What are signs a guy is dominant/likes to control in bed?

I feel like guys sometimes act dominant during sex because they think the girl likes it (which I definitely do.) But what do guys who really LIKE being dominant and in control do during sex? My current boyfriend grabs my face when we kiss, pulls my hair from the top of my head, stares at my face when we f*ck, spanks me, puts his hand on my throat, and teases me (he will stop or start going reallt slowly and ask me “what do you want” and he knows I get embarrassed by it). And he usually does these things in variations of missionary, I assume so that he can look at my face.
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  • First off, what he is doing is wrong, there is no sign of informed consent, yeah you might like it.

    however it’s a bit like Tea.

    Lifestyle Dominant side of things is not just the bedroom, it’s outside of it as well.

    especially as foreplay often starts hours before you actually get to bed, it can be on the way to the restaurant, during the meal, on way back home, all times it’s foreplay and building up that suggestion and anticipation.

    that is the key thing, having the other person start to anticipate from suggestions.

    The idea is to start to trigger endorphins and dopamine as a reward of opiates / candy for the brain.

    This can be pain or pleasure or fear and subtle mixes of all 3.

    not everyone is the same.

    Anyone that thinks dominance is just for the bedroom and depends on physical attributes does not understand how Dominance works.

    Also, everyone is different, I can’t treat girl A the same as Girl B, as one may like being spanked but the other does not, but she does like being degraded.

    this is why talking about stuff is so important, especially when you head deeper into the dark….

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  • Try to switch/suggest being in control for a change.
    Someone who actually wants control won't be very comfortable with the idea at all and will either be reluctant or reject the offer altogether, whereas someone who is just pleasing their partner won't have any issues switching.

    Alternatively, upping the ante would probably put-off someone who is just accommodating.
    Someone like that would hesitate to spit on, verbally insult or slap their partner, but someone who is into control would potentially get even more turned on by such a request.

    One is approaching a boundary of what they are comfortable with, but a real dominant doesn't see it that way.
    The switch doesn't "get it" that it's not actually abuse.

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  • It can only be witnessed in the bed.

    Mostly the guy with masculine face cut, full growth of hairs on his body, thick dark pubic hairs, broad shoulders, broad chest, Manly voice, walks with authority, having an attitude of a problem solver.

    Clean shaven or bearded doesn't matter.
    Education and money and age don't matter.

    If he can stroke harder, longer, repeatedly then he is the guy.

  • That does sound pretty dominant and rough also. When I become dominant in bed I tell her what to do, throw her around, pin her down to the bed, pull on hair not to hard, stare in her eyes and do it mostly missionary or Doggystyle.

  • Different guys have different preferences

  • U wouldn’t know just by seeing a guy in public. It’s when u get him behind closed doors. Haha.

  • When he is taking full control

  • Have a kink or liking sex rough nothing to get embarrassed about especially with your boyfriend. Slow down to stop himself from Cumming or make sure he doing what you like sex all about communication better it is more satisfying be for both of you.

  • He likes role play. If that was his nature he wouldn't ask you what you want.

  • I like when we are both comfortable taking turns being in control. Helps to keep things spicy in the relationship.

  • I do all those things with my wife (except the throat thing), she loves it. I had another partner who loved to have sex in tight bondage. I was happy to oblige her. Best sex ever for me.