What are you realistically looking for when casual , dating, marriage,?

[Justneedtokno]

The knight in shining armor/ woman in the street/ porn star?

[msc545]

I am realistically looking not to do any of this as it is simply too dangerous for men, at least regarding marriage, since women have weaponized the legal system against men, and the courts are filled with Judges who are White Knights and will readily ruin men in favor of women.

In regard to dating, this too is very dangerous for men, since women have the option to ruin your life with one phone call to police alleging some sexual crime, and you will be arrested, charged, tried, and almost certainly convicted. Even if you are acquitted, you are still very likely to lose your job, your friends, your money, your reputation, your family if you have one, and many other things.

[FilmGuy93]

Casual - A playful, girly, fuckdoll who has the confidence to say what she wants and needs.

Dating - Must be confident. Can be less physically attractive but must have a nice personality and be intelligent.

Marriage - The same as dating, except at a way higher standard. Must also prove that she is a hard worker, disciplined, and spiritually attuned.

[Justneedtokno]

I like how you broke it into categories

[FilmGuy93]

Sure thing! Three categories because those are three calibers of women.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lmao. You care about spirituality in a wife, but you're not even spiritual yourself.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs what makes you say that?

[Jamie05rhs]

Because you're having casual sex.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs actually one of the thing I make a point of doing in all of my intimate relationships is being a spiritually fulfilling lover. That includes casual partners.

[Jamie05rhs]

"spiritually fulfilling lover"... Okay. You and I must have much different interpretations of the word "spiritual."

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs okay. So what’s your idea of spirituality? What’s your view on that sort of thing?

[Jamie05rhs]

@FilmGuy93 To me, spirituality is how we relate to God.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs is there an interpersonal element to that, or is it just between you and god?

[Jamie05rhs]

@FilmGuy93 Sure, you can have a spiritual connection with another person. But it won't be healthy unless you're both connected to God. Because God is the source of true Peace.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs do you think a man and woman can be connected sexually and emotionally in a way that brings them closer to god, or does that only happen in long-term monogamous relationships?

[Jamie05rhs]

@FilmGuy93 Great question. I do not think that you can become closer to God through an activity that is not grounded in love. If two people are just having sex without any kind of commitment, that is a relationship based in chaos -- not order. God (the supreme deity) represents order and balance and peace.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs so I guess you totally reject the idea that people can have casual sex and also love each other. That whole idea must just sound like medical grade copium

[Jamie05rhs]

@FilmGuy93 Correct. That isn't love.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs I think that’s probably true for most people, but I also think there are people who genuinely take time and to learn about and adore their partners, such that they can have a genuinely loving casual arrangement. I hate seeing how many people treat the people they have sex with such hostility; it’s really sad.

[Jamie05rhs]

@FilmGuy93 I would call that respect. But not love. Love just has a higher threshold for me.

[FilmGuy93]

@Jamie05rhs fair enough

[Ryle96]

Great personality and someone who I can connect with and settle down.

[NathanDavis]

I've never had casual sex before

[ShadezMcgee]

Casual- woman that is good looking, fun to be around and has a tolerable personality that you can scratch that sexual itch with. Able to spend a couple hours with at a given time.

Dating- woman looks nice, has attractive qualities, intelligence, confidence, has goals that she wants to reach in life, understands or is learning how to deal with her flaws, needs to be someone you can spend a lot of time with or want to spend a lot of time with when available

Marriage- same as the dating to a degree, but the focus shifts to shared values, goals, family growth, and wanting to share the journey of life and growth together and encompasses the qualities from the dating

[AviatorTom]

When I was much younger and single, I was looking for a girl to have fun with and have regular sex. When I got a little older, I wanted to settle down, and I was looking for (and found) a girl with similar goals as mine. After 20+ years of marriage and 3 kids, that ended amicably. Now that I'm older, I'm looking for (and found) a woman to share experiences with, which includes traveling to places we've never been to. To be honest, sex now is nice but it's not that important.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

A woman who is real has a kind heart and loves to cuddle, kiss, hug, etc.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Marriage, with a talented artist who is also great at hard video games and building computers, and is a huge nerd/geek for science, figures, epic music scores, anime/cartoons, cosplay, robots, animals, sci-fi, and fantasy.

[Grond21]

Marriage, best friend and teammate

[UnknownSwede]

A nice girl that I get along with and enjoy spending time with.

[Jamie05rhs]

The girl next door

[Jamie05rhs]

So many people that saw this as three different categories... 🙄 Like you use different women for different things. 😑

[Philyouup]

i’m looking to see who lights my fire. i go from there

[legalboxers]

at my age.. my forever person

[KrakenAttackin]

I never "casually dated". I never asked a woman out unless I had potential long term interest in her. I think casually dating is the domain of women and Chad's.

[Anonymous]

Mainly someone to have kids with.