first thought was, "So.. moral of the story. If you can do it, without feeling guilty for it you're all good girl" *thumbs up*.

[Dipsy]

Slut = hoe = No!!

[inceptin951]

First off, this very website is named "girlsaskguys" in order to get a perspective from the opposite gender. If you don't want to hear guy's opinions, than go on Tumblr and discuss this with feminazis like yourself.

Regarding your "question" (really a rant) the reason men are not looked down on for sleeping around is it is much more difficult as a man to sleep around. As an average looking women, you can easily sleep around with plenty of attractive men. Even a good-looking guy has to initiate the relationship and after that it is a lot of work before most girls will sleep with him.

There is nothing wrong with sleeping around of course. But just be honest. Don't tell a guy you care about him and really you just want to screw him. Just be upfront and honest that all you are interested in is sex.

Also this whole "us women should stop looking down on ourselves all the time and know we are beautiful no matter what" is just an idealistic self-indulging delusional worldview. All women ever do is talk about how "ugly" or "judged" they are in order to get sympathy from other women who are in the same situation and will compliment you in order to make themselves feel better. So really you're wasting your time asking other women who sleep around a lot like you because they are just going to agree with you in order to make themselves feel better. At the end of the night when you go to bed, you know the truth.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah I do at the end of the day so everything you wrote was irrevant.

[inceptin951]

If you already knew the truth than there was no purpose in posting. Also, it is "irrelevant".

[myTake Owner]

I made this targeting a specific audience and that bother you because? And anyway i didn't say men couldnt say therr opinion i said women should hear what i had to say. And everything after that you just kind of made up in your own head

[inceptin951]

lol what a surprise. Just looking at your post its the typical "Oh us women are victims and I just want to tell you girls we're all perfect in our own little way!" BS. You know you don't even believe that crap yourself. If you're a slut, you're a slut. No need to try and make yourself feel better about it.

[myTake Owner]

Lol yo first of all Im a virgin. And I never said women were "perfect in our own little way". I said if a woman values herself she knows not to do anything she wouldn't want her daughter to do. Where did you get out of this that i was incriminating men at all? I never said men were villians whatsoever. Like i said you made all that stuff up in your head. The only mention i made to men was in the beggining when i said this mytakes target audience was women, not men.

[inceptin951]

Wow you're a virgin? lol what a nerd. I bet you spent the whole weekend with your nose deep in your biology book.

[SarahsSummer]

@incetptin951 You're not very bright are you? Or is it just a desire to argue? A "Mytake" isn't a question at all. It is a rant of sorts. Rant: to speak or shout in an impassioned way

[CheerGirl38139]

@SarahsSummer LOL.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2132350-when-is-the-right-timing-to-ask-a-girl-out-should-i-at-all

[CheerGirl38139]

@SarahsSummer same guy (I'm finishing my second year of community college) - told me on my Trump Take that he thought I was a high school drop out that gets my news on tumblr... Yeah... you're right genius. I'm clueless. LOL. I'll have my dual major four year degree before you finish your second year of community college. :) Not to mention, I've actually been IN my U. S. senator's office. Yeah... I don't know anything about politics or US Government. #Trumpeteers - smh -

[SarahsSummer]

@CheerGirl38139 lol. Yeah, I actually feel bad for the poor kid.

[CheerGirl38139]

@SarahsSummer lesson one. Read the faqs and learn the difference between questions ando my takes.

[bobbyxx]

Fantastic opinion. One of the opinions of the day or should I say fact.

[bobbyxx]

And just ignore these two feminazis, I've had run ins with them both before.

[bobbyxx]

Sorry three feminazis

[CheerGirl38139]

@bobbyxx bud if you knew anything about me AT ALL... you'd know not even a feminist, much less a feminazi... LOL. Yout ignorance proves why you're blocked. ✌

[inceptin951]

@bobbyxx lol don't worry. I know better than to listen to feminists at this point. Their opinion is mute to me.

[hlab3]

A typical feminist blocking other people, so she wouldn't have to be confronted with opposing opinions and actually deal with different ideas. Coward.

