What age were you when you had your first sexual experience, what did you do?

[DanielleB23]

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend was 15 and I was 16 and it was, unlike with a lot of people, a great experience. We were lucky enough to have the time and privacy that we needed and it was great.

We lived in a small town in Michigan. My gfd's parents lived on an inland lake and they would throw a huge party every Independence Day. A Bar-b-q. Softball and darts and chatting on the lake. People would go out on boats on the dock and water ski or you would go swimming. Inside they set up a small mini-casino with a roulette wheel. It was a big event.

Then, after dark, people would take their boats out to the middle of the lake, tie them together and have dancing and watch the fireworks display. After the fireworks, more dancing and a bonfire onshore.

As I say, it was a big affair. I had been to a few before my girlfriend and I started dating - my junior year, her sophomore year, in high school.

Well, that year, we took a pontoon boat out - her parents owned one - just the two of us. We went to the middle of the lake and after the dancing and fireworks, we told everyone that we were going to stay out a bit and just star gaze.

Well, it does not take a rocket scientist to figure out what happened next. One thing led to another and we had sex for the first time in our lives. Unprotected sex, I should add, as this was not planned and teenaged hormones tend not to think very much.

It was amazing and for the next few days I was sure of three things. 1) I was a MAN!!! 2) I was totally in love. 3) My girlfriend was the girl I was going to marry, get a house with a white picket fence, have children and live the rest of my life with. I mean I wanted to be with her every second!!

Then it hit me. "Hey, what if I got her pregnant." The hormones wore off, the brain kicked in. I started to try to imagine what it meant for my education and college. How would we tell our parents?

Truth be told, if I am to be honest, there was a part of me that was okay with it. I kept thinking that I would be a good dad and I could make it work. For the most part though, I started to worry and every day I would ask my girlfriend, "Did you have IT, yet?"

The "It" being her period. She got REALLY tired of my asking that question.

However, nothing to worry about. She was not pregnant and we continued to date and have sex - albeit with condoms, except for one time a year later when we did have a serious pregnancy scare - until her freshman year, my sophomore year, in college.

My memories of her are still fond. Just that going to different colleges hundreds of miles apart made us grow apart. You grow up and the teenaged hormones wear off. Suffice to add that I am now the besotted father - with my girlfriend (we don't want to be married) - of three little Munchkins and I am living happily ever after.

Still, it is funny. It was great sex and I am still sort of surprised how, even as I was having a panic attack I was open to the idea of being a teen dad if that is what fate (and my teen hormones) had decided for me. I was scared, no doubt of it, but I was sure I was meant to do it.

Overall, it was a great - if not unmixed - experience.

[Anonymous]

Long story
A friend invited me over for a sleep over I was 11 and a bit... I arrived... his mom was in a house coat but wasn't usual. we played Nintendo... at supper we sat at the kitchen table it was glass , this is when i noticed her robe was open I could see between her breast and that she didn't have any underwear on.. I could see pubic hair but not much else.. after dinner we went to his play room he had every gi joe, and the aircraft carrier... so ya it was fun... a bit later she ran a bath... and called us in the bathroom she was in the same house coat but it was all the way open... first full set breast I ever seen... she undress him and then me... I had a hard on... I was so embarrassed... but she said it was natural... washed us.. then pj and bed... she read us a story a weird story it was like a kids book but with adult themes , and then she reached and pulled out his penis and jerked him. I pretended not to see... then cleaned it up... then she asked me if I wanted her to do “it” for me... I was kinda frozen... she said it help me get to sleep... Im not sure if i said ok or if she just did it... she pulled “me” out and did it... I screamed when it happed it hurt but felt good... my friend laughed... she said it was natural that was suposta happen... cleaned me up.. and we went to sleep.. the only other note in the middle of the night I woke up went to the bathroom she one of those bathrooms that had a door to the bedroom and the hallway and the door to the bedroom was open and she was having sex with a guy he had tattoos... while having sex asked me if i was ok and too go back to sleep... went home the next day... about two months later we were in school and my friend was pulled out of class by a bunch of people in suits... and I never saw him again... I found out when I was older that she had been arrested for prostitution... it was something I never spoke for decades until it was brought up in counselling... like I pretend it didn’t happen... but it did? I don’t think I knew how to process it so i buried it

