What are the rules if any when giving oral sex?

[party_girl_4_ever]

I was giving my boyfriend oral sex when he pur his hand on the back of my head. My boyfriend is fairly big and I was already having difficulty not gagging so when he put his hand on the back of my head I freaked out. He was in my opinion too rough especially sice I couldn't use my hands and if it had been any longer I swear I would have bitten his penis. We argued afterwards and my boyfriend did not understand why I was so upset. I talked to my girlfriends; some who say I was tp be upset and some who say I overreacted and it is just part of giving oral sex. Do you think I was right or wrong? Did I overreacted? What would you have done?

[Mellissa80]

I'll be upset if I told him later that I can't take all of it and he still argue with me. Same if I ask him not to cum in my mouth then he did.

[party_girl_4_ever]

You actually tell a guy not to cum in your mouth before giving him a bj?

[Mellissa80]

Yes, and he did, he said he wanted me to tastes maybe I'll change my mind 🤦 and I left him and went to take a shower :D

[party_girl_4_ever]

You are not missing out... I hate the taste of cum

[party_girl_4_ever]

I am usually quite timid in bed and it is hard for me to speak my mind

[Mellissa80]

When I panic ( like when he cum in ) I couldn't stop myself from being upset and almost angry. Well, I feel that I should do that but it happened :D

[Mellissa80]

Shouldn't

[party_girl_4_ever]

I could see why you would be upset especially when he hasn't listened to what you asked

[party_girl_4_ever]

I paniced mostly because we had just decided to try bdsm for the first time and my hands were tied behind my back

[Mellissa80]

I would like to experence that, but should be after some practice on deep throat, not BOOOM like how your boyfriend did. Sorry for what happened but, have fun girl :D

[TacosRAwesome]

Bite them if they do anything stupid.

[party_girl_4_ever]

I almost did.

[party_girl_4_ever]

It took all my willpower not to

[TacosRAwesome]

You go girl :)

[party_girl_4_ever]

Thanks. We were trying bondage (ie. my hands were tied behind back) at my boyfriends suggestion so he should be really grateful I did not bite him down there...

[TacosRAwesome]

Exactly :) did he make u breakfast?

[party_girl_4_ever]

No he did not

[TacosRAwesome]

Oh that sucks :/

[party_girl_4_ever]

Yeah ☹

[MlleCake]

You are always right to set your own boundaries about your own body. I don't trust men who push heads down without asking if that is ok first.

[party_girl_4_ever]

I have to be more forceful. It is my body and I make the rules. I agree about not trusting any guy who would just push your head down

[MlleCake]

So, put your rules in writing and send him an e-mail if it helps.

[MlleCake]

AND your hands were tied? That's BS. You can't do that to a person who is restrined like that. I promise you, he would not make the same sacrifice for you.

[party_girl_4_ever]

You are right he would definetly not do the same thing for me

[Shar279]

You're not overreacting at all. Talk to him, I personally don't like it and if a guy tries to push my head down I stop. Tell him you'll only do it when you feel comfortable enough to.

[party_girl_4_ever]

I talked to my best friend and she said the same thing; she stops as soon a guy tries to push her head down

[VaIiant]

I don’t think you overreacted, unless his hand was simply there and didn’t apply pressure or force you to take more.
If his hand was there to force you to deepthroat, I’d be fucking pissed. No one should have that control over me, especially since as a woman I naturally have less muscle mass and can’t resist properly, especially while in that position. Not okay. I’d have a serious talk with him.

[party_girl_4_ever]

his hand was there to force me to deepthroat and I was suitably pissed especially since I could not use my hands... I do plan on having a serious talk with him

[VaIiant]

How long have you two been dating?

[party_girl_4_ever]

about a year but we have only seriously been dating a few months

[VaIiant]

His lack of willingness to understand why you were upset raises some red flags for me. When he put his hand there did you communicate non verbally you didn’t want him to do so? And what do you mean couldn’t use your hands?

[party_girl_4_ever]

I did communicate non-verbally I didn't want his there and he did stop. We were experimenting with bondage (BDSM) and I had my hands tied behind my back.

[TaliaArden]

Depends if you like it or not and whether he knows it. If he rests his hand there it's okay but if he's just forcing your head down without consent then that's just wrong

[BillieJean1070]

Rule #1 is don't use your teeth.

[party_girl_4_ever]

so true 😊

[party_girl_4_ever]

What is rule #2?

[BillieJean1070]

#2 No spitting.

[party_girl_4_ever]

@BillieJean1070 You swallow everytime?

[brie7789]

Girl if you don’t feel comfortable just say to him! You don’t need to do anything that you don’t want to. BJs can still be so much fun for both of you without deep throat

[party_girl_4_ever]

I have never given a bj before that did not involve deep throating

[KiaTate]

You're not overreacting sometimes I don't like having my head pushed down farther.

[party_girl_4_ever]

but sometimes you do?

[KiaTate]

Yes. 😅

[party_girl_4_ever]

Sorry I know my last question was awkward...

[KiaTate]

It's ok. I've been asked weirder/awkward questions.

[Batfangrlly]

Your boyfriend should respect your limits. You were not overreacting.

[party_girl_4_ever]

I knew I was not overreacting.

[CypriotSicilian92]

Don’t be a pussy when eating pussy and I don’t like it when it’s gentle.

[party_girl_4_ever]

harsh much?

[CypriotSicilian92]

I’m just telling the truth.

[CypriotSicilian92]

Plus have girlfriend better then my ex boyfriends.