[bobbyxx]

@hlab3 she blocked me just for disagreeing with her. I'm used to it from feminists, there could be a convention of feminists who have blocked me.

[CheerGirl38139]

@bobbyxx I didn't block you for disagreeing with me, and again...@hlab3... I've never seen you before. Had you seen many of my other posts, you'd know that I am NOT a feminist. Not even close. It's funny how people immediately digress to that statement. In fact, I think much of their platform is counterproductive not only to women in general, but also unfair to most men. I blocked Bobby simply for being a nonstop antagonistic troll that refused to agree to disagree, and kept getting increasingly argumentative and annoying. Some people come to GaG with the sole purpose of arguing with others. I dont. I share my opinion, maybe go back and forth 2 or 3 times, and that's it. Going past that, there's no point in wasting each other's time. Thinking that you "won" and Internet argument is folly. No one ever does. I just don't put up with perpetual fucktardery, which is why I bloked Bobby. Apparently his feelings are still hurt months later. Of course he has me blocked as well. ✌

[CheerGirl38139]

Ok, FTR, I see now that @hlab3 already has me blocked, even tough I've never seen her before. So... I'm thinking that your incorrectly labeling me as a feminist, then calling me a coward, and then blocking me having never interacted with me... is pretty damn hilarious. Hypocrite much? 😂😂 Your loss babe. ✌

[hlab3]

@CheerGirl38139 I never blocked anybody tho?

[hlab3]

@CheerGirl38139 I haven't even been on here since a hours ago I don't know

[CheerGirl38139]

@hlab3 Well I couldn't tag you earlier which meant I was blocked. But I will unblock you, and leave it that way if you're not the harassing type. :) You are welcome to check my posts here, I'm no feminist I assure you. Not ever partially. Try not to take some fucktard's word for something until you check it out for yourself. I never ASS-ume someone is correct in their assessment of another person. I would rather see for myself. As I said, Bobby proved himself to be aggressively obtuse. I blocked him for being annoying as fuck, not for disagreeing with my opinion of something. I don't do that. I block trolls, fucktards, and people that have first blocked me. That's it. I'm fine with civil disagreement. :) It is funny though, how many guys here will get their feelings hurt, and revert immediately to throwing out "feminazi" without any evidence to back up their careless accusation. I think it's just a defense mechanism for wounded egos.

[bobbyxx]

@CheerGirl38139 for you information you blocked me simply for disagreeing with you.

[bobbyxx]

She blocked med for disagreeing with her. It was the first time I ever spoke to her. She is a liar.

[bobbyxx]

Now she is winging that someone has done the same to her. This is typical of feminists.

[bobbyxx]

@hlab3 just for the record she did block me when I disagreed with her. It was the first time I had ever commented or answered on anything she has said.

[CheerGirl38139]

@bobbyxx I see that your reading comprehension is still at an elementary level. I've been here for over two years, and never subscribed to the basic platform of feminism, and my posts reflect that. Being disgusted by people using slurs towards others has nothing to do with feminism. I'm sorry that you can't read very well and resort to playground rebuttles. It's hilarious that you're still butthurt about being blocked by me that it's so permanently effecting you. I'd never give an internet stranger that sort of power over me. I'm not whining that you blocked me back. I give zero fucks about you. Had you blocked me first, I would have done the same as you did. ✌ But just reading what you keep posting about me here, should clue people in why you're blocked. You can't discern what a feminist actually is. It's just your go-to insult. 😂

[inceptin951]

@CheerGirl38139 I love how you guys keep on arguing over who blocked who and yet you're still able to respond to each other haha

[CheerGirl38139]

well we just can't tag each other or post in each other's answers or questions OP. And we cant's each other's recent posts from the profile page. However, it doesn't stop him from trolling me when he sees me reply to someone else's answer, as he is doing here. :) You and I don't agree on much, but so far I haven't blocked you for trolling me or general fucktardery. As long as you don't come off like an antagonistic ass wipe, it's OK to agree to disagree. I do advise that you take a moment to grasp the difference between a question and a "MyTake" - because I realize you're fairly new here. Have a good time!