[ragequeen]

I was 19. Was a freshman in college and basically picked the first guy I kind of liked. I was a goodie two shoes and never had sex under my parents' roof. So I kinda went for it after I moved out lol. But it was terrible. He was a stoner, only cared for his pleasure and didn't respect that it hurt. He also claimed to like me but always took off the minute we were done.

[DanielleB23]

ever try something with a girl?

[Paolaa988]

14 years old and it was with a neighbor. He touched me nude and fingered me.

[Justaguy30]

Did you want it?

[Paolaa988]

Definitely

[DanielleB23]

@Paolaa988 ever been with a girl?

[CrazyGirl2]

It was my 13th birthday, I was raped by my uncle! I fought back, but eventually realized that it was futile! I just wanted it to be over!

[Justaguy30]

I'm sorry to hear that. I kinda had a similar experience.

[JessieBellll]

But you are doing well now right

[Justaguy30]

@JessieBellll kinda

[CrazyGirl2]

@JessieBellll Yes, I’m okay. 5 years of therapy, but I’m still working on it!

[CrazyGirl2]

@Justaguy30 Thanks, sorry something happened to you also.

[JessieBellll]

Though so. And people say rape destroys life

[Justaguy30]

I'm ok. And thanks

[CrazyGirl2]

@JessieBellll It DOES DESTROY LIVES! Yes, I’m doing ok… FOR SOMEONE WHO WAS RAPED, you insensitive prick! I still have nightmares, just because MY parents could afford massive amounts of therapy that has given me some tools to help deal with it, and I’M one of the lucky ones! I counsel girls after rape, who go on to kill themselves. I volunteer with women who have NEVER had a successful relationship with another human being after they were raped! Don’t you EVER minimize the effects of rape! But at LEAST you gave away the fact that you are 100% a man pretending to be a woman!

[JessieBellll]

Not having a relationship is not having a life destroyed. The fact is most people can live a decent life with memories of the incident. I think there are worse crimes. Learn to accept people's opinions little girl

[CrazyGirl2]

@JessieBellll just fuck right off to hell DUDE!

[Twalli]

This girl is always like that. My sister was raped several times, she was older than you though. She can't wear a ponytail anymore at all. I think she can have successful relationships, provided her meds don't make her suicidal. She almost had one, but his mom was an issue. She's doing as well as you are, fir mostly the same reason. A LOT of therapy.

[likelyOK]

Maybe volunteering would help me get over the feeling that is bothering me the most right now. How did you get involved?

[CrazyGirl2]

@Twalli Thanks, but in NO way is this a female! He’s likely an INCEL, angry at ALL women, because no woman will put up with his shit! Anyway, I am so sorry to hear about your sister, obviously there is nothing I could say that she likely hasn’t already tried. It’s so heartbreaking to see another life forever changed, and not for the better! I blocked @jessieBellll because there is NO way that HE could ever add anything productive to any conversation involving me! It really sucks too, of all the time I’ve been here, I’ve had several disagreements, but only ever had to block a handful of people! Please give your sister my love and best wishes. Let her know that she is never alone… I’m sure she knows all the numbers to call when she’s in crisis, but just in case she can always call RAINN at 800 656 HOPE. Thank you so much for you kind words and support.

