What am I doing wrong when it comes to a bj with boyfriend?

The last guy I've managed to make arrive everytime but for some reason my boyfriend won't. I don't know if it's because he's my boyfriend and I feel I don't have to be as nasty with it or if I just lost my skills. I haven't given a guy a bj in a long time before him.

What can I do to be better at it?
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  • Rather than a long "how to", here are some suggestions.
    *Begin with a gentle erotic massage to get him hard and wet.
    *Always build sexual tension; never stopping or pausing
    *The best BJ is stroke and suck. Concentrate your mouth at the glans (head) and stroke the shaft. Going way down on him with your mouth is a waste of motion and we don't feel much below the glans.
    *The closer he is to orgasm (thrusting, deep breathing) the faster you stroke.
    *When ejaculation begins, cease all mouth motion and just suck only while you stroke vigorously to the last squirt.

    • Thanks!

    • Reading other posts; mostly Pterodon's, Once he is warmed up from the erotic massage, the main event should take under 15 minutes; maybe WAY under. Although I don't speak for everyone, any man who can reach orgasm from PIV, should cum easily from a skilled BJ. Those who don't cum are partly an issue of technique. But he has to do his part by opening his mind to it, including streaming fantasies if he needs so.

    • Ok thanks!

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  • Ask him for explicit instructions. Have him suck your finger the way he wants you to suck his dick

    • Ok thanks!

    • Be aware it’s really hard for some guys to cum that way no matter what you do

    • Ok well that makes me feel a lot better.

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  • Nothing. Some men can't climax that way. Doesn't mean that3 don't enjoy it.

  • I have had to teach and give pointers to a lot of the girls I have been with so its common.

  • Have you asked him this?

    • No. It's hard talking to him about sex when he's not drunk.

    • What does that even mean?

    • He's not one to be open about sex unless he's drunk is what it means.

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  • Hard to know what u need to improve on until I know what u r doing.

    • Well I am sucking on it and slobbering on it like I've seen on pornos... maybe I just don't go long enough. I lick, like I'm licking a popsicle up and down and sucking it like my life depends on it. I just don't go too deep because I seem to have a gag reflex now where I didn't before.

    • Happy to chat if u want, drop me a message

  • If you send me a message, I will offer my ideas.

    • Okay

  • U must always swallow

  • cut your tongue out and fry it then eat it and cut your lips off and flush it down the toilet and add nails to your teeth or make them jagged

  • Many guys have stated that they just can't get off from a BJ. It takes intercourse for them to climax. But regardless, You shouldn't go deep enough to feel like you're choking or gagging

    • Okay I was thinking I had to deepthroat it.

    • A lot of guys like this kind of thing, but you should never believe you that you have to put yourself into this kind of discomfort just to please a guy who wants this

    • Okay and he never said he did. I just assumed that that's what all guys like.