[inceptin951]

@CheerGirl38139 Well I have two jobs and I go to college full-time so I don't have the time to troll much. Although I will admit some of the things I said earlier are slightly exaggerated for my own entertainment but there's no harm in that.

[CheerGirl38139]

Nah... I do the same... but just be advised that when you do that... especially as a newbie... you may be blocked (especially by other newbies)... that take you 100% seriously. I. e. I'm blocked by a girl that has almost IDENTICAL political views to mine (yours actually), but she was a level 3 at the time. I made a satirical comment about me being racist, and she thought I was serious. People that know me knew better. But she just knee-jerked the block button and has cut herself off from my intellectual genius and my epic sarcasm. ;) A lot of people here are not quite astute enough to understand sarcasm... and/or their first language isn't English, so it just makes no sense to them. Also, you read me wrong before, ASSuming that I'm uneducated on American Government in your defense of Trump. Horrific mistake. I'm voting for him, but only because I think he's slightly less dangerous than her for our country. Anyway, careful with those ASSumptions. You might be wrong. :)

[inceptin951]

@CheerGirl38139 Yeah I knew you said you weren't a feminist but I kept on saying you were just for the entertainment :) by the way thanks for following me. I'll follow you back.

[CheerGirl38139]

Yeah... I don't get my jimmies rustled over that shit, but I WILL block a fucktard if I ascertain that they're actually that stupid. On another note, if you enjoy just trying to intentionally rustle jimmes... that IS actually trolling. I don't really get why people get off on that, but whatever, it's the Internet. I just think when you do that, it gives people the impression that you're not to be taken seriously, and you could be missing out on some quality interaction. But every user has their own personal reasons for joining G@G. Personally, I'm pretty dismissive of trolls in general.

[inceptin951]

@CheerGirl38139 Well my initial post was not meant as satirical although it made broad generalizations that I am well aware could not be determined about you based on one post. But you know how it is once you get into an argument sometimes it becomes more about insulting the other person than winning the argument so sometimes my conversations do delve into that mess.

[CheerGirl38139]

Yup I do. Which is why I limit those debates to roughly 3 exchanges. It never goes in a positive direction after that. So I choose to ignore them (sometimes block them if an obvious fucktard) and walk away. :) It cracks me up how that makes them think they "won" and/or revert to saying "feminazi" when I'm nothing close to that. Just shows how weak-minded they are. In your case I did block you on that take, because I could see you weren't planning to stop. But I unblocked you when I realized that you're not a fucktard, you were just being an ass at the time. :) I can see now that you simply need to slow down and try not to make such ASSumptions about users having only seen one or two posts. Also, as I advised that girl above, NEVER take a user's word for their opinion of some other user here. Check them out for yourself. You may just find out that the one that you listened to, was actually the fucktard to begin with. ;)

[hlab3]

@CheerGirl38139 my whole thing was that I find it cowardly for people to block others, because they didn't like what they were saying. I didn't find that guy's comment to be harassment in any way, and it seemed like he was just trying to give out his opinion and you felt the need to block him. It's cowardly.

[CheerGirl38139]

@hlab3 I didn't block him in this take girl. It was Bobby that I blocked and it was like a year ago. I think you've incorrectly read the entire scenario. As I said, and will say again, I don't block people for disagreeing with me ✌ He still cries about it.

[hlab3]

@CheerGirl38139 oh I see, I apologize for misreading.

[CheerGirl38139]

@hlab3 no apology necessary. I was simply pointing out that I'm neither a feminist, nor did I block anyone in this thread. I blocked Bobby months and months ago, and for some reason, he's still upset about it. I'd never give an Internet stRanger that sort of power. I agree that hit and run blocking is chicken shit. I don't do it. But I will block people when I see them repeatedly being ass hats, whether to me or someone else. Simply bc I have no time or desire to deal with those types. ✌

[hlab3]

@CheerGirl38139 Ah, I understand. Thank you for clarifying, dear :)

[Bandit74]

Self-worth is determined by the individual, but other people will have different criteria for determining your worth as a potential romantic partner. Just like women will commonly use a man's height or the number of dollars in his bank account as part of his overall desirability as a romantic partner, some men will use a woman's number of sexual partners to determin part of her overall value as a romantic partner. It's not really just men either, there a plenty of women who have no interest in settling down with a manwhore.

