Guys, what can a woman put on a dating site profile to make herself more attractive / more likely of you messaging her?

[Anonymous]

I like to travel. I'm intellectual. I am artist, love doing photography. I own my own business. I am family-focused, I look after my parents right now (would be children later). I love to cook. I love a variety of hobbies including hiking or just relaxing with a movie or book & a cup of tea. Enjoy good conversations. Have an excellent sense of humor. I am self sufficient - I know more about cars than my brother, do home repairs, etc.

The reason why I am trying a dating site is the local men are... drugs, welfare, sleeping around, and alcoholism is quite common here. It's not a good town & the only reason why I'm here is family / job.

[OlderAndWiser]

Main things you can do is to make sure you don't sound like a high maintenance girl, and to make it sound like you aren't overly judgmental/condescending/extremely picky. I have see profiles that said "I'm not interested in dating unless you have absolutely white teeth," or "not interested unless you earn at least $100K per year," or "not interested unless you are at least 6'2" tall." Really!

[Asker]

I wrote my summary do I sound like any of the nonsense you posted?

[OlderAndWiser]

"I like to travel." That will sound like high maintenance to many guys your age. "I'm intellectual." That will put off gys who consider themselves to be anything less than intellectual. "I am artist, love doing photography." Those are good. "I own my own business." That's a great thing but if a guy is working in an unglamorous 8-5 job, he may be intimidated by the fact that you are successful. "I am family-focused, I look after my parents right now (would be children later). I love to cook. I love a variety of hobbies including hiking or just relaxing with a movie or book & a cup of tea. Enjoy good conversations. Have an excellent sense of humor." All good! "I am self sufficient - I know more about cars than my brother, do home repairs, etc." All good but some may perceive those as unfeminine traits.

[Asker]

How the hell is travel high maintenance? That will put off guys who consider themselves to be anything less than intellectual. > Good. Why would I want to be bored? That's a great thing but if a guy is working in an unglamorous 8-5 job, he may be intimidated by the fact that you are successful. > Good. Why would I want to bother myself with someone with no drive and who is so petty as to be jealous of others' success?

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck!

[Guy13]

You might be a little intimidating to a guy🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

That's what I am wondering lol. I don't have many white guys approach but other ethic groups sure.

[Guy13]

Not all people are goal-setters and high achievers. And most people are startled by Ability especially if the Able one operates outside of the Norm or Conventional ways. Don’t get mad at them or internalize their misplaced assumptions. I get you 💪. At my age, it is not so odd. People admire it. In the internet world, as well as inexperienced, the unexplainable acres them. They can’t help it. I don’t know how old you are BUT from my personal experience, people catch-up at 25ish 🙃🙃 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

thanks, much appericated

[Guy13]

I hope I don’t sound snooty but people, especially socially confirmed and territorial media folks, are that way. You are blessed with hobbies, skills, and ability to multitask. “I’m jealous”…not really 👍

[HighValue]

Pictures of the hobbies you'd enjoy doing together.

[In_Trance]

I think you need to hold back a little. You make it sound like you're so involved with everything that you're not going to have time to date anyone.

[Asker]

Like what, suggestions please?

[In_Trance]

Pick two or three of those points and leave it at that

[Asker]

Should I focus more on personality do you think? I am trying to be interesting but not terrifying.

[In_Trance]

Take out the part about traveling and the part about home improvement for starters. They could be talking points later on.

[Hard9]

Don't tell so much
It's kinda sexy when you're humble and quiet

[Asker]

Not to successful men, inferior men sure.