[CrazyGirl2]

@likelyOK I did exactly what you are thinking of doing, I volunteered at my local rape crisis center. I wanted to almost immediately, but my therapist told me that I wasn’t even close to ready to help others. But if you have put in the work on getting yourself to a place where you are mentally well enough for you, then I would say absolutely! I decided to devote my life to helping others, and rather than going to medical school like my mom, I want to be a clinical psychologist specializing in helping survivors or rape and incest! I think it’s admirable that you want to give back!

[likelyOK]

Wow that’s fantastic I’m already done with my school but I still have my therapist bc my most recent rape (as appose to childhood) was on Halloween I should ask her if I’m ready to help others on this way.

[likelyOK]

Nothing weird or anything I saw u like to wait for people to dm - I had a question about it that I don’t want to post especially bc of trolls on her. If u wanna answer cool but I’m not a perv or anything I’m just looking for answers and I feel afraid to ask my friends.

[CrazyGirl2]

@likelyOK Yes you truly should. Just remember, not everyone will have a connection with Halloween, so it’s about the feelings of betrayal, if you know the person, or violation if you don’t. We all have similar feelings, although the specifics of each case will vary, the main theme of being violated will be similar in most cases. Just remember when counseling someone, it’s not about you and your experience, it’s about listening to what SHE has to say.

[likelyOK]

That’s a really good point

[Laciandmaci]

@crazygirl2 I was raped too, and I suffer bad PTSD!!! Still in therapy!

[The_Sal]

Jesus christ did you at least put that bastard in jail?

[Twalli]

It's hard to put rapists away. All of my sister's are free. Thankfully they were all stranger rapes so she still trusts her entire family. It's not good that she was raped, but there is a silver lining. Because of what happened to my sister I see rapists as the worst criminals. They should be drawn and quartered. Make people fear the reprecussions for rape so much that even hardcore rapists don't want to do it.

[likelyOK]

@The_Sal I tried but the legal system failed

[The_Sal]

@likelyOK fucking shit. sorry that happened to you.

[CrazyGirl2]

@Laciandmaci I’m so sorry that happened to you too Laci! It is FAR more common than statistics would have us believe! Just keep up the therapy. The program works, but the program only works, if you work the program! I absolutely understand the PTSD, I’m still dealing with PTSD myself. It may never go away, but given enough time, you will hopefully learn to deal with it in healthy ways! Seriously, I wish you the very best of luck! 🥰

[CrazyGirl2]

@The_Sal He killed himself before the trial!

[CrazyGirl2]

@Twalli While I understand your feelings, and they are completely valid, TBH I am glad that he didn’t murder me, at least now I get to live some like of life.

[Twalli]

I can see your point. Yet it seems rapists get more of a thrill from seeing their victims suffer and killing them would end the thrill they get from seeing a person try to repair their life.

[The_Sal]

well he knew what was ahead at least you can live now knowing he won't hurt any more relatives.

[CrazyGirl2]

@The_Sal Amen! I thank god every day that he’ll never hurt anyone else, ever again!

[likelyOK]

@The_Sal yea it’s sucks but that’s not the part that really bothers me the part that bothers me is he will now go on with no accountability and sexual assault a dozen more women if not more in his lifetime

[Laciandmaci]

@crazygirl2 best of luck to you as well!!!

[Laciandmaci]

@JessieBellll It does destroy lives it destroyed my life and @crazygirl2 life as well, along with many others!!!

[CrazyGirl2]

@Laciandmaci Laci, just don’t bother with @Jessibellll and certainly don’t be bothered by anything he says! He’s very obviously a guy! Just the way he said to me “learn to accept someone’s opinion LITTLE GIRL”! What woman would refer to another woman like that? That is definitely a MALE insult, like calling a man, “boy” they are SO obsessed with their macho manhood bullshit, they think that because THEY are insulted by being called “boy” that we are insulted by being called “girl”? Seriously? We call our friends “girls” like “it’s girls night out”, or “hey girl, what’s up”? So just don’t give him any attention at all! Trolls feed on attention, they crave it. Also I wanted to let you know that even though Jessiebellll is a man, and honestly doesn’t care about what happened to us, I appreciate what you said! Seeing you stand up for me meant a lot! I sometimes forget how important it is to have an ally. Also, I’ve decided to start going back to therapy… I thought that after 5 years & especially now that I’m counseling others that I’d be fine without it, but… well you understand exactly what I mean 😢.

