What are your opinions guys?

[Anonymous]

I am 25 years old and it's been three years since i am married, and now i wants kids honestly i have talked about it with my husband and he seemed to doesn't want kids at least for now, he said that he wanna explore things for now, he wanna visit different places with me and wanna explore his other sexual desires, he isn't ready for kids and he thinks i am asking for kids too soon

Is he right? or he never want kids?

He said he wants kids but not now and he also that it will destroy our sexual life so he doesn't want kids now, he just want to have fun

[Boromir]

I don’t know the rest of your situation but the only friends I have that had kids around 25 are the ones that had an accident. I can see his reasonings and don’t find them extreme, yours neither though if it’s something you want. My personal opinion would be to give him until you’re 30, this way you’re still in your healthy fertile years. Your life _will_ change significantly and it won’t be all the time easy as today.

There’s no way knowing now for sure how he’ll act in the future, he could change his mind tomorrow as well as in 5y or he could even never want kids and have a vasectomy behind your back, who knows. Give him a reasonable time limit but prepare mentally for a hard choice when you’re 30, if kids is important you might need to look around for another partner.

[DonkeyDan]

Maybe you should set some goals to do the things he's talking about like the travel etc. Once the kids come along that is going to be a lot harder and some travel tyoes not possible. It sounds realistic that he wants to wait and experience things now while you are still young and have kids in a few years. Wasn't this something you discussed before marriage?

[Anonymous]

Well I mean he said he wants kids, just right now. One thing you may want to clarify with him is when will he be ready. Like I understand him wanting to just have time for yourselves before kids, that makes sense. But the problem is him saying you sex life will be destroyed and he wants to explore your desires, so is he always going to feel that way? Will he keep putting off parenthood out of fear that the sex will be ruined? This is where the issue comes in.

[Anonymous]

He has point but simultaneously your wish is genuine. You can wait sometime more, say one year. I conceived, with the consent of my husband, after about five years of marriage. He had same arguments as you hear, i. e. exploring more and more sexual venues.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHG.

[Zebadee88]

Errrr. This is the conversation for before marriage

[joeldalton]

He says he wants kids. Take him at his word. Enjoy some time as a couple, first. Build that relationship.