Just from a standpoint of difficulty, I do think being modest is more impressive/respectable than being a slut. Its pretty easy for women to rack up a large number even if they aren't particularly attractive. It doesn't take a lot of effort to convince a guy to fuck you without expecting him to pay to take you on dates or commit to you. Avoiding temptation and getting a guy to actually invest in you is actually more difficult.

Now if you want to talk about slut means based on how the word is actually used, it just means not girlfriend material. Sure the dictionary says its a woman with "many" sexual partners but many is never quantified.

Bassically every guy has a personal tolerance for what kind of sexual history and or behavior that he is willing to accept in a serious romantic partner. Some guys are willing to tolerate more than others, but most have some sort of line that beyond which they would lose attraction towards a girl. Any girl who falls outside of that guy's personal tolerance is a slut. Some guys are fine as lone as she is in the single digits, for others, any girl who has had sex outside of a relationship even once is a slut. Sometimes it can even be a girl who sends nudes or dresses in revealing clothes. There really isn't any consistency.

The common deniminator is "not relationship material" because that is exactly what is being implied when a guy calls a girl a slut. He is saying "based on your sexual history/how you act, I fund you unnatractive as a romantic partner and wouldn't want you as a girlfriend".

[CisScum]

Girls can sleep around all they want, I mean im not gonna respect them, but they can sleep around all they want. BUT, if they start passing STD's around then that's a problem and I bet plenty of sluts do have at least one STD.

[BubbleBoy69]

Studies show 1 in 4 women who have had at least 3 or more sexual partners has had an STD in the past.

[CisScum]

@BubbleBoy69 yuck, but those STD's can be curable like crabs or chlamydia I'm guessing. When someone starts passing around herpes and aids, that's when it's fucked up.

[BubbleBoy69]

HSV-1 associate with kissing on lips. HSV-2 with genital contact orignally. However, due to oral sex practice HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be cause for oral and genital herpes. However, in general more than likely HSV-1 for oral and HSV-2 for genital. HSV-1 are more common and high incidence in children and increase prevelance for it with age. This is due to people with oral herpes when the virus is activated kissing children causing them to get it. HSV-2 is present more so during sexual active stage and tends to have a much higher incidence with increase age. HSV-2 is more common in women than in men. However, HSV-2 has a high incidence for reactivation in men.

[CisScum]

@BubbleBoy69 ya I knew herpes on the mouth, I mean in other words a cold sore, is treatable but genital herpes is disgusting.

[BubbleBoy69]

Not exactly treatable the virus has a way to keep coming back because it can go into incubation in the sacral gangion (HSV-2) and trigeminal gangion (HSV-1) for oral and when it becomes reactivated again (stress, immunocompromised etc), travel back along the same route it use to get there and create ulceration in the region. HSV-2 is also dangerous as it can cause miscarriages in offsprings.

[CisScum]

@BubbleBoy69 thankfully I've never had any and I'll keep it that way.

[anonymous2501]

STD's aside how on earth does it make a woman less worthy of respect to have many sexual partners? How could you possibly know what the woman's circumstances are? I know women who sleep with lots guys... where ALL of the guys surpass standards of many husbands and boyfriends I regularly encounter. NOTE: I am not promiscuous myself so I can honestly say I am not trying to justify or exploit here. I am simply making observations about your assumptions.

[John_Doesnt]

"It's my hot body, I do what I want". That's what Cartman said sarcastically. Those women should feel stupid for seriously saying something that Cartman said sarcastically.

[OfDeath]

Lol there's a full fat bitch in the march. #outofplace

[Ironlak282]

I agree with the sign.