You mean you can't bring yourself to orgasm when you run your clit and other things?
Are you nicely relaxed and aroused when you start masturbating yourself @JuneLady?
Perhaps you should do it late at night, after a nice warm shower, with the lights down low, laying naked on your bed, legs spread sensually, eyes closed, picturing images in your mind of sexual memories and/or fantasies, and consciously be aware of - "feel" - the physical sexual sensations in your clitoris & vagina as you rub and finger yourself
Might that help you?
That's sort of what I do, but the sensations are only moderate
How about during sexual foreplay, can you cum from oral pleasuring or sexual 'massage' by your partner? do you only orgasm from penis-vaginal penetrative sexual lovemaking?
* Or do you only...
1. Use a finger on each side of your clit, and roll your hood up and down just like the foreskin of a penis.
2. Use your thumb and middle finger. Orient your thumb (boulder) under your clitoris (bus), like a boulder propping up the broad side of a bus. Now, use your middle finger to rub your hood, thus applying pressure towards your clitoris against your thumb.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I had a similar problem, for me it was just about a state of mind. When I started seeing masturbation as enjoying myself instead of not having anyone else around to make me cum, it helped.
It was about finding myself sexy and getting to enjoy all of my body.
Stop. stressing out. about it.
That's the reason why you can't finish. Cortisol (stress hormone) is blocking your dopamine receptors as well as preventing creation of other hormones as oxytocin or phenethylamine (love hormones).
You're thinking too much about it and putting too much pressure on yourself. Relax.
Roleplay I swear by roleplay if you can role-play things out it just gets more intense phone sex is one of the hottest feelings in the world if you do it with the right person it's all about energy I guarantee you when you're done you will say to that person if it is the right person you will say that was better than sex okay so that's hard to believe right but I guarantee you we will say it or try this sitting on your bed up against the headboard have your boyfriend or whoever face you j and get ass cheek to ass cheek put your legs over each other and start masturbating that also is very so very hot and sexy a lot of other things you can do to enhance a that feeling if you want to make it really intense start learning about your energy and learning out of touch with it you will have to have an orgasm at least two to three times a day what's up beautiful it feels
Use a shower head, pillow or furniture.
learn to really let go... also have you tried edging?
What do you fantasize about if you don't mind me asking. You should justl try different things such as, 3 some, anal, bondage, role play, choking, whatever you can think of. You can even live stream yourself masterbating or having sex with your boyfriend, and the best part, you can make money while doing it. I have a friend that has a swing in her bedroom it's crazy! You should try stopping before you orgasim a few times then climax.
Its all about mood and atmosphere taking your time and relaxing
Clear your mind and relax. Think of something that turns you on. Don’t feel rushed and don’t get discouraged. You will learn your body better.
Use your elbows.
Explain
The elbow is the most sensitive part of the body.
Huh, really?
Remember, the G-spot is in and up. You can use fingers to get to it or a toy but working on it and the clitoris should send you where you want to be.
Try exsploring your body to fond out your the only 1 who can figure out what you like
I’m surprised no girls answered this. 🤔
To be honest here masturbation will never feel as good and sex does. Except with sex from guys who only want to cum and they do not worry if the girl has an orgasm or not. I am sure your boyfriend is not one of those guys. So truthfully, you are trying to recreate that feeling of bliss that you get from being with him. If sex were just about an orgasm then masturbation would be a top priority by most people.
Self masturbation will not give you what you get from being with someone. You can not share an experience just with yourself and it be as good as an experience shared with someone else.
The closest you can get, and I do this all of the time is to masturbate with someone. What I mean is you masturbating for someone and they masturbating for you. Neither of you touching the other person, only yourself. This can also be good foreplay with your boyfriend. Now, masturbating becomes more about orgasming for someone else and not so much about you. (and the same for them) So that you are sharing that experience with someone and not just doing it just for you.
Set the mood take your time it's about enjoying the moment not just getting off.
I can't seem to set the mood for myself. Dim candlelight? Romantic music? I'm not a narcissist
All of that need to chill have fun with it get to know your body
I guess I have a hard time being "chill" any tips for that?
Masturbation can be tricky. It’s about getting in and staying in the right head space while also figuring out the right combination of physical and mental stimulation... keep experimenting with different kinds of stimulation including auditory, smell, visual, and use your hands to explore your whole body to discover your erogenous zones
Try it in front of a mirror, and watch that naughty girl playing with her pussy.
Sexting? Watching/listening to erotica?
Sexting partners are terribly unintelligent, and roleplaying isn't my thing. Erotica sometimes helps, but mostly the author is too dumb and the topic all wrong.
Just have sex, there’s nothing like it anyway...
You need an intelligent sexting partner, it could’ve a lot of fun!
Put your middle two fingers inside.
Use the palm of your hand to rub your clit as you finger yourself.
try with a friend
Is that different from just sex?
Do you take your time instead of rushing
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