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What are the best ways for women to initiate sex with their male partners?

My boyfriend and I rarely have sex anymore. He’s stated many times that he feels as though I don’t initiate enough and he feels as though every time we have sex it’s because he wants to. I certainly don’t want him to feel that way and honestly I feel like I have a pretty high sex drive myself. Like I often times want sex daily, I just don’t even know how to approach initiating it. I was in a pretty abusive relationship previously and without getting into all of the details of that - it is difficult for me to feel confident initiating sexual intimacy. Women - what are your favorite ways to initiate sex with your male partner? And men- how would you prefer for your female partner to initiate? Any advice at all helps. 😊

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  • Probably you don't know how to initiate that because of the role you take. I assume you take a passive role, meaning that you try to seduce him indirectly, or try to get innocent contact like hugs, until he "wakes up" and starts doing everything by himself.
    Try reasoning more like a guy or someone in a dominating role: what if in a situation of dim light you take your boyfriend, kiss him against a wall with a horny mood and when you detect he got possibly horny too you touch his pack and direct him to the bedroom with your body? Or what if you are about to sleep and you hug him while progressively shifting on top of him, kiss him and rub yourself on his pants?
    Most of the sexuality starts from kisses, hugs etc. You don't randomly go undressing your partner if there isn't the context or the mood. But you can kiss and hug the partner if there isn't the mood yet, instead, and create the mood by making kisses and hugs erotic instead of affective. Erotic kisses are a thing.
    And guys, like, every straight guy on this planet, love being passive for once (or even always), with a confident girl who knows what she wants and who intends to take it by herself.
    Now if you don't feel like you could get into such mood, maybe in your couple there are unresolved problems, communications issues that with time lead to trust issues and you both don't feel safe and free anymore. If so, then the problem is elsewhere! But believe me consider trying to make your boyfriend feel like "useful for your pleasure", he will most likely love it, guys love being the cause of female's pleasure, active or passive.

Most Helpful Girl

  • 1. Throwing your old underwear on the ground or bed

    2. Hugs from behind with some kisses, Don't make you smell strong but beautiful

    3. Harassing him is like sticking your hand in his pants from behind while hugging, Or grab his butt and pull it into your vagina

    Lay your back with his back even while undressing, Or your ass too, He will stick

    Ummm During the hand job, touch other places, Like touching the perineum and anus.

    If you feel that he is cumming, increase your activity and let him cumming hard.

    Kisses and cleaning and dry his down after cum he will enjoy

    • Invite him for a massage between both of you only you

    • Make a lot of things that are romantic and intimate and animalistic

    • It's dependent on you as his secret of his happiness

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Most Helpful Guys

  • That is easy, tie yourself to the bed, but before you do send him a message saying there is a surprise waiting for him.
    I think he will get the hint.
    Guys, or at least myself are easy tohave sex with.
    I was lucky, my wife will take a bath, put on someting sexy, cute shoes and I can take that hint, or put a couple of pairs of cute shoes by the door with a note saying pick a pair.
    It doesn't usuay take a lot of creativity to get a guys attention.
    if he is watching tv, unzip his pants and it won't take long at all.
    By now you must know what he likes, or is interested in, so use that to your advantage.

  • Message him and tell him what you want to do to his body the next time you get together. Wear sexy underware around him. Try not wearing a bra.. guys love that. If you are in the mood just look at him and tell him that sex right now (or give him a time for a sex date) would be wonderful.

    How old is he? Do you ever go for round 2?

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  • Coming from a guy, I would say to start touching when u guys are being silly or laughing. I feel like 8 times out of ten guys will go with it cause that’s how we are lol. Or also try smoking some green, get relaxed and in the mood

  • just brush your boobs against him the rest will take care of itself 🤷‍♀️

    • Or flash them 👀

  • Kiss him and while you're kissing take charge and grab his penis. He's certainly not going to complain if then you give him a blowjob. Take his clothes off of him especially if he's used to undressing himself. He'll appreciate you taking charge. Then from there try riding him instead of him being on top. He's just wanting you to take charge every now and again. He'll definitely be turned on by it.

    • awesome advice :)

  • I have t read any of the other responses, but I love it when my wife says things like:
    1) I’ve got an itch only you can scratch!
    2) let’s pretend it’s closing time and it’s just us!
    3) I’ve been thinking about you, and now I’m all wet!
    4) hi, my name’s horny. Glad to meet you!


    - and the one that always works -


    5) I need to be fucked. NOW!

  • Follow me, I'm not going to go into details on here. I'll help you anyway I can

  • Take his hand, lead him into the bedroom, push him down on the bed, climb on top and enjoy!

    Or you can do what my SO sometimes does... she says "Meet me in the bedroom" and then walks into the bedroom and lies down on the bed.

  • Hint by messaging him throughout the day or whispering in his ear.
    General physical contact, e. g. squeezing his butt.
    Wear sexy outfits/lingerie.

  • You literally just start kissing and touching him in a sexual manner.

  • Send picture of pussy with caption


    “Fuck me”

  • Direct and to the point.

    Surprises. Yell "come 'ere for a sec", and then he sees a slut wife who tackles him on the bed.

    Very gently, dim lights, battery power candles (we don't want to burn the house down).

    Maybe have "theme nights". Food night. "I only follow instructions to the letter" night.

  • I was trained to get horny for sex with a ringing bell for a while

    • 🤣🤣 I didn’t realize it was that simple

    • It can be. Like humans are animals, we can be trained to have specific reactions. I used to change my habits with self treating with snacks before too. Or maybe I’m just easily influenced 🤷‍♂️ Probably a bit of both

  • Come up behind him and grab his junk while he's standing. If he's on couch, jump on his lap and start grinding.

  • Kissing, nibble rubbing , stroking, and slowly work your way down into the blow job before sex. Thats my preheating the oven.

  • Show up at his doorstep naked with a 12-pack of beer.

  • When you want sex just ask him if he wants to have sex. That's how my girlfriend does it.

  • Wear some sexy underwear if you have any and wait on the bed for him.

    When watching something on TV, move your hand over his pants till you can wake it up abit, climb on top of him and go from there

    Do something naughty that you want to do sexually so he knows what you like

  • put your hand on his crotch...

  • Start kissing, grabbing, groping, petting?

  • Take charge grab his cock tell him sit down an comince to sucking his man til he cum den u get up on it take control to gets your to

  • get naked

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