[Laciandmaci]

Yes I fully understand!!! I am gonna follow you, we can be friends? Since we both went through hell!!!

[CrazyGirl2]

@Laciandmaci 100 percent, yes! Feel free to message me any time.

[Laciandmaci]

@crazygirl2 same to you!!!

[purplepoppy]

Intercrural sex at 13

[purplepoppy]

It's a thighjob

[Justaguy30]

Oh. Got it. didn't want to Google it. Lol

[HugoThe2nd]

I received a blowjob from an upperclassman I had a crush on while partying with some of my friends as a 14 year old.
Embarrassing and booze fueled at the time, but turned out she had a crush on me for a while too, so we ended up dating.

[TheorionMage]

My first tacit voluntary sexual experience occurred at age 5.

Being of a lower income household, little EVER got summarily thrown away. On my bed lay two worn satin-covered comforters sewn back to back; in affect, a silken sleeping bag when one of the short ends came unsewn. I came to realize that I could undress and upon entering INSIDE the satin-lined comforters, I could guiltlessly slip and slide around this womb-like enclosure. The sensual skin-to-satin tactile experience shamelessly provoked my earliest penile arousals that felt REAL GOOD!

I was one happy little Heathen until my Mom lain the Christian Sinner concupscient 'guilt trip' upon me.
Then, later my paternal GrandMother and GodMother took a vacation to San Franscio's 'China Town' and returned with a juvenile 'chinaman' red satin set of pajamas as a souvenir for me. Once again Happy little Heathen with a tumescent 'woodie' at 5!

[ChrisMaster69]

10, then 11 and finally 13.

[MCheetah]

I was ten and it was a Snoop Dogg video with big booty bitches. I think that was my very first boner.

[Brutus977]

15, ate that pussy got a bj. Two weeks later all the way.

[Blaaam87]

16 and regret being to at young !

[TheCunningLinguist]

I was 15. She was my little sisters 18 years old babysitter. She was the first woman I had ever given oral to or had penetrative sex with. The later was only 25 minutes because neither of us had a condom or wanted her pregnant.

[TonyV]

29 . . . Still a virgin tho . . .

[modelUN242]

Not yet

[abc3643]

What do you mean by first "sexual experience"?
Is a kiss not among family members or out of politeness a "sexual experience"?
Is masturbating a "sexual experience"?
Is playing doctor with the girl next door a "sexual experience"?

[BlacklightShade]

negative nine months, during conception.

[The_Maphio]

I was 16, and had the full course.
Internet taught me everything, and I was a fan of amateur porn at the times already.
I was half decent, I think. She had fun.

[ShadezMcgee]

Depends on what we are counting as a sexual experience. Something simple as kissing or are we getting into the actual act of sex itself?

If the former is the question in context, 19 when I had my first kiss. Then if the latter, 25 when I actually had sex for the first time.

[buddysboy16]

15 when I got my first blowjob. 17 when I actually had sex

[EyYoCandice]

My first sex is at 12 first masturbation is at 9

[Brownbored]

Sooooo thing like nearly impossible

[Brownbored]

Soooo young*

[Sevenpointfive]

around 9. my moms friends would babysit me and give me blowjobs. it was a fun game. then it seemed like a party when more and more came over to babysit one kid. everyone seemed happy

[Bricealan]

19. Mutual masturbation, some oral, (not much) and eventually penetration, but not much pumping, (thrusting) and I don't think I ejaculated then

[mk200195]

I first had consensual sex at the age of 22 with my girlfriend at the time. It was pretty great and we both had a lot of fun.